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weekly chat april 23-29

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So long, April! dang, we are just cruisin' right along! I'll be 21 weeks on wed! insane!
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Has anyone been happily typing along then tried to use the backspace but ended up somehow hitting a random shortcut that takes you back on the website and deletes your entire message????  AHH - I feel this just happened to me for the millionth time.  As I was saying....

 

I feel like I just started a chat that ended on April 1.  Where is this month going?  I am not sure I am really ready for months to fly by.  I do feel like my irritability is easing up and good thing because DS was on a real tear this weekend.  He was a challenging little thing and I never did figure out what was at the root of the problem.  Maybe nothing except that he's 3 1/2!  We did still manage to have a lot of fun plus I got completely caught up with laundry.  And by that I mean as of this morning there was nothing to be washed at all, nothing to be folded, nothing to be put away.  That never, ever happens.  Yay!  A rainy Sunday worked to my advantage.

 

So in other news, I am starting to stress about something.  Perhaps it's unfounded.  I don't feel any movement.  Really none.  This is my second so I know what to expect and I don't have an anterior placenta.  I am 18w1d so I guess it's ok.  I am just ready to feel something. I also don't have much of a belly.  I don't have an ultrasound until May 15th and that feels like a really long time away right now. 

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Jend1002 -- I know that with my second it did take a long time to feel movement. Can you get an appointment to hear the heartbeat just for reassurance? Or even move up your ultrasound date if it would help with peace of mind.

It still blows my mind that I'm over halfway through this journey!! Welll.... since I've never birthed before 41 weeks, I suppose I'm only just coming up on halfway since I'm 20w2d wink1.gif

I need more clothes. I have three maternity t-shirts and two pairs of maternity jeans, a pair if black nice maternity pants and a fabulous maternity maxi... but I'm going to need capris or shorts. It's supposed to be 86* here today. I can't wear jeans all summer -- especially since I have no AC!

I feel like I'm really feeling the need to clean up and clean out our house in preparation for this fifth baby. Our house isn't huge, but it should be fine as long as I declutter and reduce the *stuff*! Buuuut... while I feel like I *want* to do it, actually getting it done is another issue entirely wink1.gif
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Jend, that happens to me all the effing time, and only on this site. Totally frustrating. I'm also right there with you on feeling anxious about there not being a lot of movement.. I think I feel little things here or there, but I am really wanting May 1 to get here already so I can have some outside confirmation that things are okay.

 

judybean, congrats on being halfway through! As for clothes, I need some too. I've got two pairs of pants to work with, and not that anybody's really paying attention, but it's getting a little embarrassing.

 

AFM, things are generally okay. I broke myself this weekend.. went on a walk with a friend through a kind of nature preserve where at the end I had to climb like 8 flights of stairs. I thought it would be fine, but by the time we got to the top something was definitely off- my hip was clicking with every step, and that night and the next day it hurt to do stairs or raise my leg to get into bed or the car. I'm feeling mostly better today, but I guess I have to face facts.. there are some things that I just won't be able to do in the same way the more pregnant I get. Even getting up off the couch is a bit different mechanically these days.

 

I had a prenatal massage yesterday (good timing!). Honestly I'm not sure if it was worth it. It felt nice, especially on my legs, which she later confirmed were really tense, but maybe it's something I'll really get more out of when I'm a bit further along? I did come home and go to sleep at 7:30pm, and I guess there's something to be said for getting good rest. I'm looking into chiro for later, too.. not sure how to go with that, the recommendations I've gotten for good prenatal chiros are way across the DFW metroplex, and I've already got a 45-minute drive to get to my mw.. not looking to add on another commute. There's gotta be someone closer that's flying under the radar.

 

Have a good week, all!

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We did some yard work that involved moving some pavers last night, and I walked over to pick one up, bent down, and thought all of a sudden, "That's way too heavy. I shouldn't be doing this." It was the first time I really felt like I physically couldn't do something I could have done pre-pregnancy.

I accidentally didn't invite a mutual friend to a baby shower I held for another friend this weekend and now I'm feeling really crappy about it. It was a pretty small (6 women, 4 kiddos) pretty last-minute thing, but that almost makes it worse -- that the other friend wanted to be invited and would have come, but was overlooked. I'm trying to think of a nice gesture to make that would help her to feel better and not worse greensad.gif

DD is napping in my bed, and I'd really like a nap, too, but I don't want to wake her up. Maybe I'll lie down on the couch.
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Yes, I am feeling like this pregnancy is starting to pic up speed as well!  I will be 21 weeks on Friday.  This weekend a friend of mine gave me a bunch of BOY cloths.  DD and I organized it by size and that was super fun.  But once it was all done I sort of got a ton of anxiety because I have this strong urge to nest but this isn't the house I want to nest in!  My DH and I are self employed (real estate investors) and the plan is to sell a property and then do a full on search for our next house.  I am sure it will all come together, but I have crossed the line into pregnancy anxiety and starting to get emotional.  Also, I have had tons of energy but yesterday I suddenly was drained and went to take a nap and woke up 2.5 hours later!  I feel like I could do the same today, but its a work week and I need to go pick up DD soon. 

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Hi Jend and Hyde, I have to agree on both counts - I am constantly hitting something that deletes my posts, but I'm less persistent and will just say forget it and post nothing when that happens.  The other thing that drives me crazy is that I'm on a mac and when something's spelled incorrectly it will show up with a red line underneath, then I can normally hit control + click and it will show spelling alternatives, ONLY on this site, it just says 'copy' instead of showing alternatives.  Regarding baby movements, I'm 19+5 and still feeling very little - sometimes nothing for a day or two.  I panicked last week before my u/s because i went from feeling a little bit (maybe one session of 2-3 movements close together, per day) to feeling nothing and barely slept the night before my appointment, dreamed that there was a problem with the baby, tossed and turned all night.  Everything was perfect on the u/s and it alleviated my fears quite a bit.  Turned out I have an anterior placenta, and the baby was head-down so kicks were being absorbed.  I felt some kicks tonight, low, so I wonder if he turned?  Or maybe those are punches, ha.  That worry-free 'high' from the u/s lasts about 4-6 weeks for me, then I start getting concerned again I've found ;) Good thing the appointments are getting closer and closer together. 

 

AFM, I feel great and have been eating so much better than in the first tri.  Been making a big freh salad to eat with dinner every night.  I'm craving tuna and hotdogs like none other - but can't find hotdogs without preservatives here so don't eat them, and try to only eat tuna about once a week.  I could eat it every day, especially as tuna salad on crackers, made with homemade mayo and relish.  We went to Italy over easter and I had vitello tunnato, thinly sliced roasted veal with a spoonful of an amazing thick tuna 'sauce' on top, at least 3-4 times in as many days.  It was so satisfying to eat, like down to the core satisfying, like filled a primal urge satisfying! And normally I don't really care for it because I don't like veal or tuna. 

 

We found out that the LO is a boy last week, and I'm really excited, but already have the feeling that I really want to try again after this baby so that we can also have a girl - maybe I would feel the same way but in reverse if they had told us it was a girl.  DH is thrilled and has started calling me 'baby momma' which I am loving.  I haven't been around a baby in months (since Jan I think) and I am dying to cuddle a baby and daydream about what's to come -- I'm on the lookout for a nice baby to cuddle!  Been sleeping very lightly lately and having crazy, vivid dreams, often about someone from my past and we're talking veeery nice dreams ;) I wake up feeling guilty and it takes me a second to realize that it was just a dream, that I haven't done anything wrong. 

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JudyBean I feel the need to declutter too! This is the longest we've ever lived in a house (four years) and it's starting to get bad.  Although I hate moving, it's a great way to get rid of excess baggage. I've had most of my babies in the summer--but in July. I'm a bit worried about going all through the summer pregnant. I tend to get really swollen feet and ankles with heat.  Not my favorite. I do think that skirts are a great way to go if you're comfortable in them--much cooler than shorts or capris and easy to make (or modify a non-maternity one) if you can sew a little.

 

We've finally announced to everyone it's a BOY and that has been a fun to do.  And I really feel like I'm getting energy back--until about 1:00 in the afternoon LOL.  I've also cut down on sugar.  You ladies all sound so healthy in your eating! It was nice--you guilted me into deciding that I REALLY need to pay attention to how much sugar I'm eating (the rest of my diet is pretty healthy). That and my weight gain has been motivating as well :-) This pregnancy is completely different from my last one--I started out 20 pounds heavier this time, and with a foot injury (meaning. . not exercising).  That's not a good way to begin!  So I've been feeling even more grouchy with the sugar de-tox going on.  Anyone have ideas on how long it will last?

 

Oh and this weekend was my birthday and my boys made me breakfast in bed!!! AND a cake!!! They used granulated sugar in the icing--so it was extra exciting--but I was so touched and excited that they made such an effort to make my birthday special.  I don't anticipate that it will last forever--so I'm enjoying it while I can!!!

 

 

 

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Originally Posted by crystal_buffaloe View Post

We did some yard work that involved moving some pavers last night, and I walked over to pick one up, bent down, and thought all of a sudden, "That's way too heavy. I shouldn't be doing this." It was the first time I really felt like I physically couldn't do something I could have done pre-pregnancy.
I accidentally didn't invite a mutual friend to a baby shower I held for another friend this weekend and now I'm feeling really crappy about it. It was a pretty small (6 women, 4 kiddos) pretty last-minute thing, but that almost makes it worse -- that the other friend wanted to be invited and would have come, but was overlooked. I'm trying to think of a nice gesture to make that would help her to feel better and not worse greensad.gif
DD is napping in my bed, and I'd really like a nap, too, but I don't want to wake her up. Maybe I'll lie down on the couch.

 

OH! This is so sad about forgetting to invite your friend! Maybe the three of you (mama to be, your friend, and you) could go out to lunch or to the park or something? Or would that be even more awkward?  I feel so bad--I've done the same thing, and no matter how bad you feel, you can't go back and re-do it.  Hopefully she understands that it was a complete oversight and not an intentional omission.   

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i am DYING. three whole days until my ultrasound. dying, i tell you.

 

im stressed about an upcoming move, too, even though it's going to be an easy move as far as moves go. i'll be packing up my little apartment and then literally trucking my stuff AROUND THE BLOCK to the single-family home my SO rents. that is supposed to happen the weekend of may 5th, but the other event is that my sister is coming to visit from the other side of the country from the 30th to the 4th. i am excited to see her, but when i think about preparing for a houseguest, entertaining her, packing, cleaning, and moving, in the same week- along with working full time- i start to feel totally overwhelmed. gah- maybe one of our evenings can be spent eating takeout and packing boxes?

 

i am very tired lately- i feel like the 2nd trimester energy spurt is fading. if i overdo it i start feeling braxton hicks. it's difficult to get comfortable sleeping, and i've also been waking up with leg and foot cramps. the belly is growing fast and my round ligament pain is still pretty bad by the end of the day. i find myself breathless after a flight of stairs and needing to sit down often. i'm only 20 weeks, but whew. sh*t's getting real.

 

but i am so giddy about the babes and excited that SO can finally feel (and hear, he claims) them moving around. and i only have to make it to mid-june, and then it will be summer break.

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Jend - I'm on #3 and am feeling WAY less movement with this one than I did with the last two.  I KNOW I was feeling more movement, even with #1, at this point because I kept track of it.  I'm feeling some, but very rarely, certainly not every day.  I am wondering if I have an anterior placenta - but don't know.   My u/s is on May 14th - right before yours.  


I also think it partly might be because I'm just so dang busy.  I don't get to just sit and be still very often, and when I do it at night for bed I'm asleep in no time.  In the morning I always have at least one kid that's joined me (hubby's always long gone by then) so I don't' get to just lay and be still then either (well, not without them moving or jumping or whatever, keeping me from feeling anything, kwim?).

 

 

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Boo! My US was scheduled for Wednesday but DH suddenly has to go out of town. :( I've rescheduled it for May 1, so just another week but I'm still disappointed. I was looking forward to seeing this little munchkin in a couple days. The good news is that I've felt lots of movement over the last week or so, so that's reassuring at least.

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I read in one of my books that at some point in the pregnancy, it is no longer healthy to sleep on your back because of reduced blood flow to the fetus. Somewhere in MDC I read that this time coincides with when it's no longer comfortable for you to sleep on your back. To those who have been there/done that and/or your book tells you something more specific, does this sound correct? I'm primarily a back sleeper, but I do roll around quite a bit in the night for some time on my sides. I always end up back on the back though because my hips get sore from the side sleeping. And my cat prefers me on the back because he likes to sleep on my stomach, although it's pretty funny now how he keep falling off :).

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I've never really focused on that too heavily, Mole.  I'm a tummy sleeper and at 18 weeks I'm finding ways to make it work, but I often wake up on my back.  I figure the body knows what's best, and there are times when I wake up and just need to roll to  my side because I'm uncomfortable, etc.  I've been this way with both my kids and they turned out just fine!  

 

I'm also still doing workout stuff on my back at the gym that I'm sure most doctors would scoff at - but again - just listening to my body and making sure that I'm always comfortable.  

 

Carlin - I'd be disappointed too!  :-(  Mine isn't until 5/14, so it's a long ways off...or feels that way anyway!

 

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Mole, as a back sleeper I've looked into this quite a bit to decide whether or not I needed to change position, and what I've found is that the danger/discomfort is more to you than to the baby. Some women eventually start to feel faint on their backs because of the reduced blood flow to I don't remember what, others are able to get through the pregnancy with no problem (I'm sure you've read this)--but basically, it'll be uncomfortable for you long before it really poses any risks to your passenger. That was the big bottom line for me.

 

Carlin--sorry you have to wait another couple of days.. standing in solidarity here, looks like we'll both be going in on Tuesday!

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Goin Green - Thanks for the words of reassurance about movement...and glad to hear I'm not the only one that has to wait until Mid-May for an ultrasound!  So you are still doing stuff on your back at the gym?  I did stop that but wondered if it's really necessary at this point.  We did an ab tabata today and I subbed ab mats for plank, which worked perfectly fine, but I think I will get sick of plank and I never did master toes to bar. 

 

wendi - I am getting ready to move in the near term as well.  Good luck!  It can feel really overwhelming but I am trying to embrace the whole nesting aspect of things and do a major purge at the same time.  Moving always helps to clear things out and make a fresh start.

 

Sleeping - I am a stomach sleeper also and it just started feeling off.  I hate sleeping on my side and have been doing all kinds of creative things with an extra pillow but I am just not getting comfortable.  I feel like I barely slept last night.  At one point, I woke up on my back with the extra pillow kind of wedged under one half of my butt - that was actually kind of comfortable and I wasn't flat on my back.  Maybe that's an option for back sleepers?

 

 

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Has anyone been happily typing along then tried to use the backspace but ended up somehow hitting a random shortcut that takes you back on the website and deletes your entire message????  AHH - I feel this just happened to me for the millionth time.  As I was saying....

yes, that has happened to me many many many times and I don't know why! It is really irritating!


re house cleaning:
yes, I feel the urge and the inspiration, but not the energy to do it! my lovely DH surprised me yesterday by decluttering the front entry- soooo nice!

RE: braxton hicks..
So I thought I had felt one the other day- it was a strange sensation, not like cramping or the baby kicking but localized to that area specifically. Then yesterday I had what I thought to be sort of like gas pains, but now I'm worried that they were low grade contractions or something. It was like a dull ache in the belly that would gradually release. I had the same thing yesterday afternoon but I had to pee really badly and also I there was cheese on my lunch and dairy has been hard for me to eat this pregnancy, so I thought it was because of that. Maybe 2 cycles of that, then again when I was laying down last night I felt it again, but just once. so is THAT braxton hicks? also yesterday was the first day in about 2 weeks that I didn't have any RRL tea. not sure if that is significant or not. I'm meeting up with some friends tonight and one of them is my midwife so I guess I can just ask her but what do you ladies think??
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Thanks Hyde and GG. I certainly like the trust my body approach. On my back is definitely still the best position for me to fall asleep in, it doesn't feel uncomfortable to me at all. I tried to lay on my stomach so my sweetheart could massage my back yesterday, and ooh boy that was uncomfortable. I've stopped doing yoga positions on my stomach for the same reason, but everything on my back still feels great.

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Jend, I'm still not feeling tons of movement yet either and it's really frustrating. I'm likening it to watching a pot of water set to boil though. The harder I focus in on it, the more I'm aware of my heartbeat, muscle twitches elsewhere, some gas, but no movement. Then when I'm doing something else, I feel a kick. I wish they were stronger/more regular though...

 

Judybean, I have been given a ton of shirts, which is GREAT. I have exactly 1 pair of pants though. I've been relying on my belly band with regular pants and hoping for warmer weather so I can bust out dresses and skirts. It'd be amazing to get through this pg without purchasing any maternity pants, but I'm sure I'll cave at some point.

 

5B+, good for you for backing off the sugar! I'd say it would take as long as a month for your body to detox and for little sugar loving critters in your gut to die off. This could lead to feeling icky and/or crabby. I have actually upped my sugar intake this pg, allowing myself to have things that I never usually eat. It all just sounds so delicious! And it's not terribly extreme, just more for me than typical!

 

back sleeping: I've always been nervous about back sleeping in late 2nd/3rd trimester. I gain SO much weight and know that my uterus really is squishing that rear vein. That said, I wake up on my back all the time. I try not to stress too much- just roll over a bit. Being propped a little with a pillow at my back seems to help some.

That said, the other night I fell asleep with underwear on (something I never do) under my yoga-ish pants and was side lying. I woke up to pee and had terrible indentations on my hips from the seams of my underwear. They were really painful :(

 

Madi, I'm not sure if they were BH- sounds like it except for the "localized" description. For me, they involve the whole uterus...

 

AFM, things are plugging along. Sleep is ok, eating is constant. Those are two things I think about a lot!

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Goin Green - Thanks for the words of reassurance about movement...and glad to hear I'm not the only one that has to wait until Mid-May for an ultrasound!  So you are still doing stuff on your back at the gym?  I did stop that but wondered if it's really necessary at this point.  We did an ab tabata today and I subbed ab mats for plank, which worked perfectly fine, but I think I will get sick of plank and I never did master toes to bar. 

 

Sleeping - I am a stomach sleeper also and it just started feeling off.  I hate sleeping on my side and have been doing all kinds of creative things with an extra pillow but I am just not getting comfortable.  I feel like I barely slept last night.  At one point, I woke up on my back with the extra pillow kind of wedged under one half of my butt - that was actually kind of comfortable and I wasn't flat on my back.  Maybe that's an option for back sleepers?

 

 

 

Yep. I did some abs on Saturday, and am still doing warm up stuff on my back (roll to v-sits, scorpions and iron crosses, etc.).  If toes to bar aren't great - knees to elbows (or even just knee ups on the bar) are a great sub.  Other good ab stuff are planks (which you're already doing), tuck holds, even rock climbers could work abs (but your quads will kill do - I wouldn't do that on a lunge day!).  I'll try to think of some more.

 

As for sleeping, I tuck one leg WAY up high and then kind of lay in my belly that way, but i"m slightly on my side as well, if that makes sense.  

 

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