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post #21 of 23
My MIL wanted to be the religious grandma and was constantly giving my son Christian books, coloring books, videos, etc. She gave, he thanked her, and when she left, or we went home, I put the items in a give away box. The coloring book had a picture of Cain killing Able! I believe a young child spending time looking at that violence is more likely to find violence acceptable later in life. My theory, so I withheld the book. After that, it became obvious that she was trying to influence him regardless of my views. I don't think you need to tell any of the Bible stories at any particular age. If it feels right to you, fine, but not just because a relative thinks you should.
post #22 of 23
I'm also in this situation. I am divorced, so my kids are learning Christian principles from their dad and his side of the family (especially my pushy ex-MIL). There is nothing I can do about it. For a long time, my young children were very upset that I didn't believe in Jesus because I was going to hell. They were TERRIFIED on my behalf, because of my ex-family. No matter what I said about people having different beliefs, they were SURE MIL was right about everything. I felt so bad about how my children were feeling, and furious with my ex-family. And there was nothing I could do, because these people are like that on purpose. So I tried to push away feeling upset and keep teaching my children about different beliefs. The library has a handful of children's books about different religions - Hinduism, Buddhism, Judaism, Taoism, Islam, etc., so I kept checking them out and reading to them. Rather than trying to erase my children's knowledge, I had to add on to it. Eventually I came up with a good philosophy in a phrase: "God has many faces and many names." I like watching belly dance videos on YouTube, and I stumbled upon a religious dance from India. It was a woman honoring one of the Hindu gods, and it was beautiful. My younger son was watching with me and asked some questions. I could tell him that the statue was a statue of what that woman thought God might look like. I said this is how people pray in India. Look how she uses her hands and face to pray to God. My son got a huge smile on his face, because I think it all finally clicked for him.
post #23 of 23
I stayed with my husband so my on-laws couldn't do that kind of brainwashing to my son. We left almost 2 years ago when he was a teenager, so their influence now is nil. He doesn't even want to see them, and they can't force him to get together with them. And there are no more gifts!
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