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[Aletheia]

I'm 8 days pp, and at about 5 days pp, I noticed that I was feeling really irritable and wanting to blame DH for everything.  I also noticed how moony I was getting about my baby.  And I was asking myself how the same hormone cocktail could make me gush with love when I looked at my baby, but overflow with irritation when I looked at my husband.  :)  And now, at 8 days pp, it's full on weepiness.  

When I began crying at breakfast this morning because I wasn't sure I liked my fried egg, DH went to the internet to remember the protocol for dealing with Baby Blues.  He delivered to me 4ml of fermented fish oil (which I really should have been taking already), a box of kleenex, and a long hug complete with back stroking.  I'm feeling better.  But the idea of caring for all three boys alone come next Monday seems way less possible than it did even 6 hours after DS3 was born.  

Add to this the fact that my mother is coming tomorrow-- oy vey. She's not the kind of mother one might want to have around whilst feeling weepy or otherwise incapable.  

If anyone else is dealing with the cruel hand of hormones I've been dealt, share your coping tips!  I'm going to need them come the arrival of a flight around 11:15 tomorrow morning...

[Nazsmum]

 I wish I had words of wisdom.

[flavorfull1]

I am there too. It is weird because I have all of the emotions. I am confident, loving life, think my baby is precious and everything then I am just irritated, sad, and just "off."  It was more intense with my first but this time is really annoying me because I just get in such a funk and I just want to snap out of it. I also have some guilt because I felt all of these huge attachment feelings with DS and this time I am just more chill about the whole "now I have another baby" thing. I don't know how to explain it because I am madly in love with her but it is not this intense primal, super emotional experience that I had postpartum with DS.  It was a big adjustment and this time I feel like it hasn't been as big of a deal and I feel bad about that.  Plus, today, I just started crying because DD has had a super fussy day and night last night.  I am just scared of when DH goes back and I can't take a nap or hand DD off long enough to pee.  I am overwhelmed and happy and just blah all at the same time.  It doesn't help that we are moving next month and have to show our apartment several times a week. I honestly don't know how the house will be clean when it is just me, whine.

[chiromama01]

flavorful-- I can totally relate to the "not such a big deal this time- and feeling guilty for it" feeling.  I am in love with DS but its just not the same, its difficult to describe but I'm somewhat detached, i suppose.  I kind of feel like i've had to do that for my sake because i had to go back to work so quickly.  It makes me sad to leave him, but it's not as bad as I thought it would be.  

DD also has had a difficult time adjusting and has been fussier and more demanding than usual.  

i will say though, I have already braved the first day with both kids alone, and it really went much better than expected.. so take a deep breath Aletheia, and relax.  I stressed out for a solid 4 days before "the day" and wound up really enjoying my time with the kids.  you can do it, and you'll be great.  --no help with the mom situation though, good luck there ;)

more of a commiseration than sage words of advice...