We circ'd our first son - one of my biggest regrets. If this baby is a boy (and I really feel like it is - but we aren't finding out) he will absolutely be left intact. Just a few reasons why? We are both of the belief that it is genital mutilation - cosmetic surgery to make a penis look "more appealing" and as mentioned before, we don't it to girls, most people are appalled when the female circumcision conversation is brought up, but it's done to boys without a second thought.
We believe that it is HIS choice. I had a brother left uncirc'd and he did choose to have it done later. Says it was no big deal. But he made the choice.
Thirdly, and this is probably what influenced our decision initially, and just made it easier to fall where we have on the other stances, but my son had issues with his. The nurse who treated him afterwards and brought him to us didn't' give us proper instructions for caring for "it" afterwards. So, he ended up having issues. He had penile adhesion as well as meatal stenosis (which is when the opening to the urethra at the tip of their penis becomes narrowed from scar tissue, etc). He had to have both surgically repaired and luckily (or not...ugh) he also had to have bilateral inguinal hernia surgery also, so they did it as the same time. Totally sucked. So, he basically had to feel some of the pain of circ twice. I will never, ever do that to my child again.
Lastly - I'll just throw this out there. Even the morning we had it done - we were so conflicted. We couldn't imagine our poor little baby going back there and having that done without one of us with him. But neither of us could imagine being there for it either. If your can't imagine holding your baby's hand while they cut off part of his body, then it's a bad idea. Period. And there ARE risks with having it done, even worse than what we went through. Babies do die from it. They can get infected, etc.
I hope I don't come off as snarky or bitchy or whatever - but I have a lot of guilt over what we did, this is just how we feel now, and I feel like if I would have realized this stuff before, we wouldn't have done it. If what I say can help change anyone's mind, then it's worth it.
And one last thing - in my circle of friends here in Fort Wayne, Indiana, of all places, there are some boys the age of 14/15 now who are not circ'd who are now playing football, other sports, etc. And no one ever says anything to them about not being circ'd or being different. There are far more uncirc'd boys than most people realize. And this one won't match his daddy or even his big brother for that matter, but we'll have discussions about it and it all be a learning point for everyone. Heck - even still me.