First the background story: My 9 year old daughter is a bright kid. She loves to read, does very well at school, everything has always come very easy to her with little effort, school wise and physically she's always very good at sports. She hasn't had to put forth much effort, if any, to get 100% on everything at school. Socially, she's very laid back and makes friends easily. She is in TAG at school but we don't have a big budget for it, she is in a third/fourth grade blend which works out great. She is in third grade but stays with the fourth graders most of the day to do 4th grade stuff, which she says is very easy, and I believe her as she's getting the grades that prove it.
So, here's the problem: She is so easily frustrated when she is challenged by something that she gets herself worked up to tears every time. How do I help her through this? I talk to her about it by bringing up examples of the past when she has learned new things and once she figures them out they become "easy things". I'm not sure if she's being hard on herself, or she's upset that something is hard? Is this just a part of her personality that she will outgrow?
I guess as her Mom I just have a hard time seeing her upset about anything and want to help her.
I try to challenge her and push her academically at home because I know she doesn't get much of that at school. I obviously don't want to push her to the point that she's upset but it's hard to gauge that point with her. We were doing some double digit multiplication (42 x 28 for example) that had her crying at first because she thought it would be hard, but she figured it out after about 2 minutes and was fine....