LOL! I think that's how my DH feels, but I think the idea of a "love child" is just as unrealistic as the white picket fence and 2.5 kids...
I like your tactic of saying you're on a break and then just happen to be in the mood the day it matters. I might try that if we don't succeed this month. I've got a while to go though, still waiting to O.
Part of me wants to throw it back at him and say: Yes, now you know how I felt all those years when you were in the mood and I wasn't but I BD'd with you anyway because I love you... That won't help though and it sure wouldn't go over well. ;-)
I'm glad to read this actually, i wondered if other people would see this as deceitful! I can see though, there's a lot of things about HIS body/ways that i find very appealing in the moment but that having a conversation about immediately beforehand would NOT be sending me wild! So i can get that a discussion on the appearance of my cervical fluid is maybe not the most inflaming thing, however much he enjoys the sensations of the reality of it during the act!
GoBecGo......Thanks for your insight! Did you test yet? Or is it still super early for you? Now that you say my DH may be feeling devalued, I think that's exactly it. He's made comments about it before that I'm using him for his sperm. It's just crazy because over the past 5 years of marriage, we had a lot of regular non-baby making sex. It just seems he needs to get over himself and accept that we need to have sex to make a baby. ughh. but you're right, I should change my tactics a little and especially not tire him out before my Odate. I think I'll use my OPK more than I previously did, I never thought they would be reliable, since they are the cheap internet kinds, but this month they were spot on. We have preseed and I only used it once with the applicator....perhaps this next cycle I'll use all the way!!
I'm now 3DPO and FF put up the crosshairs and all that today. I really hope this is the month! I don't think I can take another month of BFN's. But I have a feeling we didn't do enough.
They're funny creatures aren't they, these men of ours?! I do think to a large extent baby-making sex increases OH's ardour, but only within the strict boundaries of "it might happen if we do it because we're unprotected!" and not including "let's DTD every day to make sure it happens!". I did NOT test yet, but i am seriously considering it for tomorrow. I'll be 9DPO, but then i did O at 8am on Oday (as per my distinct ovulation pang) so my FMU will reflect a full 216 hours since O, rather than 193 (which it would be if i'd O'd at 11pm on Oday). Can you tell i've been overthinking this!? LMAO!
I have had mild cramps 2 days in a row, i'm tired, my nipples are tender when DD2 nurses, i'm thirsty all. the. time and i have a TON of cervical fluid on the go. So it's all looking pretty positive really. Also i felt really warm this morning (rare for me because i'm hypothyroid so though i'm well medicated, i'm still always the cooler end of normal**) and when i took my temp (not BBT, just normal temp at 9am when i'd gotten up, had a shower, dried my hair and was about to make us all pancakes and bacon) and it was 37.4. It's an aural (ear) thermometer, and up to 37.5C is "normal" with it, but MY normal is 36.9C, up to 37.1C if i've been running about. So that's pretty warm for me!
**funny story but when i was undx hypothyroid i was trying to use BBT for NFP and i went out and solemnly bought the paper chart and BBT thermometer pack from the pharmacy, got home and found not even my AF temps were ON THE CHART, i was so cold! My chart went from 35C to 37C and i was never out of the 34's! Unfortunately i didn't twig and go to the GP! Unbelievably i was still ovulating back then, despite that (oopsie DD1).