ABQ actually has a lot of cool resources for kids. I do a lot of weekend trips there, so I know more about activities rather than schools and neighborhoods, but I'll share what I've got.
ABQ Bio Park - http://www.cabq.gov/biopark - This is the zoo, aquarium, botanical gardens and tingley beach. Each has their own events, activities, and even camps. Click on "For Families" on the left and you can see a lot of good info, but each place also has their own things listed.
Explora Science Museum - http://www.explora.us/en/ - This is an AWESOME science museum. Besides just going to check it out, they've got all kinds of scheduled activities, classes, and camps for all ages. Click on "Educational Programs" at the top to see what's going on.
New Mexico Museum of Natural History and Science - http://nmnaturalhistory.org/ - This was a pretty cool museum to take DD to, she really loves the dinosaur exhibits. They've also got some neat activities and camps here. Look at the top menu, highlight "Education," and then click on "Youth and Family Programs."
ABQ Astronomical Society - http://www.taas.org/index.html - I've always been interested in finding out more about these guys, but the opportunity has never arisen. They apparently have really cool lectures, and what they call "star parties" where the whole family goes out and checks out the stars together. Their website is pretty old school, but the activities are always up to date.
I'll bet if you go and get involved with some of the groups and camps at these places there will be plenty of parents who you can talk to more about schools and such. I also think a lot of these places have their own facebook pages, so those might be a good resource for meeting people as well. I know especially that the toddler hours at the Explora museum are really well attended, and all the parents were asking me and DH if we were new to the area because they hadn't seen us before, and they were all really friendly telling us about the programs at the other museums and stuff as well.