I knew M was serving the kids cupcakes instead of from the actual cake (which was small and served to the adults) and I knew the frosting for them was going to be green, so I made a batch of cupcakes and some cream cheese frosting that I colored green and then took one gorgeous frosted cupcake in a cupcake container over to the party with us. He never even noticed the difference!! At piñata time I just steered him to grab the little toys versus the candy and all went well.
Tomorrow though is gonna be a bit harder. They are going to serve lunch as the party is starting at 11:30am. How do I deal with his food without seeming rude. I obviously don't want to be rude, but I also don't want to risk my kiddo getting very sick. Though the little girl who is having the party has a little best friend down the street who is also peanut allergic, I do know that this family does eat peanuts and nuts in their house and even the family with the peanut allergic boy doesn't avoid tree nuts (which we still are)...so I don't know exactly how "safe" things will be...and the cake will most likely be store bought and decorated (the mom doesn't particularly strike me as the cake decorating kind). Obviously, most people don't quite get the whole avoiding things because of cross contamination if they have never lived with a severe anaphylactic allergy before.
I did just make up a batch of yummy but healthy muffins (vegan gingerbread with rice milk and ground flax seed) that Bug adores...so we are set with an alternate dessert once I figure out the frosting for it. But how to deal with the food situation is the big deal. What do ya'll do?
Also, how the heck do you make up just enough frosting for a cupcake or two? I still haven't figured that out!!