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post #41 of 90

Kale, have you thought about getting four bases and two infant seats?  We did that with my first- bought one infant seat, but two bases for each car. It worked out great!! 

post #42 of 90

Something weird for me that started today is that I normally hate all maternity clothes and hate the idea of buying special clothes just for pregnancy but I have been really wanting to go get a ton of maternity dresses. I think within the next few weeks all my jeans will not be fitting and I think I am not even going to attempt pants after that. haha.

post #43 of 90

Mamas, I am so frustrated with the homebirth midwives here. I don't like the group I used last time. I scheduled a consult with one today, and she stood me up without a phone call. I understand appointments get cancelled: you never know when a mama will give birth, but I do expect a call. The only other midwife I know of in this city is notoriously flaky. I'm hoping to hear of some other options (since the only other I know of means driving to another state or using super hardcore Christians ones when I'm Pagan). Ugh. I wish there were better birth options where I live. I live in a major city, after all.

post #44 of 90

 

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Then there are the strollers. There are a lot of double strollers, but not all can accommodate two infants. The ones that can seem to all be made to take an infant seat. I am so confused right now. Maybe I just need to go into a store and have a look.

 

We didn't have twins, but we had boys less than a year apart. The McLaren Twin Techno worked great for us, because you can use it from birth on both sides. It's pricey ($400, I think), but we still have it today and it fits through standard doorways.

post #45 of 90

worst taste in my mouth the last 2 days. It will not go away no matter what. Almost taste like artificial sweetner.awfull!!!!

post #46 of 90

^ total gross early pregnancy thing

post #47 of 90

Can I just say how MUCH MUCH easier it was to go to work most of the day today than it has been to be with my three kids the past week?  I work away from home about 3 days a week.  It was SO MUCH easier to sit in a chair, think, and talk to grownups than it has been to herd my three intense, smart, demanding children.  I am so much less tired and I feel so much better.

 

I wonder how much better I would feel in a fantasy world where I had a nanny or a mother's helper every day?

 

But I love my kids :-)

 

post #48 of 90

 

 

 

 

 

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flatlander- I spent most of the day yesterday worried that I wasn't having any morning sickness only to have it hit me at night! Then I wished I had enjoyed the break instead of fretting over it!
Things are crazy here- I have really intense classes this quarter so I am very busy with that. Our home loan FINALLY funded today so should get keys tomorrow, then there will be several weeks of work to be done on the house before we can move in (roof, flooring, all new plumbing, painting, some other crap), and we have to get this house ready to rent out. It's going to be a lot of work, but I'm so glad we are finally at this point, we have been working on buying this house for 7 MONTHS! It's a really cool house, though- 1915 mission revival 4 bedroom full of built ins, with 2 big porches, and 1/3 acre in a nice neighborhood pretty close to downtown, so we are stoked. Looking forward to this quarter being over so I can take a breath and work on the house and garden.
Also, I am ridiculously huge all of a sudden and totally freaking out about twins... I am really looking forward to getting an ultrasound at this point. Then someone had to go and tell me that if you get pregnant when you are nursing you are 9 times more likely to have twins! Then I read up on it more and it seems that not consuming dairy or meat makes you 5 times less likely to have twins, so that mitigates somewhat, but still freaking out. I really only want 4, that's enough for me!
We have a minivan that we got for the last baby and I love it... we still commute in our little old civic since we only have to drop off the big kids at school on the way, so that saves a lot on gas, then we drive the van everywhere else. It's sooooo awesome for camping! If you can imagine, we used to do 9 day camping trips from San Diego up the coast, sometimes all the way to Oregon, with 2 kids and 2 dogs in the 2 door civic. When we got the van it got so much easier/ more pleasant to be in the car for so long!

Someone told me that statistic about twins and breastfeeding too!  I was nursing 2 kids when I got pregnant this time! LOL There's no history of twins in our family though and I think that's one of the biggest indicators (for fraternal anyways) so I'm not too worried!

 

 

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My second was conceived when I was nursing, too. It's not the odds that are causing me to worry (they are just adding to it), it's my humongous belly!
Check out this pic I took for some facebook friends today... I'm only 8 weeks! I know bellies pop out sooner with each kid, but this is WAY bigger than I was at this point last time.
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My tummy looks almost exactly the same! I can't button up my coat anymore!

 

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I've started thinking about all the stuff we're going to need with twins, like four carseats, since we both have to drive to work, and there will be days when I pick up/drop off and days when my DH does the shuttling. There are also times when I may have to work a little later and need him to pick up, so it isn't as if we can just 

 

I'm just trying to decide on the type of carseats. I know a lot of people buy the infant seats because they can easily take out the baby without waking them up, and put them onto a stroller, but I'd really rather not have to buy 8 seats. So, I'm thinking we'll buy something a little more expensive, but that can take them from infant to toddler. Even better if it eventually converts to a booster. I just don't know, and the options are overwhelming.

 

Then there are the strollers. There are a lot of double strollers, but not all can accommodate two infants. The ones that can seem to all be made to take an infant seat. I am so confused right now. Maybe I just need to go into a store and have a look.

We never used the infant bucket seats!  We just transferred them from the seat to the sling...they've always stayed asleep no problem!  Of course, with twins...I'm not sure!  I'm sure you'll figure it out!  Definitely check out the parenting multiples board, I'm sure they'll have some answers!

 

 

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Mamas, I am so frustrated with the homebirth midwives here. I don't like the group I used last time. I scheduled a consult with one today, and she stood me up without a phone call. I understand appointments get cancelled: you never know when a mama will give birth, but I do expect a call. The only other midwife I know of in this city is notoriously flaky. I'm hoping to hear of some other options (since the only other I know of means driving to another state or using super hardcore Christians ones when I'm Pagan). Ugh. I wish there were better birth options where I live. I live in a major city, after all.

I'm sorry! :(  That would be super frustrating!  I hope you find someone that works well for you!  (((hugs)))

 

post #49 of 90
Thread Starter 

Random side note, is anyone else having freakishly frequent bloody noses? I had them occassionaly when I was pregnant with DD2, but holycow, it seems like every time I turn around I have a bloody nose dizzy.gif

 

I made another pair of maternity jeans today-totally needed them, lol. Kalista, grats on the house mama!! The m/s is picking up, although no puking lately-just pretty intense nausea all the time. Right now I am waiting for cake to cool so I can ice it and then go hide and eat. it. all. eat.gif

post #50 of 90
darkblue- I've been having lots of awful bloody noses. I often get them during Santa Ana winds or the winter when I lived back East, but right now it's not hot or dry and I am getting them. I do tend to get them when my blood pressure goes up, which it always does when I am pregnant- it's still low, I think it was 100/65 when I had my appt yesterday, but it apparently doesn't take much!

I was bummed to discover at the appt that I am still a couple weeks out from being able to hear on the doppler, I can never remember when that stuff happens. But I am going to have an ultrasound next week so that's good.

Midwife was nice and I had seen her during my last pregnancy so it was fun. Being at the posh La Jolla clinic was also very nice! (not something I am used to, but my university insurance sends me there since it is their hospital- woohoo!)
post #51 of 90

Can I get some advice on lying about LMP?

I see a group of MWs who cannot attend HB after 41w6d. My last child, my sixth, was born at 41w5d, was small and covered in vernix though my dates were correct. This was after a failed attempt at castor oil induction. They had me scheduled for a pit induction which I wasn't interested in, but would have had a hospital birth regardless. I was stressed beyond belief. My babies are not born before 41w, I'm not comfortable with UC due to some past issues, and this group is my only hope for HB. I plan on having the NT and anatomy scans which will, of course, date the pregnancy. They told me last time that unless the difference between EDD by LMP and EDD by ultrasound varied by more than a week, they'd stay with original dates. I know the exact day the sex happened that got me pregnant - it was only once. My first appointment is scheduled for Tuesday and I'd like to stretch out (blatantly lie) my LMP by a few days. Three? Four days? Nothing huge as I'd like it to go uncontested, but also give me a couple days breathing room when I'm pushing 42w. What do you think?     

 

post #52 of 90

I say ABSOLUTELY!! If it meant the difference between having a peaceful HB vs. hospital birth I would definitely "fudge" by 4-5 days just to be safe. As a matter of fact if the MW's that I have been interviewing had been hardcore about not going past 42 weeks I think I might have done the same thing as you. 

 

My last little guy was born at 41w6 days too. The MW's have all said that if that is how my body works then they would be willing to go past 42 weeks. One MW did say that most "normal" pregnancies would be 40-1/2 - 41-1/2 weeks long but most people induce before they ever get there. She said that she may want a NST done if I went 41+ but none of the 3 that I interviewed seemed particularly concerned about going a little past 42 weeks.

 

I know everyone uses that 42 week mark as some kind of cut off but I don't think it needs to be so cut and dry. When my son was born so late I kept hearing how he is "just getting fat in there" and how the placenta is breaking down, blah, blah..... My son was only 7 lbs, 11 oz. and my placenta had very little calcification. The OB who delivered me was not my OB (he hadn't made it to the hospital yet) so she didn't know me. She said it didn't look like a post date placenta. (And like you I was very sure of my LMP, date of conception and had the date confirmed at a 6 week u/s....I KNEW my dates were right).

post #53 of 90

I'd do that too, Kawa.  I worry more about the other direction because apparently my babies cook quick - my kids were born at 38+4, 39+4, and 36+4 so I'm thinking I'm going to need to have a hospital plan in case I go before 36 weeks.  But I will definitely be using conception date to determine when 36 weeks is, not LMP because this cycle was weird and I KNOW I ovulated 4 or 5 days earlier than LMP would indicate.

post #54 of 90

Thanks ladies. 
 

I'm waiting to tell the older kids about this baby because we're about to move, our family has basically been thrown away by my partner and I don't want to heap more stress than needed on them just now. I did tell my 10mo and just now told my 2yo. She said "Baby? You? You baby? You baby in tummy? No baby! Nooooo!" and ran away. Tough crowd. 

post #55 of 90

Oh Kawa, I wish you didn't have all of that unneeded stress. I would absolutely lie about your dates if that gives you more time. It's just sucky that you have to do that in the first place.  And a castor oil induction? irked.gif  I did that with my first and do not wish that on any woman!    (((big hugs))) 

post #56 of 90

Oh, Kawa.  That's hard.  We are in a lot of transition right now (different, but similar stress levels possibly).  The kids have been mostly positive, but my 2 yo has told me that I'm not pregnant because I'm her mommy right now.  :-(  I can do both, but when I'm not feeling capable of much of anything, it kind of stings.

post #57 of 90

I am having bloody noses except it is so dry, its more like bloody boogers.

I did castor oil with the last one.  It was a nice mix of food poisoning and natural child birth...

 

post #58 of 90

we are going to a death in the family and it just made the past 2 days crazy. i need some serious rest. i cant take care of my toddler and my stomach hurt from stress.

post #59 of 90

 

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Originally Posted by kawa kamuri View Post

Can I get some advice on lying about LMP?

I see a group of MWs who cannot attend HB after 41w6d. My last child, my sixth, was born at 41w5d, was small and covered in vernix though my dates were correct. This was after a failed attempt at castor oil induction. They had me scheduled for a pit induction which I wasn't interested in, but would have had a hospital birth regardless. I was stressed beyond belief. My babies are not born before 41w, I'm not comfortable with UC due to some past issues, and this group is my only hope for HB. I plan on having the NT and anatomy scans which will, of course, date the pregnancy. They told me last time that unless the difference between EDD by LMP and EDD by ultrasound varied by more than a week, they'd stay with original dates. I know the exact day the sex happened that got me pregnant - it was only once. My first appointment is scheduled for Tuesday and I'd like to stretch out (blatantly lie) my LMP by a few days. Three? Four days? Nothing huge as I'd like it to go uncontested, but also give me a couple days breathing room when I'm pushing 42w. What do you think?     

 

 


I had to do the same thing with baby #1 so that my insurance would cover my pregnancy. I think it was 4 days different from the actual day and they went by what I told them and not by what that ultrasound said.

post #60 of 90

I also had a lot of bloody noses with my last 2 pregnancies.

 

Can I just say, that I am feeling really amazing!? I mean really I should be lying on the bathroom floor ready to puke into the toilet and I haven't even been close to nauseous yet. I am only 5 weeks today but I have only had some twinges of headaches and twinges of heartburn depending on what I ate, and that's about it! U would probably be more worried about lack of hardcore symptoms except that this baby is always hungry and I am starting to get a stomach.

 

Has anybody had nausea with one gender of baby and not the other? Because I had Hypermesis G. with the first and horrible nausea with the second and they were both girls.

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