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[amysue]

I'm a side sleeper, but I'm way more comfy on my right side than my left.  I've been worried I'm doing something I shouldn't, and then forgot to ask the Dr. last Wednesday  I guess it's not too bad right now.  I'm thinking I'm better off to be comfy and actually get some rest at this point than worry about what side I'm sleeping on.  I try and lay on my left as much as I can but I usually wake up on my right. 

I've had more energy lately, but I didn't get all my laundry done this weekend.  The mountain in the basement is looking better though. 

[MissE]

I just always think that my body is telling me to turn whenever I feel uncomfortable. I also sleep half on my belly with my left leg pulled up. It's my (as DH calls it) "Thumb in my mouth" position, meaning it's so comfy...just like sucking your thumb LOL.

I stayed home today with DD, she's sick again, argh. That girl can just blow any snotty nose out of proportion and end up with a full blown ear infection and bronchiolitis. I got sick Saturday night, I'm feeling better today and DD came down with it on Sunday and she has water and snot galore coming out of her nose. We've been up the past three nights. She wakes up around 330am and then we go and make tea with honey and watch sesame street until we eventually pass out again. Fun times. I swear my body is preparing me for no sleep at all.

Since I had time today I cooked and did some cleanup. Made black bean burgers for dinner later and also made the sorbet that @Mole posted a recipe for. We'll see how that turns out.

Babygirl Flippy is doing fine I guess. She's a true gymnast, had her toes by her forehead with both legs streched out yesterday. She was showing us her goodies and it was right there, in all its glory, even though I could not see the three lines, the ultrasound tech was betting his paycheck on it and said he would pay for all boy clothes if it turned out to be a boy. I have to remember his name LOL.

[teegan db]

Well, I'm officially on board with the pregnant-lady-sorbet - thanks, Mole, for the idea! Hubby and I had rhubarb sorbet after our after-dinner-walk this evening and it was completely delicious. 

I usually alternate between my back and my right side when sleeping, but I've been making an effort to switch to my left side when I wake up and think about it. I've heard often enough that the back-sleeping is not really dangerous for the baby for me to not freak out when I wake up that way. 

I'm pretty compulsively checking in here to see how everyone's weeks are going. I'm at 18w2d, first time mom, so I'm just starting to feel kicks, just starting to pop (and search for cheap maternity clothes options!). However, I've hardly had any of the classic negative symptoms, and I'm hoping that hydration, a healthy diet (with the occasional giving in to cravings, like the yesterday and my first chocolate glazed donut in probably a year), yoga, and walking will keep me in decent shape. We had our ultrasound last week, and everything looked right on target - and the ultrasound doc my midwife sent me to did an excellent job of NOT telling us the sex - though it helps that we told every person we met the minute we walked in the office that we want to be surprised. Hubby has been absolutely unbelievably supportive. Every time I cry about something and complain how I don't want to be crying because I know it's hormonal and irrational, he just tells my how beautiful I am, even while blotchy and with snot dripping out of my nose, and that if a few crying spells are the worst this pregnancy throws at us, he'll consider us both lucky. I've known since the beginning that he's a keeper, but this pregnancy has done nothing but confirm it over and over again. 

I feel terrible for all of you that are having a rough time, and believe me I am counting my lucky stars every moment of this pregnancy that I haven't had any terrible symptoms and that I don't yet already have a toddler (or two or three!) running around wearing me out. I'm just trying to enjoy the good times while they last. 

[MissE]

My hormones have been a lot better lately, even though we did have some family drama, I'm trying not to let it get to me. It hurts my heart everytime DD asks for Oma or Opa on the computer but I cannot talk to my parents right now. Maybe on the weekend, I have to figure stuff out first.

DS has been better the past two days. Turns out, he's having a major growth spurt and is hungry all the time, poor kid. I made him two sandwiches for school, a yoghurt, a leftover cinnamon roll and an orange and he ate it all (he only goes five hours, twice a week to PreK) and he was hungry when I picked him up at 2pm. I went to get him a hotdog (I know, huh...gross but he was begging for it) and at 6pm, when I left for my Zumba class I made him another PB&J sandwich...when we came back at 8pm, he ate half a black bean burger. Poor kid, he must have been starving. Keeping him fed really changes his mood and tantrums and he's so much fun to be around.

What else? Not much going. I'm bothered by my weight gain, even though it shouldn't bother me too much. According to the OBs office I gained around 10lbs, according to my scale I gained 15lbs argh...and I'm only 20 weeks along. Two ladies at my class said that every week they can tell my belly and butt got bigger...ugh...bummer...I tried to laugh it off but it did upset me a bit.

[hyde]

Oy with the kicking/pushing right under/around the belly button.. is anyone getting this? I woke up in the middle of the night to it, and we're going again this morning. On the one hand I'm happy for movement, but on the other, it is such a weird, uncomfortable feeling. Aaand again.

MissE, glad you found the cause of your son's troubles.. keep those PB&Js coming! ;) Re: the weight gain, I don't weigh, but I've been conscious of growing out of clothes around the belly (time for longer shirts, running out of pants, etc.).. yesterday I was videotaped for data collection at work, and when I watched the video I was shocked. I was a 14/16 pre-pregnancy, so I don't yet have the fully rounded belly that a lot of mamas here do- it basically just looks as if I'd gained that much more weight. Logically I know I haven't- other than my belly I'm the same, my face isn't heavier, etc., but it was still an unpleasant surprise to see how I look to people, most of whom probably don't imagine that I'm pregnant. If it's any consolation, you look absolutely adorable and very fit in your recent belly pic! :)

[MadiMamacita]

Originally Posted by hyde 



I was a 14/16 pre-pregnancy, so I don't yet have the fully rounded belly that a lot of mamas here do- it basically just looks as if I'd gained that much more weight. Logically I know I haven't- other than my belly I'm the same, my face isn't heavier, etc., but it was still an unpleasant surprise to see how I look to people, most of whom probably don't imagine that I'm pregnant. If it's any consolation, you look absolutely adorable and very fit in your recent belly pic!

Miss E very fit indeed!
I was much larger than 14/16 pre pregnancy and already looked pregnant to start with, so now I pretty much look like it could be any day (or so I imagine!) I have so far not gained any weight (which is fine by me- I'm not reducing calories or anything like that but I am trying to eat more healthy choices and be consistant about walking etc) and I have read both arguments- in healthy plus sized pregnancies you can gain a "normal" amount of weight or none (as long as you're not being restrictive) and you're fine. My midwife gets nervous when I haven't gained so I might find something reassuring and print it out for her. baby seems to be growing on track so I'm not concerned.

All day yesterday I kept thinking it was Thursday. Nope, just tuesday. ugh. this is going to be a loooong week!

[judybean]

Originally Posted by hyde 

Oy with the kicking/pushing right under/around the belly button.. is anyone getting this? I woke up in the middle of the night to it, and we're going again this morning. On the one hand I'm happy for movement, but on the other, it is such a weird, uncomfortable feeling. Aaand again.

MissE, glad you found the cause of your son's troubles.. keep those PB&Js coming! ;) Re: the weight gain, I don't weigh, but I've been conscious of growing out of clothes around the belly (time for longer shirts, running out of pants, etc.).. yesterday I was videotaped for data collection at work, and when I watched the video I was shocked. I was a 14/16 pre-pregnancy, so I don't yet have the fully rounded belly that a lot of mamas here do- it basically just looks as if I'd gained that much more weight. Logically I know I haven't- other than my belly I'm the same, my face isn't heavier, etc., but it was still an unpleasant surprise to see how I look to people, most of whom probably don't imagine that I'm pregnant. If it's any consolation, you look absolutely adorable and very fit in your recent belly pic! :)

re: kicking... I'm thinking this baby of mine is head-up right now because most kicks are right above my pubic bone still... getting ones by your belly button would mean head-down, I'd think for you!  That's a good thing, right?  (though kicks to the belly button can be awkward ;) ) ... And... re: size I'm in the same boat as you.  I really just feel thicker :/  I'm a 14/16 as well (which is  a big accomplishment for me!  About four years ago I was a 20!  Then lost a bunch of weight... and then got pg with dd4 ... was on my way to wonderfully fit again with running and such and... *boom* got pg with baby #5 ;) ..)  I try to be thankful I'm tall at 5'11", but still wish I looked pregnant instead of just thick.  I'll get there I'm sure.  I've only gained a few pounds total, but I feel like I look like I've gained a lot more!  especially since it's all in my belly region!

[goin' green]

judybean - I think the same.  I'm still wondering if my placenta is anterior, because I'm not feeling much up front.  But today it feels like this babe could put a foot through my cervix!  :-/

[Monkey Keeper]

Hey everyone!!

kicks/movement-- getting pretty regular here at 19w even. I think my child likes to hang out transverse. I feel a lot of movement on both sides nearish my ovaries on a regular basis.  At least I HOPE baby is transverse and there haven't been 2 hiding in there all along! ;)

body changes/weight gain--as of 16w, I hadn't gained anything based on my weight at 6w. I just weighed myself because I've been starving lately and the belly is GROWING, and I think I've gained 5lbs in the last 6w.  UGH. I tend to gain a LOT in the late 2nd/early 3rd tri, so I'm hoping this time is just different. I gained almost 50lbs with my DD2 but only 27 or so with my DS (and none after 35w), and I much prefer the latter. Even with a 5lb gain at 20w, I'll be on track to gain less than 30lbs which is my goal. I feel much healthier and recover better that way.

Long story longer, I'm really popping out now and feel like I look a lot bigger than I every have before at 20w. I will have to dig out pictures to compare!

u/s-mine is not till I'm almost 21w. The waiting is killing me!

[crystal_buffaloe]

Originally Posted by hyde 

It basically just looks as if I'd gained that much more weight. Logically I know I haven't- other than my belly I'm the same, my face isn't heavier, etc., but it was still an unpleasant surprise to see how I look to people, most of whom probably don't imagine that I'm pregnant.

The first place I gain weight is in my face! I swear, I gain 1/2 a pound and it's all in my cheeks/chin. I smile a lot, though, so in my mind it makes it better -- a big fat smiling face -- seriously, I have some impressive cheeks. ANYWHO - Even if you don't *need* them, it might be worth busting out some maternity tops. I know that I felt better and looked pregnant-er when wearing maternity clothes. It's a small thing, but if you're not waiting to tell (and there are cheap options -- I bought 2 great big bins of awesome stuff on Craig's List for next to nothing) I think it would make you feel better -- and it's a signal to everyone else. I kind of look pregnant sometimes even when not pregnant (I've been asked when the baby is due so many times I don't even want to get into it) so I just capitalized on that in the early-ish days. Those clothes are a signal: "Hey, ya'll! Maternity top here with a stinking bow! I'm pregnant!!"

Originally Posted by MadiMamacita 

I have so far not gained any weight (which is fine by me- I'm not reducing calories or anything like that but I am trying to eat more healthy choices and be consistant about walking etc) and I have read both arguments- in healthy plus sized pregnancies you can gain a "normal" amount of weight or none (as long as you're not being restrictive) and you're fine.

I say trust your body here -- and since you're not restricting yourself it sounds great to me I got way healthier during my first pregnancy and didn't gain weight until the second half. It sounds like I did some of the things you're doing -- I started taking a great big walk every day, going to water aerobics 2x a week, and eating a lot more whole foods.

Originally Posted by Jend1002 

So in other news, I am starting to stress about something.  Perhaps it's unfounded.  I don't feel any movement.  Really none.  This is my second so I know what to expect and I don't have an anterior placenta.  I am 18w1d so I guess it's ok.  I am just ready to feel something. I also don't have much of a belly.  I don't have an ultrasound until May 15th and that feels like a really long time away right now. 

I'm really anxiously looking forward to my U/S. I've felt movement, but not a lot, and it's not consistent at all. I keep reminding myself that I didn't feel any with DD until 20-21 weeks, but in a way that was more reassuring, since when I did start to feel it, it was consistent from then on out.

Originally Posted by mole 

I read in one of my books that at some point in the pregnancy, it is no longer healthy to sleep on your back because of reduced blood flow to the fetus.

Just one more vote to trust your body If you're uncomfortable, that's a signal to move, but I just can't see worrying too much about sleeping comfortably during pregnancy!

Originally Posted by MissE 

My hormones have been a lot better lately, even though we did have some family drama, I'm trying not to let it get to me. It hurts my heart everytime DD asks for Oma or Opa on the computer but I cannot talk to my parents right now. Maybe on the weekend, I have to figure stuff out first.

I hope the weekend brings some peace & clarity.

[MissE]

Phew...looong day but a good looong day. I went into Houston today to finally pick up my new passport. I don't know if anybody still remembers but I got a new one mid-february, right before I left for Germany because the old one was almost expired. Well, it's here now, I finally have it on me and I will be FORTY when it expires LOL. Crazy to think that I will be forty at some point of my life haha.

Anywho, I wanted to take the kids to the zoo after picking up the passport but seems like all of Houston schools had a field trip to the zoo today so I told the kids we're not going. bummer. We ended up going to a playground at the park next to the zoo and surprisingly it had a splashpad too, not pretty but hey...it's water so who cares LOL. I packed a HUGE lunch before we left to keep my always hungry DS fed and happy and we had a picknick. I really enjoyed my kids today, they were really really good and well behaved. After playing at the park for two hours we decided to check out the zoo again and it was better, most of the other kids had left, so we spent another two hours at the zoo and then headed back toward home but got invited for icecream and cake at my mother in laws. So we headed over to her house and were back home at 6:30pm...crazy. The kids went straight for a shower and bed and DD was out almost immediately.

When DH came home just now he said that I must have been cleaning up all day cause the house was so clean LOL...but no...there was just nobody to mess up my house today since we were out and about all day.

That's it. I enjoyed being pregnant today, it felt good, probably mostly because I had my kids under control and we all had a good time.

[Carlin]

Happy Wednesday everyone!

19 weeks today! I refuse to call it half way there until I hit 21, but it's getting close! Baby is moving around lots since right around 16 weeks and I'm having lots of fun trying to figure out what position s/he is in based on where I'm feeling movement. Initially it felt like I was being kicked in the diaphragm, so I figured baby was head down, then it filpped to where I was feeling everything just above my pubic bone, and got a few jabs in the cervix which weren't all that much fun! For the last 3 days or so, movement has been all over the place. I think I might have a little acrobat in there!

I had a pretty quiet day today. My parents came over to watch DD for a couple hours while I ran some errands so I picked up some seeds for my garden and stopped for Dog and Cat food. There's a little consignment place next to the pet food and supplies store. Their sign said they had maternity stuff so I popped in and was thrilled to see the whole maternity rack had just been marked down 50% off. So I got 2 pairs of capris, a pair of shorts and 3 shirts for $40! The Capris are a little big, but either I'll just grow into them or get my very talented SIL to take them in for me. Most of it's just Thyme and Motherhood stuff but there were also a couple higher end items so I'm pretty happy. Plus I now have something other than yoga pants to wear this summer!

DH will hopefully be home tomorrow. He was away at a hockey tournament from Thursday to Monday, then had an unexpected work trip come up and headed out of town yesterday. DD has generally handled it pretty well, but was cranky when we Skyped yesterday so wouldn't really talk to him, then was super sad at bed time that she hadn't said bye bye. :( They had a good call today though so hopefully she'll be better tonight.

[MissE]

Do the ladies with planned hospital deliveries here have a doula? I know we have talked about it in the beginning of our pregnancies and I was all about my former doula but I cannot seem to get in touch with her. I keep sending her messages if we could meet and she keeps telling me that she'll call me but, nothing. I'm halfway through (well, almost) pregnancy and I haven't met her once. I know her and she knows me, I told her I'd like her there for baby's birth just because she did such an awesome job in keeping me calm and relaxed last time. .Yet, I'm starting to think if maybe I could do it myself. I don't know...I'm a little scared doing it without her and having all the pressure of birth coaching on my DH again. Not that he's not good but you know...he gets scared too and he's fascinated with all the beeping machines and such.

[wendipauline]

i would love to have a doula, but i think financially it's not feasible. we are going to be reeeeeally stetched thin to cover prenatal and hospital costs as it is. i hope you're able to work things out with yours, MissE!

later today i am going in for my big ultrasound. i can't believe today is finally the day- i'm so excited to see the coconuts again. i'm going to try to savor these last few hours of not knowing if they are boys or girls... 

someone above- or maybe in another thread- mentioned how uncomfortable sleeping is. i'm also at that point. even with my full-body pillow i can't find a position that doesn't hurt. my lower back is the worst, but the belly is also super tight and sore, and the ligaments in my side are super achey, too. i always feel a tiny touch better in the morning, but as the day goes on the pain creeps in stronger and stronger, until by the evening i'm grimacing every time i move. maybe i need to step up my yoga and go more than once a week? 

[MadiMamacita]

21 weeks yesterday! woohoo! Tuesday night some of my friends were getting together to celebrate a birthday at 9pm and I was totally planning on going.. until about 820 when I was exhausted and texted someone to let them know I was out. I was dead asleep by 845!

[Jend1002]

wendipauline - Can you consider seeing a chiropractor that is trained in prenatal care?  I found a wonderful chiropractor and she has been keeping me so incredibly comfortable.  As soon as I have any aches I go in and feel better by the next day.  I had begun to have pain in my tailbone and she nipped that for me.  I also don't have the hip pain that I had last time - although my hips decided to just go ahead and get as wide as possible this time so maybe that's it .  Just a thought, but maybe it will help you! 

Oh - and I am so looking forward to the next two days.  My parents have DS starting today so DH and I actually get to go on a date tonight and then tomorrow evening I skip out of work a tiny bit early for a massage.  Add some sleep in the mix and I am hoping I start the weekend totally refreshed!  The only thing that could go wrong is if DH gets called to a fire.  He usually does when we have a date...but I'll try to put that out of my mind!

[Monkey Keeper]

Originally Posted by Carlin 

19 weeks today! I refuse to call it half way there until I hit 21, but it's getting close! 

HAHAHAHA!! Me too :)  I'm keep joking that I'm so locked into this baby being past due that (s)he is going to come 2 weeks early just to mess with me. But I've gone past my EDD three times, to 41w+ with the two who were not evicted, so that isn't likely.

Originally Posted by MissE 

Do the ladies with planned hospital deliveries here have a doula? I know we have talked about it in the beginning of our pregnancies and I was all about my former doula but I cannot seem to get in touch with her. I keep sending her messages if we could meet and she keeps telling me that she'll call me but, nothing. I'm halfway through (well, almost) pregnancy and I haven't met her once. I know her and she knows me, I told her I'd like her there for baby's birth just because she did such an awesome job in keeping me calm and relaxed last time. .Yet, I'm starting to think if maybe I could do it myself. I don't know...I'm a little scared doing it without her and having all the pressure of birth coaching on my DH again. Not that he's not good but you know...he gets scared too and he's fascinated with all the beeping machines and such.

Yup. I'm using the same doula; she also is a persona friend. I don't think my DH would ever do birth without her after last time. He was such a skeptic, but no more. I have seen my doula, but not professionally. I think it's a bit early to be really concerned about yours being incommunicado. I didn't even hire mine until I was 34w last time--which I know is late, but the situation was different since she is a friend.

Originally Posted by wendipauline 

i would love to have a doula, but i think financially it's not feasible. we are going to be reeeeeally stetched thin to cover prenatal and hospital costs as it is. 

You should post in FYT or look locally--lots of doulas do pro bono work or need births toward getting/keeping certifications. You might find one free or cheap!

Originally Posted by MadiMamacita 

21 weeks yesterday! woohoo! Tuesday night some of my friends were getting together to celebrate a birthday at 9pm and I was totally planning on going.. until about 820 when I was exhausted and texted someone to let them know I was out. I was dead asleep by 845!

Hee! I almost fell asleep putting DS to bed two nights ago. At 8PM. I'm still SOOOO tired.

Originally Posted by MissE 

When DH came home just now he said that I must have been cleaning up all day cause the house was so clean LOL...but no...there was just nobody to mess up my house today since we were out and about all day.

I am cleaning this week like a crazy woman, and then we all are going to be out of town this weekend. So I"m soooo excited to get home to a CLEAN house Sunday night. It's funny how much less messy it gets when there are no small people there...

[MissE]

I ALWAYS have my kitchen and living area cleaned before I leave the house. It doesn't need to be deep cleaned but I don't like coming home to a mess, no matter if we go on a playdate or if we stay somewhere for a few days. I also don't like going to bed to a dirty kitchen. I have learned to ignore some dishes in the sink and not start going nuts at 11pm but I will not tolerate a nasty sink all day long :). My brother is coming on Tuesday and I still have bathrooms to clean and some stuff to buy for our new spare bedroom (the kids moved in together for good now, twinbeds and everything :)). This weekend will be busy with cleaning, picking up and getting ready. I can't wait. I love my brother, he's so much fun to be around and the kids LOVE his girlfriend (they don't have kids themselves would make an awesome mom).

@Monkeykeeper:Really 34 weeks? Ok, then I'm gonna chill a bit LOL. I think last time I met her real early, around 15 weeks or so and we met a couple of times but she lived quite a dstance away from us. We have since moved and the hospital I will be delivering at is even closer to her home so I sure hope it all works out. I haven't seen her in three years, just because she lives so far (and she has ten kids herself). I guess we could even do most of the preparing on Facebook. I don't mind, I just wanna reconnect with her at least once before the birth.

@Wendipauline: LOL...coconuts, that is cute.

[MissE]

Originally Posted by Carlin 

19 weeks today!  

Me too, me too...well, 19+1 today :). We're getting there.

[Ava's Mama]

wendipauline - I think that increasing yoga would be a good idea.  When ever I start to get uncomfortable I do some yoga and it shifts things enough that I am comfy again. 

I am still amazed at how good i feel.  With my DD I was going to the chiropractor three times a week AND going to acupuncture every couple weeks.  I haven't had to do any of that yet with this pregnancy!

My DD told me the other day that she wanted her borther to come out right now!  I told her that he needs to grow a lot more.  Then she said "But mama, I really, really want him!"  SO cute how excited she is!