Originally Posted by travelmumma
Is anyone else feeling like this? How do you deal with feeling like this?
Yes, I'm nervous about having a miscarriage. This is my third pregnancy, my daughter was born in 2008, and I had a miscarriage in Dec 2010 which was very intense. I had some spotting on Sunday night, which really shook me up. I mean, I was scared. All the memories of my last experience flooded over me, and I even had a physical response to it - like my body felt like it did after my miscarriage. It was really unexpected.
I called my midwife immediately and she reminded me that spotting is super normal. Like, it's really really normal. And that helped. And it was also during the time I would've had a period if I weren't 8 weeks pregnant, so that was also reassuring (since I'm told some women bleed when they would normally be cycling otherwise).
So most of the time (other than Sunday night) I manage to stay pretty calm. What I do is a sort of mantra every time I go pee, preparing myself in case I see spotting - and feeling huge relief when I don't. And also I remind myself that there is very little I can do other than eating and living as healthily as possible. I also internally talk to my baby regularly, saying that I love him/her, I hope that he/she is able to grow healthy and strong and meet me, his/her daddy, and his/her big sister, and live a long happy life with us. I think I mostly say these things so I will know this baby will always have experienced as much love as I could offer, regardless of what is to come. Somehow, this makes me feel better - or more present, and less anxious.
I also do my very best to stay in the present. I try not to worry about what has happened in the past, or all the possible negative future outcomes. Ultimately, I know I am part of the collective wisdom of mothers (or that I can tap into it when I need it), and that will carry me through whatever is to come. I know that might sound corny, but I believe it given my personal experiences.
It's also been good for me to think about how the statistics are in my favor.