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New mommy worries and triumphs

post #1 of 62
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I think we are getting the hang of this, with some hiccups along the way. I'm fighting off mastitis (fever and lumpy boobs), under the care of my MW. We quickly learned how much we love prefolds. Kinda trying to figure out how to make diaper changes less painful (crying).

The most restorative thing imaginable is a sleeping baby on my chest, or a perfectly latched, lengthy nursing session. Pretty awesome.

Got worried about greenish poop, then stopped worrying. Got worried about a little mucusy poop, still trying to figure it out. Referring to dr sears book (DH loves it) more than google.

This is all so new and interesting!!!
post #2 of 62

hugs mama on the mastitis!  Drink lots of water and rest rest rest! oh and nurse nurse nurse :)  I had a lot of mastitis issues with DS bc he is tongue tied and I didn't rest like I should.  Sounds like you are figuring things out!  A baby sleeping on your chest is the best thing in the world.  With DS, I would just lay there for hours smelling him and relishing the weight of him on me while he slept.  I still love it with DD but I don't have as much time to just sit there and feel it, the sweet moments are just more concentrated.  I will say, for first time moms, here are my two cents worth of advice 1- you are the mommy, you do actually know what is best 2- no question is too dumb, it is normal to have some doubts and nobody goes into parenthood knowing all of the answers, some people just act like they do.

 

As a second time mom, my triumph so far is that I am going with the flow of DD way easier and not checking on every little thing that drove me crazy last time.  There is something to be said for already having gone through the figuring out the basics thing with the first.  DS does not have jealousy issues and the transition has been insanely nice.  I am nervous about when DH goes back to work but each day is easier physically so I am feeling better about it.

 

As far as a worry, DD had jaundice and her eyes seemed so yellow but we put her in some sunlight and my milk came in pretty quick so I told myself to sit tight and just make sure it didn't get worse.  It didn't but it was something we didn't have with DS.  Her eyes are still a little yellow but she is improving every day.  See, you never quite have everything figured out :)

post #3 of 62
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Thanks for the comment!

The mastitis seems und control. Fever controlled with IBU and Odin has no trouble eating as much as I ask him to eat. smile.gif

This is such a ride. MWs visited today and man, do they ever practice holistic care. They make my brain, heart and body happy! I can't imagine choosing another type of care.

This is so facsinating. We are going to work hard to focus a little less on doing things right and paying attention to instinct. I think the mastitis was a result of thinking I NEEDED to switch sides often, which led to extra engorgement, which led to plugged ducks, which led to this threatening fever. Now I usually stick to one side, unless he starts unlatching himself a bunch.
post #4 of 62
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Flavorful - what are you more laid back about this time?
post #5 of 62

I so agree with what Flavorfull said about you being the mommy, knowing what's best and never having everything figured out. I still feel like a newbie at times and this is my 5th!

post #6 of 62
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Originally Posted by RosieL View Post

Flavorful - what are you more laid back about this time?

I think it is the perspective of being ok with not having it figured out or together. Plus, since not every single thing is new in my world right now, I can have a few things that ground me to the normal so that I am not so overwhelmed by the new if that makes sense? I have already transitioned through the sleep deprivation and I already know my body will produce enough milk to feed a baby. I was most worried with DS about producing enough milk and his poop being right. Poop looks like all different things for different kids so as long as it is in the realm of normal, it is normal. I didn't ask for help enough the first time around because I wanted to make sure that DS got to nurse every single possible time he might possibly want to. here is an excerpt from my blog at 4 weeks out, it was a list of things I had decided I needed to do after my first bout with mastitis:

-Give myself a time limit of trying to calm Malachi down after he has fully eaten and wake Ben up for help at that point
-Trust my instincts about my baby
-Listen to what Malachi has to tell me about what he needs and trust that he is doing well, he now weighs 10lbs! Go breast milk and a good nursing baby!
-Trust that Ben knows what he is talking about too
-Ask for help and get rest
-Be patient and give myself time and room to grow into being a mom, it takes time and things are always changing. Being emotional is fine as long as I process it with people and don't retreat inward.

The only thing I would add- don't make judgements about your parenting, yourself, your partner, your baby, or make decisions about parenting between the hours of 10:30pm and 8am unless it is an emergency. Seriously, middle of the night musings rarely end up positive.

Hope that helps and isn't too self absorbed smile.gif
post #7 of 62

flavorful-- what a great post

 

Roise--it really does take time to get settled because everything is so new.  get lots of rest and take care of yourself! hope the mastitis clears up soon!

post #8 of 62
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I love that list flavorful. I can already feel myself moving in the direction of your list items...especially the poop!
post #9 of 62
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Where are my fellow first timers? Looking at the announcement thread I can't remember who is a ROand who isn't.
post #10 of 62
i'll join you as soon as I can, but I'm still waiting!
post #11 of 62

I'm a first timer, and still very much pregnant. I was sure I would be giving birth well before my EDD, but now I'm feeling like it will be at least another week (I'm "due" on the 27th)....  My mom arrives on the 21st (it's the 19th here) so it looks like baby has listened to our request to wait at least until she gets here. I'm not feeling any pre-labor or any particular signs.  I feel like I might end up as the last one in our DDC to actually give birth shrug.gif.

I look forward to joining this thread soon!

post #12 of 62
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No rush, ladies! I just figured I can't bethe only one thus far.
post #13 of 62
Sometimes my 'experience' as a second-time mom is a hinderance to me! I nursed DD1 for years and had some issues throughout, but still, figured since I nursed her for years I had experience on my side. We had a pre-programmed appointment with a lactation consultant at the hospital after DD1's birth but it didn't help us at all and the problems I was having went undiagnosed. This time, my midwives encouraged me even before DD2's birth to seek out a qualified lactation consultant but still I resisted. Finally a few days post-partum I relented and am so glad I did! What a world of difference it has made finding a great, qualified lactation consultant. Some of the things i struggled with for years with DD1 could have been so easily addressed had I continued to searh for help until I actually got answers that helped. So don't be afraid to keep asking for help, even if you've already gotten one or more opinions, follow that internal feeling of unrest until you feel like whatever issue has been resolved!

As for crying during diaper changes, oh boy, does DD2 hate them so much more than DD1 did. What has helped us is raising her head up with some soft towels (she's less likely to spit up which makes her uncomfortable) and putting a space heater on the end of the changing table so she stays warm. Huge difference for us! As long as we use the heater, she's content (she has been my 'cold' baby and DD1 was/is my 'hot' baby).

I'm a lot more comfortable as a 2nd time mom realizing that each baby's needs are unique and not being afraid to alter my previous course to find something that works for this baby. Having them almost 7 yrs apart helps that a lot though just because I seem to have forgotten so much or am distanced enough to not feel invested in a previous way of doing things ;-)

The only time we experienced mucous in DD1's poop was after a viral infection around 9 months. But I've had friends who struggled with mucousy poops in their kiddos since just after birth and played around with dietary changes (mom's diet) to address that issue, usually with the help of a naturopath. I still disagree with some of the 'standard' poop advice that's been given to me by pediatricians and midwives alike (mainly about frequency). I've learned that what is fine and healthy for my kiddos sometimes isn't always the same as the 'party line' advice that gets dispensed.

Basically, you know your kiddo best but don't be afraid to follow those nagging feelings and get more info until things make more sense (which sometimes means learning to DISregard advice or to get alternative opinions).
post #14 of 62
edited: sorry, deleted double post
post #15 of 62

 

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Originally Posted by Rasa View Post

As for crying during diaper changes, oh boy, does DD2 hate them so much more than DD1 did. What has helped us is raising her head up with some soft towels (she's less likely to spit up which makes her uncomfortable) and putting a space heater on the end of the changing table so she stays warm. Huge difference for us! As long as we use the heater, she's content (she has been my 'cold' baby and DD1 was/is my 'hot' baby).

 

Yes! Finding a way to keep them warm during diaper changes is a must! Both of mine screamed during diaper changes for the first month or two, and it took the very end of my ds2 second month to realize it was because he (and my other ds, when he was newborn) was cold duh.gif  Thats when I started making sure his wipes were pretty warm, not just room temp. I also learned to change him under the blanket covers, with him fully covered up to his chest, and me blindly pinning pins with fingertips in the correct spots as to not poke him.  This time around, I am getting a wipe warmer, although that in itself I'm sure will be trial and error...

post #16 of 62
First timer here!

I got mastitis when Eliza was 8 days old, 103* fever, chills, the works. Then I had a UTI. Now we both have thrush, and I think the Nystatin is making her belly hurt. greensad.gif Add this to a lot of tearing/stitches and struggling with being disappointed with how her birth turned out.

Things are slowly getting better, but it has been extremely overwhelming!!
post #17 of 62
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Oh geez Tracy, sounds like you've been through the ringer. greensad.gif I know the wrath of the chills, it's utterly horrible. greensad.gif Are you completely over the mastitis? I worry that thrush awaits us, due to the antibiotics.
post #18 of 62
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Originally Posted by RosieL View Post

Oh geez Tracy, sounds like you've been through the ringer. greensad.gif I know the wrath of the chills, it's utterly horrible. greensad.gif Are you completely over the mastitis? I worry that thrush awaits us, due to the antibiotics.

I literally took my last antibiotic 4 hours ago, so I hope we are totally done! That was an adventure too, as I am allergic to Penicillin & Azithromycin. We started with Keflex, I had an allergic reaction, and they switched me to Clindamycin, which seemed to do the trick with no reaction. Thank goodness, since they told me if the Clinda didn't work, I would have to spend 2 weeks in the hospial on IV antibiotics. No thank you!!

Make sure you're taking lots of probiotics away from your antibiotics to try to head off the yeast. You might even talk to your mw/dr about taking Grapefruit Seed Extract and/ or rinsing your nipples in vinegar. I sincerely hope you don't get it!!
post #19 of 62
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I'm on Keflex, which we started because it covers uterine infections too, and my symptoms weren't perfectly lined up for mastitis. I'm on a good probiotic plus my homegrown kefir. Fingers crossed.
post #20 of 62
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Tracy, did you boobs stay really sore after starting the meds? Mine aren't hard anymore, just feel like they have been used as punching bags.
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