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post #61 of 90

Kawa and Sweet Milk - hug2.gifSorry about all the additional stress going on in your lives.

 

I'm continuing to look for a midwife. The search isn't going well. I don't know. If we can't find anyone I like, we'll do a UC, but I think my ideal would be a very hands-off midwife. I know there are CPMs in this city, and probably great, very hands-off ones, but with the legal climate, I don't know if I'll find the one that's right for me.

post #62 of 90

Oh man, right there with you guys on the bloody noses. Nothing crazy, but definitely more so than normal. I had no idea that was a PG symptom.

post #63 of 90

I haven't had a bloody nose, but I did have bloody gums the first couple of times. I remember waking up in a panic because a pillow down by my waist was bloody and I thought I was spotting. (Turned out I had just drooled on my pillow and then somehow kicked it down to the foot of the bed during the night.) lol.gif

post #64 of 90
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Originally Posted by kawa kamuri View Post

Can I get some advice on lying about LMP?

I see a group of MWs who cannot attend HB after 41w6d. My last child, my sixth, was born at 41w5d, was small and covered in vernix though my dates were correct. This was after a failed attempt at castor oil induction. They had me scheduled for a pit induction which I wasn't interested in, but would have had a hospital birth regardless. I was stressed beyond belief. My babies are not born before 41w, I'm not comfortable with UC due to some past issues, and this group is my only hope for HB. I plan on having the NT and anatomy scans which will, of course, date the pregnancy. They told me last time that unless the difference between EDD by LMP and EDD by ultrasound varied by more than a week, they'd stay with original dates. I know the exact day the sex happened that got me pregnant - it was only once. My first appointment is scheduled for Tuesday and I'd like to stretch out (blatantly lie) my LMP by a few days. Three? Four days? Nothing huge as I'd like it to go uncontested, but also give me a couple days breathing room when I'm pushing 42w. What do you think?     

 

 

How'd the appt go?

 

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we are going to a death in the family and it just made the past 2 days crazy. i need some serious rest. i cant take care of my toddler and my stomach hurt from stress.

 

No kidding! We had two deaths in the family over the last week, one thursday night which brought about the possibility of loading all the kids up for a three day (one way) road trip..... I was VERY stressed for about a 24 hour period, then another death (this one local) two days later. So the road trip got scrapped since we have a funeral here tomorrow. We may be making that long trip in June tho..... hoping I can figure a way to wriggle out of it.... One of DH's aunts. I never met her.

 

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Originally Posted by zebrachick83 View Post

I haven't had a bloody nose, but I did have bloody gums the first couple of times. I remember waking up in a panic because a pillow down by my waist was bloody and I thought I was spotting. (Turned out I had just drooled on my pillow and then somehow kicked it down to the foot of the bed during the night.) lol.gif

 

HAHAHA how scary! But really funny!

post #65 of 90

I'm sorry to hear about all of you with deaths in the family. We lost my husband's grandfather in April. He was such a wonderful man, and he really loved babies, so we're sad he won't get to meet ours.

 

 

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I haven't had a bloody nose, but I did have bloody gums the first couple of times. I remember waking up in a panic because a pillow down by my waist was bloody and I thought I was spotting. (Turned out I had just drooled on my pillow and then somehow kicked it down to the foot of the bed during the night.) lol.gif

 

A few weeks ago, I woke up with the worst pain in my abdomen. I was doubled over and crying because I thought something was terribly wrong. Well, I got up and went to the bathroom, and well...it was just gas. blush.gif

 

 

So, I'm grateful to have a job, especially in my degree field, and with excellent benefits that even made this pregnancy possible, but man do I wish there was some sort of early pregnancy leave. I just feel awful today and I can barely keep my eyes open. I'm just not productive at all. I have sick leave, but I'm wary of wasting it right now.

post #66 of 90

So sorry for everyone who has losses.  It's weird, but it seems like so many people I know are going through really tough, stressful times.  The irony here, this baby was a result of serious stress.  There's only been two times that my cycle has been affected by stress, and that last time was around 17 years ago.  This past cycle was when the stress became so overwhelming I wasn't sleeping right, not eating right...you name it, every thing was just off.  So, my NFP was so not accurate.  Woops.  I had thought I might have been anovulatory that month even.  I guess not.  lol.gif  Well my point is, I was definitely not taking care of myself during this stressful time, and in a funny way I think this is God's way of ensuring that I actually take care of myself!  Too funny.  Good things can sometimes come out of bad things, and even if my stressful stuff has a horrible outcome if I wind up getting a happy, healthy baby out of it then hey, it's way worth it.  Just take care of yourself mommas!

 

Called the midwives today, got an appointment for 12 weeks.  I have to decide before that if I want any sort of prenatal testing because they'll likely need to set that up a week or so before the appt.  I am not sure what, if anything, I would do.  I think I need to have a discussion with DH.  3/4 pregnancies before I did the quad screen, just for peace of mind.  But I believe I'm likely not going to get good results from that test at my age!

post #67 of 90
I too am going to have to talk to dad about screening.
I had a 1:2 chance of getting pregnant having unprotected sex for a year "at my age".
(It was on
ce lol almost a week from ovulation day)
I had a 3:10 of losing this baby by 6 weeks "at my age"
So really its all numbers.
And I beat the "odds" already getting past 6 weeks.
post #68 of 90
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Originally Posted by tibris View Post

How'd the appt go?

 

No big deal. I fibbed by four days and am going for an US this morning - I'm 6w...something days. Not too worried about that revealing the truth as I'm positive about dates and it wasn't a huge stretch.  

post #69 of 90
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No big deal. I fibbed by four days and am going for an US this morning - I'm 6w...something days. Not too worried about that revealing the truth as I'm positive about dates and it wasn't a huge stretch.  

I think it makes sense to fib on LMP date when you are pretty sure about the conception date and it is more than 14 days after the LMP. I didn't ovulate until CD21 the cycle I got pregnant, so I am just saying my LMP date is 7 days later than it really was, so that I am not considered to be a week further along than I actually am!! I am VERY certain because of a clear temp shift as well as because of when I got my BFP (I started testing super early!!).

post #70 of 90
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I think it makes sense to fib on LMP date when you are pretty sure about the conception date and it is more than 14 days after the LMP. I didn't ovulate until CD21 the cycle I got pregnant, so I am just saying my LMP date is 7 days later than it really was, so that I am not considered to be a week further along than I actually am!! I am VERY certain because of a clear temp shift as well as because of when I got my BFP (I started testing super early!!).

 

For sure. I wasn't keeping track aside from LMP, knowing the one and only day we had sex, what I assume was implantation spotting, and when I clued in and got a BFP. It was textbook. The bummer for today is having to take my 2yo and 10mo along and alone for the US. It'll be interesting.   

post #71 of 90
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Originally Posted by kawa kamuri View Post

 

For sure. I wasn't keeping track aside from LMP, knowing the one and only day we had sex, what I assume was implantation spotting, and when I clued in and got a BFP. It was textbook. The bummer for today is having to take my 2yo and 10mo along and alone for the US. It'll be interesting.   

They talked to me about the possibility of doing some sort of 'dating' ultrasound.  Though I told them I was likely only fuzzy by 2-3 days (I took a couple of tests a couple days before my positive which were negative so I can't be too far off I figure).

 

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I too am going to have to talk to dad about screening.
I had a 1:2 chance of getting pregnant having unprotected sex for a year "at my age".
(It was on
ce lol almost a week from ovulation day)
I had a 3:10 of losing this baby by 6 weeks "at my age"
So really its all numbers.
And I beat the "odds" already getting past 6 weeks.

 

It is amazing sometimes!  I didn't think, being that I'm 37, that I would have this happen from a one time thing.  I knew that in theory it would be possible if my cycle went wonky....but I figured, hey...I'm old LOL!  Half of all women have infertility issues at the age of 35!  Go figure.  The funny thing was, I was thinking in the back of my mind if there was that soul waiting to come down, etc. then that would be a good time for them to take advantage of the situation LOL.

 

Though yesterday talking to the receptionist at the mws office she said technically they don't consider me higher risk there until I'm over 40....and she joked that she has a 46 year old mom there about ready to give birth so she doesn't think of me as advanced maternal age!  

post #72 of 90

The EDD via ultrasound is the same as my lie EDD. I'm apparently very good at dishonesty?

post #73 of 90

Ugh! I think I might have to cut way back on my weight lifting at the gym. I am mostly doing leg exercises that were prescribed by my orthopedic for knee problems, but today when I was doing my regular amount of weight I started to get achey in my lower abdomen. Dislike....I also rolled over some kinda heavy pieces of wood that are in our yard and had to lift a 50 lb. bag of feed yesterday, and was achey after that. I think since I haven't been sick at all (yet, anyway) it's harder for me to remember that I should still act like a pregnant lady.

post #74 of 90
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Ugh! I think I might have to cut way back on my weight lifting at the gym. I am mostly doing leg exercises that were prescribed by my orthopedic for knee problems, but today when I was doing my regular amount of weight I started to get achey in my lower abdomen. Dislike....I also rolled over some kinda heavy pieces of wood that are in our yard and had to lift a 50 lb. bag of feed yesterday, and was achey after that. I think since I haven't been sick at all (yet, anyway) it's harder for me to remember that I should still act like a pregnant lady.

 

 I hear ya! Although, I totally don't lift weights, I get crampy when I wear my 2.5 year old on my front for too long or when I hula hoop for more than 15 minutes.   I've never had that symptom though. 

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Originally Posted by kawa kamuri View Post

The EDD via ultrasound is the same as my lie EDD. I'm apparently very good at dishonesty?

 

Awesome!  Now I hope you don't have to worry when the birthy time comes.

post #75 of 90

I'm right there on the non-textbook cycles! Thank goodness my midwife is fine with using ovulation date, because my cycles have been 42 days long, and I usually ovulate on day 28 or 29. I definitely had a clear shift the day after CD28. If I had to go by LMP, they'd be saying I was 2 weeks further than I actually am.

post #76 of 90

:( I'm starting to get a bad feeling about this one. I woke up this morning and could immediately feel a difference in my abdomen, it doesn't feel full. I also didn't need to pee as soon as I got up. I'm also not starving, I was hungry when I went to bed, I should feel like my stomach is eating itself. I told DH that yesterday I didn't feel pregnant kinda sick, but like I had caught something. This sucks. My OB doesn't work fridays, the earliest I can get in to see her would be next tuesday.

post #77 of 90
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Originally Posted by tibris View Post

:( I'm starting to get a bad feeling about this one. I woke up this morning and could immediately feel a difference in my abdomen, it doesn't feel full. I also didn't need to pee as soon as I got up. I'm also not starving, I was hungry when I went to bed, I should feel like my stomach is eating itself. I told DH that yesterday I didn't feel pregnant kinda sick, but like I had caught something. This sucks. My OB doesn't work fridays, the earliest I can get in to see her would be next tuesday.

You have in your siggie you're 10 weeks....for some moms morning sickness and pregnancy symptoms can start to subside at that time....try not to worry!  I wouldn't go by not feeling sick enough as an indicator of a major problem. hug2.gif

 

I sort of caved and mentioned the pregnancy to someone last night...someone who I swore to secrecy.  Somehow though, I think I needed to tell someone I knew.  I figure then, if someone did happen at least I'd have someone who understood somewhat about what I was going through.  

post #78 of 90
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Originally Posted by tibris View Post

:( I'm starting to get a bad feeling about this one. I woke up this morning and could immediately feel a difference in my abdomen, it doesn't feel full. I also didn't need to pee as soon as I got up. I'm also not starving, I was hungry when I went to bed, I should feel like my stomach is eating itself. I told DH that yesterday I didn't feel pregnant kinda sick, but like I had caught something. This sucks. My OB doesn't work fridays, the earliest I can get in to see her would be next tuesday.

Tibris I was having the same kinda thoughts lately, too. I feel perfectly fine for the most part. Just a little more hungry than normal and slight heartburn off and on and headaches off and on. I'm trying to stay positive! I partly feel like since I have never had a miscarriage I probably won't this time but I also feel like since I haven't had a miscarriage that maybe it's "my turn" or something. IDK, I'm trying to go with the flow, eat healthy, take my vitamins, listen to my body, etc. I know there is nothing I can do about it either way at this point.

post #79 of 90

I'm only 6 weeks this Sunday.

post #80 of 90

Thanks ladies, I'm 10 weeksish :p If you go by O date I'm due Nov 30th, conception date Dec 1st, but the u/s puts me due Nov 29th, so I'm straddling clubs cause it seems most of the women in the November club are due in the first week so it feels like they are light years ahead of my (3 weeks is a big difference in pregnancy!) I know I'm probably over reacting cause I'm worried about losing this one, but thanks for letting me vent. Hearing DH say everythings fine doesn't really help, especially since he thought I was over reacting the day I found out we lost the last one.

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