I haven't been on in ages, and I should have just come here from the get-go. I'm kicking myself now. :(
Both my boys are intact. The older son (6 in a few weeks) is still really not retractable. There is a small opening where you can totally see the actual penis, but it doesn't go very far.
A few weeks ago he called me into the bathroom and was concerned about a very small amount of discharge on the outer edge of his foreskin. It was not the usually described 'pearls' or lumps under the foreskin.
I did some on line searching and couldn't really find much so I just told him it was probably smegma, totally normal and just pull back the skin as much as is comfortable and wash away the discharge with soap and water while in the shower.
Today he complains of pain at the tip of his foreskin after urinating. After using the restroom again he said the pain is at the tip of the foreskin and it doesn't hurt while urinating only while bending down to pull up his pants. After that, no pain.
I did a quick visual and it doesn't appear to be red or irritated.
Could his discomfort be from overzealous washing? Should he not be retracting the small amount he is able and washing? I was going to dab a little neosporin on there for the heck of it and tell him to just leave it alone, does that sound appropriate?
I just feel so blind! I don't want to give him any more harmful advice!