My 20 mo DS has taken to hitting, pinching, and kicking me a lot. He normally spares everyone else. I've read positive discipline and try to go with that.Sometimes when he does this it is a protest for something he doesn't want (to wear shoes, have a clean diaper, be strapped in the car seat, wear a bike helmet, etc.). to avoid it I give him lots of warning when we have to do those things (in 5 min we are going to..., in 2, in 1...) then I try to make it really fun by singing songs that he knows, asking him funny questions... I also give him the chance to do much of it by himself, give him lots of choices throughout the day and related to those necessity and safety things. I redirect. I show him how to touch his mom gently (when he is acting up and other times too)... If redirecting is not an option I tell him that it hurt and ask him to look at my sad face. I try to keep his hands occupied with other things... I feel like I have tried everything. Sometimes I tell him "mommy needs a time out" and I leave the room" he usually follows and does something sweet like hug me just before smacking me again. At times he giggles, and says "ouchy, ouchy!" as he is hurting me, and it often does hurt, a lot.
Any suggestions beyond redirection? This is really frustrating for me. I feel like I loose potentially special moments with my toddler, and like I don't want to be with him sometimes. If DH is home he reinforces gentle touch and takes over to save me from losing it, but I hate the feeling it gives me not to be able to cope with my own child. Oh, and he is in a wonderful day care 3 days a week, they never have this problem, and DS is kind to the other kids (at least as a normal toddler is) he occasionally will hit or push kids when I show up to pick him up. I just don't know where it's coming from, he is not exposed to any TV and rarely interacts with aggressive older kids. Thanks for any help you can give.