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Not feeling very connected to this babe.

post #1 of 9
Thread Starter 
Anyone else not quite feeling like this is real? I was really excited for the first couple of days after my BFP but lately I can't shake the feeling that we are going to lose this one. Maybe it's because just about everyone I know has had a loss and it seems like this might be our turn. Also, I was already throwing up by this point in my first pregnancy and I don't feel anything at all right now.

I'm sure I'm just being silly about it, but I think I'm going to pick up some more HPT's. If I can see that line getting darker it might make me feel better.
post #2 of 9

Eandko, I know exactly what you mean. I only got a positive two days ago, and today is technically the day I should get AF, but my temps are still up and the test I took this morning was darker. We've been trying for over a year and a half and it just doesn't seem real. I also have a number of friends who have had miscarriages, which makes me nervous/scared as well. Like it's too good to be true, or something. I feel like the weeks until my first midwife appointment are going to drag by.

 

I just keep reminding myself that if it's going to happen, it will happen, and if it's not meant to be then it won't. That may seem silly but it helps me not to obsess as much. I'm trying to eat healthy and start exercising more, and just praying that I'll feel peaceful and this will be a healthy pregnancy!

post #3 of 9

It's so so early, and with with this being your second kid, you are so much busier than you were with your first to obsess. I definitely felt less connected to my second child before he was born than my first. For my third, it's easier not to have lower expectations about "prenatal bonding," since I know when the baby arrives, everything will equalize.

post #4 of 9

I feel worried as well!  I was so very sick by this point with my previous pregnancies!  It has me pretty freaked out but my sweet husband reminds me constantly that all pregnancies are different.  I'm sure everything is fine!

 

(((hugs))) mama!
 


Edited by heyitskalista - 4/18/12 at 10:42am
post #5 of 9

I was very, very sick with my first three kids. I've had barely any nausea at all so far (I'm 7 weeks now). Interestingly, not being as sick has caused me to notice a lot of other symptoms that I probably didn't notice before. Dizzy spells, round ligament pain, insomnia. But I had an ultrasound yesterday and Sweet Pea's right in there with a beating heart! biggrinbounce.gif

 

Give yourself plenty of time. Even if you don't get the kind of sickness you had before, you'll have your own way of knowing your baby's coming along. 

post #6 of 9
Thread Starter 
Thanks everyone. I picked up a few dollar store tests and the one I just took had a nice strong line, so that's helping ease my mind a little. It helps being able to come on here and talk about it. We still haven't told our families. It feels like May 7th, the date of my first appointment, is an eternity from now. I'm going to try to stay positive.
post #7 of 9

Eandko, my appointment isn't until May 3rd and I know exactly what you mean! We are waiting till after that to tell our families as well. We can keep each other company while we wait. :)

post #8 of 9
Thread Starter 
I took another test today and the line is distinctly fainter than yesterday's. I'm trying not to jump to conclusions, but if the trend continues tomorrow I'll be calling my midwife.
post #9 of 9

 

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Originally Posted by Eandko View Post

I took another test today and the line is distinctly fainter than yesterday's. I'm trying not to jump to conclusions, but if the trend continues tomorrow I'll be calling my midwife.

 

Sending you sticky babe vibes mama! goodvibes.gif

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