I am finding myself increasingly frustrated at my 5 year old who is still asking for help constantly throughout the day for what I think should be simple tasks for a kid her age. Help with wiping in the bathroom, buttoning pants, putting shoes on the right feet, buckling and unbuckling in the car, opening and closing the car door, using utensils, getting a simple snack, etc. etc. I could go on and on.
It's not for lack of instruction or practice and there are no reasons to believe she has any physical or emotional issues for it. She checks out fine with her doctor. A lot of times she just seems .... okay for lack of a better word ... lazy. I can't believe I just wrote that and I would never say it to her but it's how I feel. She just gives up so easy whenever she thinks something might be the slightest bit hard for her.
I am trying so hard to be patient and not to make her feel bad but at the same time I am getting resentful that so much of my time is taken up helping her with things she should have mastered in toddlerhood. I feel like I'm repeating the same things I did three years ago with no results. It's just so frustrating.
Am I asking too much of her? Sometimes I think I am but then I see kids half her age doing these things by themselves already and I know I shouldn't compare but I can't help it. It seems odd to me that a child who can read can't open a buckle or peel a banana. I'm a sahm and she's my only. I'm with her all the time so I doubt it's an attention getting tactic.
Any advice? When did/do you expect your kids to be able to do these things mostly independently?