I have a friend who has been wanting to get pregnant again and specifically got off her birth control shots. She told all of us that she succeeded, YIPPY, but when I asked her if she's stopping smoking she said no. "It's not real until I go to the first doctor's appointment." I pointed out that she peed on a stick and it said she's pregnant but she's not budging. Many weeks passed and we were talking about her pregnancy and smoking came up again. "I'm not quitting until I go to the first doctor's appointment. Anyway, I got this app that shows development and it doesn't have lungs so it doesn't matter if I smoke. You've never been addicted so you don't know."
That's true. I don't know what its like to be addicted to a drug. I just know her son has really bad asthma from growing up in a smoking household and, once the doctor told her that nugget of information, then she stopped smoking in the house. I thought she wouldn't want her fetus to start on the road to asthma.
She went to her doctor's appointment and at 7 weeks along posted the good news on FB. She hasn't stopped smoking. "It's hard. Anyway, my mom smoked through her whole pregnancy with me and I'm healthy."
My question is, when does it matter to the development of the zygote or fetus to stop smoking during pregnancy? Is there a "safe" period where its ok to smoke? And how do you react when you see a pregnant woman smoking? Do you feel moved to say something? What do you say?
Thanks in advance for your advise. I'm continuing to be positive and excited for her pregnancy.