Originally Posted by LuNaLu
On a sort of unrelated note, just because I have 2 daughters doesn't mean I'm hoping for a boy.
THIS!!! I mean yes...I *am* sort of hoping for a boy (because I need some back up in a house where Daddy can do NO WRONG and mommy is always the party pooper ;-)) but people act like the only reason I have any business being pregnant with a 3rd is because I don't already have a boy, and clearly, not having a boy means my family is lacking somehow. It's so infuriating.
Just1More - you completely said it...I want people to just shut up and let me enjoy my baby! I don't want to know other peoples' opinions on the gender configuration of my family or whether or not I should have more kids or any of that stuff. This family is me + my husband and our children and I hate the thought of welcoming a baby girl and feeling like those around me (who are supposed to be loving and supportive) being less than joyful with us simply because SHE isn't a HE. And of course it's borrowing trouble...because I don't even know what I'm having...and I know the other night when I had a dream that it was a girl (first and only baby dream this pregnancy where it wasn't a boy) and I so distinctly remember pulling her onto my belly in my dream, seeing those little girl parts and feeling nothing but pure joy because THIS IS MY CHILD and I LOVE HER. But still...I know that the sentiments of the peanut gallery tend to seep in around the edges of these experiences and it only makes me more primal and protective about this baby. Seriously...it's 2012 and the fact that other people are still hung up on sons vs. daughters is kind of barbaric IMO.
My MIL has been out of town for the last few weeks and she'll be coming back next week and I am quite honestly dreading seeing her again because I know she's going to make all kinds of snide remarks about how huge I am. How is it that women - women who have HAD CHILDREN - do this to each other? Don't they remember what it's like to hear all the insulting, hurtful, asinine comments from people about their size/baby's gender/etc. Sheesh.
The other day I was at the playground with DD2 and there was a grandpa there with his grandson and when I said I was due in about 3 weeks, he said "Wow! You look so small!" I almost kissed him, darling man. :-) <---I am NOT small, but I don't feel like I'm freakishly large for how far along I am (I'm certainly not measuring at all ahead)...but he's the only person in recent history who hasn't gone the "OMG, you're huge you must be miserable" treatment.
Anyway...love that here at least is a place to rant about how horribly persecuted we are as pregnant ladies (eye roll ;-) ). Let's just all try to remember our current outrage when we're in our 50's and watching our daughters, daughters-in-law and various other ladies in our lives have their babies...and keep our opinions about the size of their pregnant bellies to ourselves. ;-)