I asked the question in "Parenting" so I don't bore y'all with my questions, but the responses I've received in a short time so far haven't addressed what I was hoping to address. So, I come back to the place where I am not going to be questioned as to why someone might want to allow the them to choose their own bedtime.
How do those of you w/o set bedtimes keep from having to run interference? I could do without my brief (and unfortunately hard-earned) quiet time after they are asleep. I would be content with some quiet time in the evenings while they do whatever if I could actually get it-- if only I didn't have to be "on" at this time of day.
Bedtimes have worked for us, more or less, but it can be hard at times, and the time after all too brief. I can imagine just turning in as a family. I suppose I can still have bedtimes and do that, but the question always arises this time of year as the evenings become gorgeous. They want to stay up, I want to let them stay up, but in past years it has not seemed to work and have gone back to bedtimes.
For now, I'm just talking about younger kids. They will want to go to bed when we do, and not beyond that. What I feel I need is to carve out some down time for myself.