Originally Posted by kateadelle
We plan on finding out. I am embarrassed to admit that we have a pretty strong gender preference and I would rather find out ahead of time what to expect.
I don't think that's anything to be embarrassed about! I think it's pretty normal to have a preference. You'll love your baby either way.
DH and I don't plan to find out. This is our first, and I think it will be fun to find out at the birth when we get to hear "It's a ___!" after all that hard work of bringing the baby out into the world. And in more practical terms, with this being our first baby, I would love to avoid the flood of pink or blue things from well-meaning family and friends. Yes, it is the thought that counts, and no one has to give us anything at all. But still, it would be nice to get things that we can use for all future babies, regardless of the sex.
BUT. I should say that I'm starting to wonder more and more if maybe we should find out, and just keep the information to ourselves. I know DH has a preference, and while I'm trying to remain as neutral as possible to be fair to the baby, sometimes I do have to admit to myself that I do too (even though I know I'll be thrilled either way because Hello, we made a baby!). So maybe it wouldn't be a horrible idea if we found out (and still kept it to ourselves to avoid the pink and blue). I never thought I'd consider finding out -- we've said for years that we wouldn't -- but I imagine it may become harder to hold out around 20 weeks when the ultrasound tech asks us the question on the spot.
I still really want that "It's a ___!" moment. But every now and then I'm really scared that we might feel the smallest bit of disappointment if we hear one answer over another, and I don't know if I'm okay with that. Anyway, only 8 weeks along, so there's plenty of time to decide for sure.