And how did that work out for you? Or how are you expecting it to go?
In my case, it would not be in her capacity as a doctor, of course, but my mom is an MD, and I would like her to be at my HB.
She is supportive of HB, had two NCBs in hospitals with me and my brother, and would be there almost exclusively for emotional support, like any other mother might be, as I just feel that "you can do it" would mean a lot, coming from her, for a variety of reasons I probably don't have to go into. I also kind of want her there, even though she absolutely wouldn't be there "as a doctor" for a couple of other reasons...
1) In case the MWs don't get there in time (though for me, as a primip, I'm sure they will), it couldn't hurt. We'd still read up on emergency childbirth and all that, but just sayin'... (I know, my MOM could also not get there in time, but that's less likely, as she lives out of town and would be staying with us from around my EDD on.)
2) In case of transfer, I totally trust my CNM HB MWs to handle things well, but if I do need to be at the hospital for a while, I know sometimes how things get done more easily when a doctor speaks to another doctor. I'm sure this won't come up, and my mom would never overstep unless it seemed really necessary, or the MWs asked her to, but again, just sayin'...
3) Also POSSIBLE that if my MWs needed an extra pair of more skilled... I guess "confident" hands, in the case of something funky, my mom would be a better choice than my DH, because although she spent most of her career in research and regulatory work, she has boards in Internal Medicine, etc. and she did moonlight as an ER doc. She is totally unflappable and awesome in any sort of urgent/emergent medical situation.
IDK... Just wondering if this makes sense for me, or if I'm setting myself up, somehow? I know how my mom is-- she's very non-interventionist anyway (wonder where I got my predilection for HB?) so no way would she bug the MWs or try to direct the birth or anything like that. At the same time, I don't want there to be a weird dynamic, nor am I sure I have quite the right expectations about having her in the sort of "just in case" scenarios above... Like, I'm just questioning my own mindset.
I mentioned the possibility of her being there to my HB MW and she was very "you invite who you want," and didn't SEEM threatened, but at the same time, then turned around and said, well, later in the pregnancy, we sit down and talk about who you really want to be at the birth, and why they might or might not be the best choices... So I sensed some hesitancy on her part-- whether it was connected to my MD mom being there, or maybe just some sense of my attitude/expectations about my mom being there... I don't know. I kind of made a joke about how, as my mom, the fact that she's a doctor helps, because the way I was raised by her (she's even given me very personal exams as an adult), I would have no problem pooping on her, or whatever, LOL, and neither would she... I.e., I wouldn't be inhibited. I will say that my MW also mentioned during another part of our visit that she has had MANY clients who were MDs, wives of MDs, L&D nurses, even an OB! So I'm sure the doctor-being-present part, in itself, isn't a huge issue to her. Though perhaps there's a possible liability issue (for my mom, not the MWs)?
Anyway... just looking for thoughts and experiences from folks in a similar situation, who had partners, friends, family members, et al. at their homebirths, who happened to be doctors, nurses, etc.