I'm wondering how to go about setting a consistent nap schedule for my 3.5 month old DS.
This is a typical day: He wakes up at about 7am, falling back to sleep at around 9-ish. Sometimes that first nap is long, sometimes short. He then takes catnaps at random times after nursing. Normally he has one consistent long nap in the afternoon, but these range in start time and duration. He falls asleep easily with us at about 9pm.
DS will only fall asleep with me, preferably nursing. If I move, he wakes up fussy wanting to nurse more. If I wait until he's in a dead sleep, sometimes he will be put down but his nap is always much shorter and he wakes up huffing and puffing. What makes thing worse is he's going through a phase right now where he wants to stretch his legs and he won't be worn in a wrap without protesting. So once he's asleep, I'm pretty trapped.
If I could set a consistent schedule of some sort, I'd be able to plan my day better. But with all the cat naps and random times/durations, I never know what to expect. I don't wish to force anything on him; I'm just wondering if anyone has any strategy to get him to consolidate his naps more and be more consistent with the time. Should I try to keep him awake more and discourage the little naps? Or could that be harmful to him?