What is with people thinking that 4 or 5 kids is large!? It was only 1 or 2 generations ago that people had a dozen or so kids and it was the norm. I was in a water aerobics class a little while ago and the elderly ladies there said they all had to share a bed with their sibs growing up but then they would talk about their children having "so many kids" when they only had 2 or 3 kids....weird. I would love to have 8 but we will are also going to just go with the flow of fertility and nature and whatever else...
Negative/Hurtful reactions to pregnancy announcement?? - Page 2
I realized a while ago that the reason I've always wanted 4 kids is because to me that is a big family, but it's the smallest big family possible! I want lots of kids but I also have a lot of other things I want/need to do with my life, so 4 is the smallest number that seems like 'lots' to me :-)
It's also a good compromise between my family of origin (3 kids) and my husband's family of origin (5 kids).
We have gotten nothing but negative reactions from family, they think 4 is far too many for this day and age. I keep reminding them that I know the nights will hard on them and it amy cost them a bit more money but it will be worth it. They then reply to me, well it wont cost me anything and I wont be getting up in the night. I say back, OH YA, SO SHUT IT lol
OP - I would not even speak to anyone that said that to me. How awful! If she is a friend, she sure wouldn't be any longer.
My mom's reaction was better than anticipated. I mean no great joy or anything, but she did call me to see if I needed her to watch my kids during my endo appt today which is not normal by any means for her anymore. One of DH's fam made a comment about a fourth so we are pretty sure they've noticed and are talking about it. MIL was kinda shocked when we told her about number three so not sure how she's going to react. I have a sister with 7, but because we don't make as much as they do I feel like we are looked at like idiots. We make it work. No, we don't have all the newest things, my kids don't get tons of private lessons, but we make it work, they get some lessons, we do fun things together, they have plenty of things, high tech and low. I feel like there's nothing wrong with the way we do things, so why not add another. We always said we wanted four so we will probably be done after this as far as planning on having more.
As for people in public, my fav is "you know how that happens right" response- "I enjoy it obviously" I am told that I have my hands full all the time which gets annoying the 5th time in an hour grocery shopping trip. My belly sticks out already, I've been doing my best to hide it around family, but in public I don't. So far no comments so I guess I just look fat so far.
That is awful and don't ever let that horrid (probably jealous) person bother you. Was this on the internet or in person? I agree, if this was on the internet, it sounds like a troll.
When I announced my first born's pregnancy to my family, my crass, hungover 21 year old cousin (in front of the entire extended family) boomed out, "Your vagina is going to get so stretched out!" Some people are so miserable they try to make everyone around them miserable too.
I am surprised by the amount of horrible replies people here have had! Thats disgusting!
Unfortunately it was in person that she said this. If it was over the internet I would not have hesitated to hit "unfriend/delete"... But i was just so shocked I couldn't do anything.
DH and I have vowed not to see her at all. Especially for the rest of the pregnancy when she would be likely to say "Look how fat you are- it makes me feel better about myself!"