Hebaume, I take my kids everywhere I go. There's lots of kids at the stations of the cross at my parish, so I don't feel the least bit uncomfortable with kids of any age there. We do take our kids to adoration as well, and that's sometimes a little more difficult. We only go for half an hour almost every week, and there's music to sing along with, but my kids (now 0 and 3) are the only ones in there. It's kinda like taking kids to Mass... I try to keep them from bothering people too much, but it's more important that they get the chance to be with Jesus, and when they're there all the time, they learn how to behave.
Mylilmonkeys, tough questions! I have wondered how to celebrate my daughter's menarche with her even though I have about a decade to go, but I really haven't come up with any answers. Maybe a long conversation, going for a walk or out for ice cream with Mom, a discussion of the gift of fertility, maybe a large chunk of the "birds and the bees" discussion, maybe some early fertility charting information if she is interested. I guess a lot of what I say would have to do with what has been said before. I'd love to do something that would help to acknowledge that she's a woman now, no longer a little girl, maybe pointing towards vocation and an invitation to begin discernment or to grow into a more adult-like faith.
AnnieA, that's tough! Prayers for you as you discern your family size. I don't have any children with disabilities at this point (at least not ones that have shown up yet), so I have little room to speak, but I know it's always a possibility to have a child with disabilities. I've been told by someone who had no right to say it that I should seriously consider not having any kids since there are a number of genetic disorders in my family, and it seems like almost every big Catholic family I know has at least one child who has some issues of one kind or another, so I sometimes wonder if it's only a matter of time. As a Catholic, I don't believe that a life with disabilities is any less worth living than a life without. It does take more work, time, and attention, though, to raise a child the with disabilities, and I do think that that can have an effect on family planning, but I wouldn't close door on having more children after having one with a disability. We can never know the future, never know if something is going to happen where we have to balance the needs of everyone in the family and some needs end up not getting met as well as we would like. I mean, I could get killed or seriously injured in an accident tomorrow, and who would take care of my kids then? I try to plan for contingencies, but I'm not going to give up on cocreating new lives based on some distant "what if's."