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My 6 year old still sleeps right next to me... how much time before it will drive me batty?

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So, my newly six-year old dd (as of Sunday!) has always slept with me. Every year we think, oh this year she'll be ready to sleep independently. She has a twin bed next to mine and we start the night by me laying in the queen and she in the twin but she falls asleep with her head on my arm and then I pull my arm out and she stays asleep in her bed. She is just a really awful sleeper and if we don't work hard to get her to settle she will rev herself up and NOT go to sleep. So that is what we fell into after she stopped nursing to sleep a couple of years ago.

 

My main issue is that I don't want her to feel "pushed out" by the baby. As matter of fact she has said she didn't want me to have another baby because then she couldn't sleep with me. But this was the year (even before I got pregnant) that I felt like yes I want her to learn to sleep independently. It's really like she can't sleep without being near someone.

 

I know that at a certain point it will drive me crazy to have her next to me, and to have to crawl over her and her bed to get her up to pee. It's so early that it's not a problem. Can someone who has been pregnant more recently than me remind me when the nighttime sleep gets really bad and you have to get up to pee, and use all the pillows to get comfy, etc? I am totally blanking on that. I feel like maybe mid-way through the 2nd trimester? Trying to figure how much time I have to try to establish a new nighttime routine with her.

 

I guess my first plan is to scoot her bed away from mine, and then lay in her bed with her to go to sleep. But it's a twin bed, and after a point I won't be able to do that anymore, so I guess I would need dh to take over. I will probably need him to take over all nighttime stuff with her at a point...

 

*sigh* It's kinda weird to have these concerns when my youngest is 6 years old... we went through this with my oldest when she was 2 yo, but it was SO much easier to get her used to a new routine, even though I thought it was hard at the time.  My dad is giving her one of those "DreamLite" pillow pets for her birthday, so maybe that will help her with this...

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Are you partnered? Would she sleep with your partner instead of you? When we had our second, Daddy and my eldest started sleeping together while the baby and I slept together. It's worked well for us.

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I'm interested to hear how things go for you with this, as I'm in the same boat!  I have a 6-yr-old who also sleeps with us and I've never been in any big hurry to kick her out of the bed, but I have been thinking that she is getting to the age of maybe moving into her own...  She has a twin bed in our room (which she rarely sleeps in), and I keep her company - either sit or lay with her while she's going to sleep each night - even in our shared bed.   I wouldn't be very comfortable in that twin for long.  I was sort of thinking if her bed were bigger... that might help.  I'll keep you posted if I come up with any great ideas!  xox

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