I am just sick. I have a child born out of wedlock and we share custody. He has her in preschool 2 days a week and she is currently spending Tue, Thurs, and Friday overnight till Saturday afternoon with him.
We only started the Tuesday overnight in November and the Thursday in February when I was extremely ill.
I picked her up at 9 this morning and dropped her off at 6:30 this evening and she was extremely clingy. She wants us to be together. We did all our visiting together for almost the first 2 years, Now, it is about 2 hours a month of shared parenting time. I feel like it should be a lot more. My older children with my ex-husband enjoyed a lot of "family time" from the time of the divorce when they were 3 and 4 till they got a stepmother when they were 9 and 10.
She is very strong and independent, but at a degree which is appropriate for her age. She just turned 3 1/2. I do not believe it is good to do what it seems the majority of people do and put their children in the care of strangers from a very early age. I personally believe that part of the reason people delay marriage and childbirth and divorce so much lately is because they find it harder to form appropriate attachments as adults because so many of them were not encouraged to form secure attachments as children. I really think the "cry it out philosophy" and the "public orphanages" are destructive to the fabric of our society. I am all into attachment parenting.
How can I win this man to my way of thinking? He is a 40 year old commitmentphobe who is a first time parent.