Originally Posted by Babinogi
Thanks for all the suggestions. I know that ultimately books can only help to a point. Since this will be my first child and I haven't been around many people with babies, I wanted to just get an overall understanding of what AP is. I think that some of it would be a natural instinct for me, but there is so much to learn. Some things we can learn in a book, some things by feeling our way through situations.
I wondered about the sleep issue - if a baby can only sleep with the parents where in the bed/room. Can't imagine putting a new born or young infant in a separate room, especially for their first few months on earth. I wondered that if they were put down to sleep at 7 and then the parents creeped in at 9 or so, would it disrupt baby. How do you all make this work? I guess I shall see what kind of baby we have in October and take it from there.
These suggestions sound like a great springboard to learn more!
Thank you so much!
For us, the first two months or so, our bedroom was actually the most comfortable room in the house, so we all ended up in the bed as a family and ds would just end up falling asleep while we watched a movie or talked, or even ate dinner. lol At some point, I'd also go to sleep, and then my hubby might move out to the office for some work or something and creep in later in the night. After those first few weeks though, I had my energy back and we had moved, so that the bedroom wasn't always the favorite room. It was so easy to get ds to sleep in those days, and there wasn't really a point to 'bedtime' for months and months, so if he fell asleep while I was still awake, I just left him where he fell asleep and did my own thing...whether that be on the couch, or in the sling, or on the floor on his blanket. When I went to bed, I'd bring him with me, and we'd both easily go back to sleep. Around 5 or 6 months is where I started having my issues where he wouldn't sleep just anywhere, and I was desperate for a 'bedtime' that was different from my own bedtime. lol I really don't know what we did beyond being lucky enough that my husband worked at home and we could have our 'together' time and 'me' time in the middle of the day when ds napped and then just stay up until we were all ready for bed together. lol I do remember that at year on the dot, ds began finally taking to a bedtime routine...bath, stories, nursing in bed around 8pm and I could sneak out easily and just return when I was tired.
That's kept up for the most part ever since although we did have a spell there where he simply wouldn't sleep before 2am. We got rid of the one nap he was taking, and that did the trick (at around 18 months) Now it's as easy as bath, brush teeth, read two books, lay in bed with him for 15 min. reading to myself while he drifts off and then he's down for the night, and I can do whatever I like.
Also, in the beginning, we kept our beds low, like, just the mattress on the floor, and if ds was left anywhere like the couch or bed by himself, we barricaded him in with pillows.
But, anyway, in our experience it was sort of hard to disturb ds once he was asleep! lol