Hi moms, I haven't reached this age in parenting mine so I wonder about this new friend of ours. A girl from down the street has started hanging out with us every day after school and eating dinner with us every day. My boys are 2 and 6. She's 10 and lives with her aunt and grandma. I haven't met them yet, I had her mention meeting them sometime on the phone when she checked in today but they said it was not a good time today. The girl says their puppy is too territorial for anyone to go to her house so I couldn't go meet them any time. She says she's allowed to go in anyone's house if they have kids. Today she asked if she could spend the night, and I said maybe one day but I'd have to meet her family because in their position I'd never leave my 10 year old overnight with somebody I hadn't met, she really pushed it asking why not tonight, it's ok with her family, she does it all the time. Also she's been asking when are we going places, can she come too, etc. Honestly we get so few chances right now to do stuff as a family I need the break with just DH, the kids, and me even if I had been comfy taking some stranger's kid somewhere.
She want to come over as soon as she is allowed and never wants to leave for me to get my kids wound down for bedtime, also she's odd about food, fishing for dinner invites, everything we eat is new to her (asparagus, wild rice, homemade coleslaw, stuff like that), and keeps commenting how I play with my kids and I don't yell at them (I do correct them like constantly actually, they're crazy little boys after all). Portions go down a little fixing her a plate but it's ok as long as it doesn't keep happening EVERY night. She is good to have around though because with just us here the boys mostly like to have screen time in the evenings and when she is here instead we take more walks, do art, and play pretend. She is polite and friendly, very inquisitive about our family life, food, and our homeschooling.
What is normal as far as going to friend's houses, spending nights, dinners, going places with friends' families? How can I nicely set limits?