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post #81 of 140

Hot bath? Baths always help redistribute fluids for me - so if my feet are really puffing then a bath helps to bring down the swelling and then I spend the next few hours peeing like mad. A good massage can also help with that- start from the extremities and work your way up towards the heart/belly. You could also look into some diretics like... erm.... dandelion tea? Coffee?

post #82 of 140

Thanks -- good idea. I will try a bath at home later tonight. Here's hoping my finger doesn't lose all circulation by then. :(

post #83 of 140

Rozzie if it is that bad get some KY jelly or astro lube and put around your ring. Drink some tea or coffee (iced even) and get that puppy off!!!

post #84 of 140

Hi everyone! I had my baby girl yesterday at 8:32 in the morning. She is beautiful and perfect in every way. I posted a picture of her in her own thread and will update soon with her birth story.

post #85 of 140

I'm going to - I think it COULD get that bad. I'm drinking coconut water now and going to stop at CVS on my way home.

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Rozzie if it is that bad get some KY jelly or astro lube and put around your ring. Drink some tea or coffee (iced even) and get that puppy off!!!

 

 

post #86 of 140

 

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UGH does anyone have any brilliant ideas for how to de-puff my hands just long enough that I can get my darn wedding ring off?! I can't believe it fit for 38 weeks - but my fingers have swollen so much the past two days and now the rings are stuck. I'm kind of freaking out.

 

 

Sit with them on your head for 5 minutes (no, I'm not kidding), then stick them (it) in ice water for as long as you can stand it, and then use something to lube up your finger... I'd use something edible like CO or butter though, because it's far more effective to try to get it off with your teeth than with your other hand.

post #87 of 140

thank you!

post #88 of 140

Finalized my birth team today! Long ago I asked my L&D nurse/photog friend to be my photog for the birth and she agreed. Then I ended up asking another doula/photog friend to come, too. The deal was that both of them will act as mainly as photographers, for which I feel super fortunate, but I was concerned about some of the 'gopher' duties that would usually fall to an actual doula. So tonight I asked another friend (who's not a birth professional at all but is planning her own first home birth later this summer) to act as our 'administrative assistant' by calling everyone, setting up the Skype for my mom, acting as a liason between the birthing room and the living room, etc and she agreed. We've already got plenty of family coming to keep the girls entertained and out of our room. And of course the midwife and her birth assistant will be there to ensure the health and safety of me and the babe.


Now DH won't have anything to focus on except ME and I feel super confident that everything I want to get done will actually get done even if I'm in la la land.

I feel really good about this plan but all this overthinking stuff has me sort of hoping I'll have more of a Type B personality in my next life!

post #89 of 140

 

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UGH does anyone have any brilliant ideas for how to de-puff my hands just long enough that I can get my darn wedding ring off?! I can't believe it fit for 38 weeks - but my fingers have swollen so much the past two days and now the rings are stuck. I'm kind of freaking out.

 

My rings always get really loose again a good 'brisk' walk ( and I use the term brisk lightly; a 5k takes me around 50 minutes now lol).  Just be sure to keep your hands up, power-walker style and not hanging down by your sides or the swelling could get worse.  And drink, drink, drink!

post #90 of 140

5k takes me 50 minutes anyways..lol *whistles*

Anyways, CRISTEEN can you just come live with all of us?? You're like a human encyclopedia. Whether you have all that knowledge crammed in your head or you just have excellent google fu - you are so helpful to have in the DDC! Just wanted to say that if I haven't already told you!

post #91 of 140
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5k takes me 50 minutes anyways..lol *whistles*

Anyways, CRISTEEN can you just come live with all of us?? You're like a human encyclopedia. Whether you have all that knowledge crammed in your head or you just have excellent google fu - you are so helpful to have in the DDC! Just wanted to say that if I haven't already told you!

 


YES!  Yes to this! 

post #92 of 140

Hey ladies, I am taking a second to crawl out of my cave of crankiness and self pity! I am huge (I will try to post a pic today) and exhausted (no sleep due to the older two kids- like so many of you) and I am beyond frustrated that so little has been completed on my to do lists due to DH's mountain of police work that he is trying to get finished before his holiday's start. I feel like the baby is already here (because I am not sleeping and living in a mess)- if that makes sense. I am a very organized and prepared person so the very fact that my house is messy and I have lots to do isn't ok with me before the baby is born. I fully expect it to be like this after he's born, I just needed to savour the last moments of a life that I had somewhat under control. I can only do about 10 minutes worth of work before colapsing in pain and exhaustion. I guess I just need to surrender to this. Please tell me to just let my expectations go. DH also came to me and said that he wants to change the name from James to Benjamin and this has upset me because the kids and I have been calling him James the entire time and I have bonded with James but DH has never asserted himself like this before regarding names so I will honour him with this but it's very strange for me to think of Baby Benny in my tummy now. I need to get over my pity party and focus on the postitive- can someone please snap me out of this!!! I have been so happy and joyful this entire pregnancy and now, I am a big bag of miserable. Please please please, tell me to get over myself!

post #93 of 140

Yes to this! Cristeen you are amazing. Thank you thank you thank you! 

FYI - the cooler weather helped decrease the puffiness and I got the rings off with just soap and water this morning. Phew! There is literally an indentation in my finger from where they were. I knew my swelling would go up and down until baby comes - but I was actually really worried about right after birth - I remember being really surprised that I was super puffy a few hours (the next day?) after DS was born. Ultimately, it went away, but I'd have hated to cut off my wedding rings. SO they are off. Thanks for all the advice ladies :) 

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Originally Posted by Onemoreontheway View Post

5k takes me 50 minutes anyways..lol *whistles*

Anyways, CRISTEEN can you just come live with all of us?? You're like a human encyclopedia. Whether you have all that knowledge crammed in your head or you just have excellent google fu - you are so helpful to have in the DDC! Just wanted to say that if I haven't already told you!

 

 

post #94 of 140

OMG my DH just pulled a name change on me out of the blue as well - essentially he was like "eh, I'm not really feeling that name" - I almost kicked him!  This issue isn't settled in our house. 

 

Linnie - allow yourself the tired grouchiness. It's OK! Surrender to the exhaustion as well - you've two kids for goodness sake, it's hard! I can barely function taking care of one plus lugging my enormous self around. 

 

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Hey ladies, I am taking a second to crawl out of my cave of crankiness and self pity! I am huge (I will try to post a pic today) and exhausted (no sleep due to the older two kids- like so many of you) and I am beyond frustrated that so little has been completed on my to do lists due to DH's mountain of police work that he is trying to get finished before his holiday's start. I feel like the baby is already here (because I am not sleeping and living in a mess)- if that makes sense. I am a very organized and prepared person so the very fact that my house is messy and I have lots to do isn't ok with me before the baby is born. I fully expect it to be like this after he's born, I just needed to savour the last moments of a life that I had somewhat under control. I can only do about 10 minutes worth of work before colapsing in pain and exhaustion. I guess I just need to surrender to this. Please tell me to just let my expectations go. DH also came to me and said that he wants to change the name from James to Benjamin and this has upset me because the kids and I have been calling him James the entire time and I have bonded with James but DH has never asserted himself like this before regarding names so I will honour him with this but it's very strange for me to think of Baby Benny in my tummy now. I need to get over my pity party and focus on the postitive- can someone please snap me out of this!!! I have been so happy and joyful this entire pregnancy and now, I am a big bag of miserable. Please please please, tell me to get over myself!

 

 

post #95 of 140

Linnie - it's really hard to tell you to snap out of it when I'm sure a lot of us are feeling the same! I got SO ANGRY earlier today when I was trying to wash the counter tops and couldn't because the scrubbing motion was somehow making my pelvis unbelieveably sore. DH doesn't wash things- he can do other stuff, but not scrub. I'm having a really hard time letting my hopes and expectations go and the mess is making me so insanely cranky (because i keep thinking, "my birth team is going to think I'm a SLOB" (I am a slob, but that's not hte point!). I'm also trying to keep the work into short, managealbe time chunks that involve as much sitting down as possible- ie, I cleaned the bathroom sink yesterday while I sat on the toilet, fold laundry sitting on the floor, sweep while sitting on the floor and crawling around to different areas... etc.

 

For the name change... Wow, I'd be mad too! I know I've done this to DH right around this time twice now (hopefully not a third time!) so I guess turn about would be fair, but it's a big adjustment. Could you have some sort of ceremony to solidify the change? Something to make the kids (and yourself?) feel like it makes sense or is special or meaningful somehow?

post #96 of 140

Rozzie thank you for your unending support. I adore you!

Astraia- Your post made me laugh and cry! Sweeping while sitting on the floor and crawling around! That's how I've been cleaning floors! Sitting on the toilet and cleaning the sink- that's awesome. I must have blocked out how awful the last bit is! I seriously feel worse than I have ever felt in my life! I love your suggestion of some type of ceremony for the name change. We will do something like that tonight. That's great advice :)

 

DD woke up with an ear infection this morning and I am waiting for DH to come home from an overtime shift of 5 hours straight of traffic directing (can you even imagine standing and directing traffic for 5 hours straight) so he can take her to urgent care clinic. DS cried for two and a half hours last night for NO reason. He woke up from falling asleep on the couch at supper time and that sent him into a tailspin. He has never cried like that, not even as a baby. This kid does NOT cry. It was awful. He only wanted me to sit there while he cried so I rocked in the rocking chair for two and a half hours and told myself that this was prep for a crying newborn. Last night, DH must have turned on his alarm clock radio in his sleep but he didn't know how to turn it off so for a couple of minutes straight, we heard the loud radio static while he slammed his hand around trying to turn it off until I yelled for him to turn on his damn light and use his eyes then he proceeded to unplug everything that was plugged in behind our headboard until he managed to just unplug his clock! DS was in bed with us and he was sweating and damp and then DD woke up at 5:50 and at that point, I had to wake up with both kids. I want to scream and cry and curl up in a ball. I baked some chocolate peanut butter squares yesterday and I won't lie, I have been eating them straight since 6am this morning.

 

Thanks for letting me get everything off my chest.

post #97 of 140

I totally feel for you Linnie and the rest of us that feel sore, exhausted, and miserable.  Heading into labor already being sleep deprived is sounding pretty awful, but I guess normal.  Last night we decided to try some acupressure points to see if it would help ripen my cervix a bit more and maybe help this baby not be late like 2 of his sisters were, since my due date is only a few days away now.  It definitely worked to start contractions, and I was tossing and turning until 1 am.  The thought going on in my head though was that I really did not want to be up all night with contractions that went nowhere so I didn't get out of bed.  I just kept trying to relax and sleep and finally did.  Then of course I got up every couple hours to go to the bathroom, had weird dreams, flipped over a ton with my huge body pillow because my hips hurt, and the kids were up around 7 am.  *yawn*  I think if we do the acupressure points again, I will do it during the day so I'm not up half the night.  That was kinda dumb.

post #98 of 140

Add me to the club of grumpy butts.

post #99 of 140
Yuck - what a terrible night. I am so sorry greensad.gif You deserve chocolate peanut butter squares.


I for one cannot do anything today. I just can't sleep at night, for more than an hour at a time, without waking due to bladder or hip issues... Or my hands falling asleep. And when I sleep my weird dreams are back in full force.

Man I am tired today. And I'm a bit discouraged because Aside from being enormous, I honestly don't feel ANY pre labor stuff going on whatsoever. A few BH here and there but that's usually just when I have to pee. I pray I don't go another three weeks or something - but I'm feeling like even with a May 14 EDD I still may be the last woman standing in our DDC.
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Rozzie thank you for your unending support. I adore you!

Astraia- Your post made me laugh and cry! Sweeping while sitting on the floor and crawling around! That's how I've been cleaning floors! Sitting on the toilet and cleaning the sink- that's awesome. I must have blocked out how awful the last bit is! I seriously feel worse than I have ever felt in my life! I love your suggestion of some type of ceremony for the name change. We will do something like that tonight. That's great advice :)

 

DD woke up with an ear infection this morning and I am waiting for DH to come home from an overtime shift of 5 hours straight of traffic directing (can you even imagine standing and directing traffic for 5 hours straight) so he can take her to urgent care clinic. DS cried for two and a half hours last night for NO reason. He woke up from falling asleep on the couch at supper time and that sent him into a tailspin. He has never cried like that, not even as a baby. This kid does NOT cry. It was awful. He only wanted me to sit there while he cried so I rocked in the rocking chair for two and a half hours and told myself that this was prep for a crying newborn. Last night, DH must have turned on his alarm clock radio in his sleep but he didn't know how to turn it off so for a couple of minutes straight, we heard the loud radio static while he slammed his hand around trying to turn it off until I yelled for him to turn on his damn light and use his eyes then he proceeded to unplug everything that was plugged in behind our headboard until he managed to just unplug his clock! DS was in bed with us and he was sweating and damp and then DD woke up at 5:50 and at that point, I had to wake up with both kids. I want to scream and cry and curl up in a ball. I baked some chocolate peanut butter squares yesterday and I won't lie, I have been eating them straight since 6am this morning.

 

Thanks for letting me get everything off my chest.

post #100 of 140
We had a terrible night last night too. I was having cramps and contractions all night and barely managed to sleep. Dsd woke up to tell us she was cold and wanted her water bottle refilled (all things she can do herself). Dss had a bad dream and felt te need to tell us too. Oy it was a long night.
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