Let's just say I've had a rough day. A non sleeping newborn (because his siblings CAN'T SEEM TO BE QUIET AFTER THOUSANDS OF WARNINGS), children who do nothing but squabble and whine and pick at eachother mercilessly.
I'd like to think that I'm diplomatic. I've always preferred to get at the heart of the matter and solve it amicably, instead of punishing without much understanding behind it. But right now I have three children (aged 7, 5 and 3) all sitting down in seperate spots (and have been doing so for an hour) and are NOT allowed to even so much as utter one word to eachother or touch anything or do anything other than breathe (and go to toilet). This is my substitute instead of smacking them because all I can see right now is red and I'm thinking of why the hell I chose not to smack when all the 'smacked' children I know IRL are so well behaved and mine are not.
Their baby sibling is asleep (finally) and I feel like I'm either going to pull my hair out or sob like a child (or both).
How do I get them to listen? I unfortunately don't have time to wade through a 300 page book on discipline. I can barely manage to get through the day so I'm in desperate need of quick advice - Stuff I can implement. I often yell to the walls when I am frustrated, calm down and have a good talk and cuddle with misbehaving child afterwards. But after hours and hours of absolute crap from all three (and not listening to even basic stuff), I no longer have it in me to be diplomatic. And even if I did? Where do I start? There are so many things that they did wrong today, I wouldn't know where to begin with each one.
How do you:
-Get your child/ren to be quiet when the baby is asleep?
-Stop children from squabbling endlessly with their sibling? (and I mean EVERY FIVE MINUTES over EVERYTHING and that's all three of them)
-Keep yourself calm in moments of pure chaos?
I am prone to PPD and when I get it, it's not simply feeling low and helpless (it's to the point of suicide). I cannot go down that path again. The childrens behaviour is NOT helping me maintain some sort of normalcy - they are driving me to the point of insanity. They can't single handedly cause my PPD but they are not helping the cause. I *know* if they behaved for the most part that I'd feel a hell of a lot calmer and in focus/control and would be able to deal with the unpleasant parts more effectively, but I just need that break... They need to learn to behave... Help please?