Cranky with DH help..... « Back to Group Discussions

[itsybistyspider]

 It seems like I am just so easy to annoy these days, and I remember feeling the same after DD was born- i havent given birth yet this time and its back. little things like messes, poor driving, lack of attention are just setting me off. 

What can i do to stop myself from feeling this way all the time? I end up feeling bad for saying anything at all- on the other hand I dont want the house to be left a dump and I feel like I've told him so many time the things that bug me (like leaving dishes around, dripping water on the floors, shoes and toys everywhere, spitting in the sink and not washing it down.....) 

I hate that this feeling is creeping up again- I guess it must be hormonal? On the other hand I feel like Im not a maid and I have allot going on right now and I expect him to pick up the slack a little..... Help!  

[RosieL]

Originally Posted by itsybistyspider 

I hate that this feeling is creeping up again- I guess it must be hormonal? On the other hand I feel like Im not a maid and I have allot going on right now and I expect him to pick up the slack a little..... Help!  

Can you tell him just that? Tell him you have mixed feelings and need to let him know?

[CherryBombMama]

I've been known to give my dh numerous warnings throughout the day when I am feeling particularly pregnant and hormonal. Like, "Seriously, this baby and these hormones are messing with me. If you don't do XYZ, we are going to have an awful day. Please help me." That is my rational request.  Other times I've just burst out crying and blubbered, "This mess is making me feel pregnant and blah! Help me ouuuutttt!!!" and he responds accordingly lol. 

My dh has said that he just gets used to seeing me pregnant and forgets that I am not my usual, energetic, strong self. That when I appear "fine" he thinks everything is "fine." Maybe your dh needs many reminders like mine?