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[QMtwins]

I don't post on here much, but very few people around me know I'm pregnant...so, you all are it for me right now! 

I am 12 weeks and began my pregnancy care at 6 weeks with some midwives and planning a great VBAC.  Previously had twins at 36 weeks   after a failed induction due to pre-eclampsia.  So, really looking forward to a healthy, normal pregnacy and delivery. 

Since these midwives are so far away and I'm an RN for an OB, I planned some of my care with my OB practice.  I went for my nuchal translucency ultrasound today and we discovered its mono-di twins. 

Already had an ultrasound by the midwives on a crappy little machine and three of us (2 midwives & myself) with "semi-trained" eyes saw only one! 

Seriously...another set of twins??!!  I feel like some statistical anomoly that I wasn't meaning to be.  Its all still sinking in, but I feel my healthy normal pregnancy slipping away.  We are just stunned. 

[Bella Catalina]

Oh mama :hug: I cannot imagine the shock! Congratulations x2! Would you be a candidate for a vbac with this pregnancy if all goes to plan and babies are in the right position?

There are another couple of moms (at least) around with multiple multiples.

[tibris]

Actually it's totally normal for a mama who naturally had twins to do so again. My grandfather was a twin, his mother actually had three sets of twins. It's in your genetics and any girl you have is likely to carry the same genetics :) I know it's got to be a shock, but congrats! My sis just had twins and didn't have any trouble at all, carried to almost full term and birthed just fine. Every pregnany is different so don't stress, just keep telling yourself every pregnancy is different and this one is going to go exactly as you want it to!

[TheDivineMrsM]

WOW. Double congratuations!

I actually know another mama that had a set of twins through IVF. They're 9 months old and she's pg with twins that were conceived naturally.   Good luck and a happy and healthy 9 months! 

[finnegansmom]

Wow congrats!

[abouttobe5]

Holy smokers!  Congratulations!!!   

[sere234]

Wowie!! Congrats! 

Hopefully this pregnancy will be much easier than your last!

[Bmorefarmgirl]

Oh my. I'm so sorry and congratulations! You must be going throu some wild emotions right now. Just hang on to hope and get as much rest as you can. Your pre-e was fairly late coming on, so hopefully these new twins will be ready to come out before any complications arise. Hugs to you!!

[QMtwins]

OK, so we're about 4 days into this new knowledge of having twins again.  Its still a shock, but as we tell people it becomes more and more real. 

Now we are moving forward and trying to figure out where we are going to live, what kind of vehicle to purchase and most importantly for me, where do I continue my pregnancy care.  I was so looking forward to midwives and a low risk pregnancy. 

Turns out, even though these twins are not a hereditary phenomenon that a cousin told me that my great grandmother had 7 sets of twins and 7 singletons!  Holy moly to that!  Perhaps it is in my genes to carry twins, no matter how they are fertilized or split! 

We'll make it and so far we've been promised lots of help! 

Thanks for the congrats...I am really working hard to feel it and find the joy and blessings here instead of the fear and terror of what I know is coming! 

[JodiAriel]

Congrats!  I totally understand what you are going through.  I will be 13 weeks tomorrow and am still mourning my "normal" pregnancy and plan for homebirth (I am a labor doula).  Instead I am being dual managed by a midwifery group at the hospital I want to deliver at and the maternal fetal medicine group at Yale.  I am hoping the midwifery group at least will give me some chance at a vaginal medication free delivery but I am already running into all kinds of "rules".  Twins must be delivered in an OR (regardless of positioning), they like to place an epidural line (without meds) in case of an emergency c-section, oh and the biggest one, of the 5 supervising OBs at the hospital only one does breech deliveries (I will only attempt a vaginal delivery if baby a is head down - I don't want to have to go through recovery for vaginal delivery and c-section both). 

Sometimes I feel awful feeling this way since we went through a long time of fertility treatments to get here and I'm thrilled to be pregnant, just overwhelmed and disappointed that things aren't going to go the way I had imagined (although I guess I need to get used to that feeling - esp with twins).

[katroshka]

Wow!!! So your great grandmother had 21 kids???

I can only imagine what you are going through... it's always a big fear for me that I am going to have twins, and now that I have three kids and only want one more I am totally worried that I will have twins! But I'm sure you will cope just fine and someday it won't be a big deal at all.

When I got pregnant with my second, my first was only 6 months old and I FREAKED. I couldn't imagine having another baby so soon, and was so worried about how my oldest wouldn't get as much love and attention any more. I had also been put on bedrest for 2.5 months during my first pregnancy, and I was terrified that would happen again- how would I take care of an infant if I was on bedrest?

As it turned out, I had no problems with my pregnancy and it was such a wonderful thing having two so close that when #3 was 6 months old I started trying for #4! Everything has a way of working out in the end, so congratulations!

[tibris]

That was normal back then. My great grandmother had three sets of twins and 12 singletons for a total of 18. Only 7 made it beyond childhood, my grandfather's twin didn't make it beyond the first year, part of the reason they had so many was mortality rate.

[katroshka]

Wow, I guess that was normal... none of my great grandmothers or their mothers had that many. I think 8 was tops in my family!

[Thyme Mama]

Originally Posted by tibris 

That was normal back then. My great grandmother had three sets of twins and 12 singletons for a total of 18. Only 7 made it beyond childhood, my grandfather's twin didn't make it beyond the first year, part of the reason they had so many was mortality rate.

My husband's great-grandparents had 21 children. In the 40's and 50's, it was more common to have closer to 10 kids, rather than the 20 kids of the earlier 1900's. My mom came from a family of 11 kids, my father from a family of 9 kids. But again, that was in the 40's and 50's

[tibris]

My grandfather was born in 1918 :p you're making me feel old Thyme! He and my grandmother only had two kids in 1944 (I think) and 1950. Not sure why they didn't have more come to think of it my grandmother would have been 25 when my dad was born.... odd that she didn't have more..... not sure when she started at the job she retired from....... guess that's just a great example of the time when women started to choose job over home.

[Thyme Mama]

Originally Posted by tibris 

My grandfather was born in 1918 :p you're making me feel old Thyme! He and my grandmother only had two kids in 1944 (I think) and 1950. Not sure why they didn't have more come to think of it my grandmother would have been 25 when my dad was born.... odd that she didn't have more..... not sure when she started at the job she retired from....... guess that's just a great example of the time when women started to choose job over home.

You're not old!!! My grandparents were born in the teens and 20's, just like Dh's grandparents. My wording must have been off :) It's so hard to communicate clearly and quickly sometimes (I have Aspergers). Those 21 kids (Dh's grandparents generation) were all born in the teens and 20's. My parents and Dh's parents were born in the 50's.