My daughter-in-law has screaming rages so much that it is clearly abusive for the children (and my son). Now she has turned on me and left a horrific phone message, calling me 'evil' and saying she doesn't want me near her daughter who I adore. I am very distressed by all of this and feel soi powerless.
The baby is 18 months, the daughter 3 1/2. I thought it was too late for ppd but maybe not. I don't think they have considered this and I also don't think she realizes her behavior is so out of control. She just vents and blames and projects all over the place. I am talking screaming!
I must be very very careful with what I say so as not to further escalate her. Also, the role of mother-in-law is dicey. It seems to matter not that I have consistently been loving and kind.
I feel I have a responsibility to say something, to try to mitigate the abusive situation.We live 3 hours apart and I am planning visit this weekend, regardless of her words.
Anything you can say to me will be appreciated.