Originally Posted by RosieL
Flavorful - what are you more laid back about this time?
I think it is the perspective of being ok with not having it figured out or together. Plus, since not every single thing is new in my world right now, I can have a few things that ground me to the normal so that I am not so overwhelmed by the new if that makes sense? I have already transitioned through the sleep deprivation and I already know my body will produce enough milk to feed a baby. I was most worried with DS about producing enough milk and his poop being right. Poop looks like all different things for different kids so as long as it is in the realm of normal, it is normal. I didn't ask for help enough the first time around because I wanted to make sure that DS got to nurse every single possible time he might possibly want to. here is an excerpt from my blog at 4 weeks out, it was a list of things I had decided I needed to do after my first bout with mastitis:
-Give myself a time limit of trying to calm Malachi down after he has fully eaten and wake Ben up for help at that point
-Trust my instincts about my baby
-Listen to what Malachi has to tell me about what he needs and trust that he is doing well, he now weighs 10lbs! Go breast milk and a good nursing baby!
-Trust that Ben knows what he is talking about too
-Ask for help and get rest
-Be patient and give myself time and room to grow into being a mom, it takes time and things are always changing. Being emotional is fine as long as I process it with people and don't retreat inward.
The only thing I would add- don't make judgements about your parenting, yourself, your partner, your baby, or make decisions about parenting between the hours of 10:30pm and 8am unless it is an emergency. Seriously, middle of the night musings rarely end up positive.
Hope that helps and isn't too self absorbed