Hey all! So it looks like my home birth dream is not going to be able to be a reality thanks to all the legislative issues, so now I'm really looking for a doula. I want someone that can help guide me through the rest of this pregnancy (I'm 12 weeks) and help my husband and I through my labor and postpartum period.
I really want to experience natural childbirth but I have a poor pain tolerance and without a doula, I can't see myself being able to make it through!! I'm looking for someone willing to labor early at home with me, and then go to either a birth center or a hospital. I've found pregnancy to be tougher than I thought it would be--and its only the end of the first trimester! I need someone with the expertise to tell me that everything really is going to be ok and to advise me on how to cope!
My husband is nervous about getting a doula because it is really important to him (and to me) that he be my primary support but he also knows we need help! We are both in healthcare but pregnancy/birth are not in our specialties. So we're looking for someone who can be a coach and a guide but also really respect & value my husband's role in the birth as well.
Anyone have any recs, particularly for a very experienced & kind doula? Thanks!!