I don't know what to do. I feel like I've failed my daughter. I've always been there for her, I've always told her she could come to me and if she had decided to become sexually active, to come to me so we could discuss it more. Come to find out she's always lied to me about everything and I'm so hurt.
If the subject of sex ever came up, she'd always get defensive and say she's not like other girls who are easy and she has body issues, so not to worry. She doesn't want to have sex until atleast marriage.
Well here we are and my daughter is 17, she'll be 18 at the end of October and she told me she's pregnant from her new boyfriend of barely 2mos. She was on the pill for very painful periods and still missed days because she always forgot.
According to her, I'm too strict and she lied to me about being sexually active because she didn't want me to be any more strict. According to her also, I'm ruining her life and she hates me.
She wants to move out also because she can't be without her boyfriend and she doesn't want him to leave her. Her boyfriend is only 16 and is currently dropping out of high school to get his GED.
She's trying to make demands that if she stays home, I have to lengthen her curfew and let her go out with her boyfriend whenever she wants.
Another kicker here is that we are a military family and are due to move again in September. So she for sure does not want to move with us.
I just feel so lost because I don't know what the right thing to do is.
I too was a young pregnant mom. I had my first child at 19 and I've told her how hard it really is. But she refuses to listen.