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[phatchristy]

I'm using this term because my mom used to call me that, she'd had three kids when she was relatively younger, then found herself pregnant again as an older mom with me.  

Anyhow, just found out (the pee is drying on the stick  and have told nobody yet).  

Feeling kind of weird.  Can't believe it...and I'm feeling old.  I don't know how I can do this again, yeah 'sure' I am supposedly an 'expert' at this point.  But, uh, sigh...it's like starting over again to an extent.  My littlest is 3, so it's not like I'm that far way from babyhood, but still.

I haven't a clue how to tell DH.  I was making a comment about it last night.  He was telling me he was really stressed out from work.  My sleep patterns change when I am newly pregnant...and I slept "like that" last night so this morning did the test after not doing any for a couple of days.

I don't know what everybody is going to think, and now I have all of these things to think about as an older pregnant mom that I haven't had to deal with before.  

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eta...

Even weirder, half of my kids are already born in December. And, I know some are going to think I did this on purpose LOL.  

[BetsyPage]

Yeah, this pregnancy is our third happy accident. :) But now that I'm pregnant, I am so relieved. We are just not the kind of people who can apparently "plan" to get pregnant because things are never "perfect" with finances, stages of other kids, life pressure, etc.

I hope this encourages you... I thought that dh would be upset (we're almost out of the baby stage, our youngest is turning 6 yo!) but he's quite chipper about it, I think. :) He feels more ready for it this time around, I guess because we live in a larger house, maybe? (Though in retrospect I think our small house was great for babies!) Our extended family is going through a crisis right now, both of my husband's parents are very ill. They became ill (stroke & dx of Stage 4 Lymphoma) late December/Jan 1st... my EDD is 12/25 according to one calculator, but roughly I'm due on the one year anniversary of their illnesses... so maybe this pregnancy will be a positive for them and the rest of the family to focus on. (Haven't told them yet, though, I'm just telling my closest friends and strangers on messageboards. ;))

[JudiAU]

Yes, mostly. I really wanted a third and was fairly worked up over it but still can't messing up pee sticks and whatnot. We hardly ever have time for DTD and two kids (almost 3, almost 5) plus working full time leaves me frazzled. DH doesn't particularly want another but he agreed in theory.

And then I had some weirdo ovulation/DTD combo and here I am pregnant.

So far DH has been...neutral. And part of the reason is that I am pretty cautious about it until much later. I am older, do CVS, the only shebang. I don't fully engage until about 14w or so after the risk is over.

[phatchristy]

Originally Posted by BetsyPage 
They became ill (stroke & dx of Stage 4 Lymphoma) late December/Jan 1st... my EDD is 12/25 according to one calculator, but roughly I'm due on the one year anniversary of their illnesses... so maybe this pregnancy will be a positive for them and the rest of the family to focus on. (Haven't told them yet, though, I'm just telling my closest friends and strangers on messageboards. ;))

I'm really hoping that this is going to help me get through some of the biggest stress I've gone through in my life.  Because the crud I'm going through, if it hadn't happened, my cycle wouldn't have gone irregular that month and I would have never conceived.  So it feels like the dark cloud has a silver lining in a way!  I hope that your family can find some positives in it as well...no matter the amount of work and potential self sacrifice another kiddo is, I still think it is such a great blessing.

I told DH on Saturday.  I had been dropping hints, sort of 'preparing him', etc.  It's still hard to believe when I look at it...I mean, I'm older, it was just a one time issue, and even with that I had used artificial 'warming' lube and such.  I just can't believe that at this age I'm able to have an accident.  Sigh.  

He's actually seeming fairly happy/OK with everything.  We had never really closed the door completely with any kind of permanent birth control (and I cannot do hormonal).  Charting and keeping track of the cycles had always worked really well, because my cycle is very regular...super regular in fact.  It took some of the greatest stress I've had in the last 10 years to make my cycle go wonky and for me to think I was OK when I wasn't.  It wasn't until egg white appeared again in my cycle after dtd that I thought what is with this....?

And, there you go LOL!

[TheDivineMrsM]

{{raises hand}} Me!

We're still a little surprised, but I can't allow myself to be shocked. (I wasn't the most responsible person with my b/c pills). We're getting excited. We were going to TTC this summer anyway, so we're only about 6 months ahead of schedule. No one IRL knows, and I'm 8ish weeks. My first appt is this Thursday, but my sister's engagement party is this weekend and I don't want to steal her thunder. We're waiting until Mother's day to tell our families, and we'll tell our friends somewhere in the interim.