I've always only drank socially. I stopped as soon as i found out about being pregnant. I am about 7w 3d i dont want to tell any of my friends yet about my pregnancy. However, I am invited to a wine and cheese party tomorrow. If i dont drink they will know something is up. What should i do??? I was thinking of brining a bottle of Ariel non alcohoic wine with me and switching it up when i get an opportunity. What else can i do? Has anyone who already has kids had wine in the first trimester? Would one glass of wine put a baby at risk? Need advice.
A glass of wine in the first trimester???
I feel you. We have two social commitments this week, and both will involve some social drinking. I'm just hoping to claim responsible designated driver status in both situations. Or, you know, say "I'm so tired, I'll just fall asleep if I have a beer!" It is tricky, though. Personally, I would not have that glass of wine. No way.
Or, you know, you could call in sick to the party.
honestly, i would have the wine. if you were talking about having a shot of vodka i'd think differently, but wine is not gonna hurt. one glass will have such little effect on you. have a small glass, and sip it the entire night along with water. there was actually a study out of australia in 2010 that was a long term study that followed the children of women who had drunk during pregnancy, and of course the kids of heavy drinkers had issues, but surprisingly the kids of the moms who had drunk one drink per week were the best outcomes even better than the kids whose moms didn't drink at all. i'll have to search for the link, but i read that on the mayo clinic website. i probably won't drink anything till the second trimester, but in your shoes i would have the wine. i had one hard apple cider at 10 weeks with my daughter, and then about 3 other drinks during the rest of the pregnancy and she is really far ahead for her age so it didn't hurt her. a lot of women don't even know they are pregnant till 8 weeks, and don't know not to drink, and have healthy babies anyways. just my two cents.
I don't think I would have the wine either...especially not in the first trimester. But everyone has their own feelings about that.
If it were me, I would poor myself a small glass of wine and just kind of "carry it around" with me. It will give the appearance that your drinking it!
I think thats exactly what i will do Tropicana74!!! ;)
But here is an interesting article i found
Yeah, I have read some of these studies. With my last pregnancy I was pregnant over the holidays and didn't know it. I went to several Christmas parties where, of course, I had cocktails. And I got a head cold and had taken OTC medications for a few days.
I asked my OB about my alcohol consumption and he said he thought you would have to drink a whole lot for it to be a problem. He actually didn't seem anti-drinking which REALLY surprised me. Interestingly my son did end up having a spinal cord issue that they said happens in early, early development of the fetus before you even know you are pregnant and his particular type is not associated with folic acid intake. I have always wondered if it was related to the drinking or medication...guess I will never know. (BTW, he had surgery at 9 months old and is fine)!
For me, I just feel like that first trimester is when the foundation is being built and there is so many amazing little things going on...or that could go wrong.
With both of my last pregnancies I did have a little at the end like sharing a drink with DH or would have little samples of whatever my husband was drinking.
I ended up not wanting to risk it with wine, i just couldnt spend the next nine months thinking if that one glass of wine has done soemthign to my developing fetus. So what i ended up going to the party, i carried non alcoholic wine in a 500ml bottle, in my purse, every time i got a new glass of wine i would go to the bathroom pour it out and replace it with my non alcoholic wine. Nooone noticed. It was great!
A-go with your gut and always do what feels right for YOU, not anyone else, necessarily.
B- as for me, I'm ok with the occasional small amount of red wine. It's a huge nausea cure for me. It's funny, I was just telling a friend last night that there is this very vocal outcry against *any* drinking in pregnancy, but most women I know have used a little red wine for nausea, and many Dr's and midwives I know and have talked to say that a little is fine and not to worry. Or actually recommend a little for various reasons. But they won't be vocal about that because it's such a no no.
Again, I don't think any woman should drink some if it goes against what she feels she should do and she's done her research on her own, etc. But I think this is more a US thing as well. and we have some whacked out views on alcohol anyway.
I am sure that you are right and that many of us take it to the extreme. I'm sure that I am one of them. I was a foster parent for 3 years and saw time and time again the effects that alcohol (and drugs) had when used during pregnancy.
To each their own. I also think there are MANY over-the-counter, RX medications or vaccines that are given during pregnancy that are MUCH more harmful than having a glass of wine....yet the medical community continues to give their stamp of approval on them.
I just read ahead what you decided to do - brilliant! Yeah, I'm kind of in the camp of not drinking at all in the first tri. My anniversary is coming up next week and my husband and I are doing a 5 course meal with wine pairings. I'm planning on taking a teeny tiny sip each course just to taste how it would taste with the course and letting my husband finish the rest of it off. He is pretty happy about this arrangement. :)