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post #21 of 180

I went to the Chiro this morning, and she straightened out my pelvis.  :)  When I went for my Midwife appt. this afternoon she said baby's head is no longer off center, and she's engaged (at least partially).  I don't know why, but I think that's pretty amazing.  Maybe it's just a coincidence, but I feel pretty good about knowing that everything is in place and ready to go.  :)  I'm going back to the Chiro every few days until baby comes.  And she's coming to adjust the baby after she's born.  I think I already said this in the other thread, but I can't remember.  ;)

 

We're all (midwives included) thinking Friday for baby day.  This way SO will be here, and get to spend a few days with us before he has to go out of town again.  Then my mom will be here.  So it would be perfect.  There's a full moon this weekend so hopefully that will help things.  :)  I totally believe in the power of thought, so that's what I'm going with.  May 4th, May 4th, May 4th.  :)

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Does anyone know of any ways to help reduce the swelling besides "have the baby already!" - I have some arnica ointment...I was thinking of rubbing that on my feet (haha! if only I could reach them!).

 

Not a whole lot you can do.  Keep your feet elevated above your heart as much as possible.  Stay off of them.  Stay hydrated.  Swimming may help, but I know that can be difficult around here.  Don't overdo the salt (but don't totally avoid it, either).  Foot massage can be helpful, but again, you need to have them above the level of your heart while it's happening.  With DS I had severe edema from about 34 weeks on, and I wound up sleeping on the couch so that I could use the cushions to keep my feet elevated at night.  In the morning the swelling would be gone, but by lunch it'd be back and I'd have to spend time every afternoon with them elevated again. 

 

Oh, and make sure your pants/underpants/socks/shoes aren't constricting at all. 

 

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I've been all about iced tea too Light Heart! Except I just due the cold brew Lipton tea bags, no sugar, lots of lemon! I know it's not organic but It just brews cold!

 

I'm all worried about pediatrician appointments. We have a "holistic" ped who is against vax and what not but every time we go we wait and wait like legit an hour past our appointment then we see him for 10 mins and he doesn't even follow anything holistic as far as I can tell. He is always prescribing abx for DD and I just don't fill them...We have state insurance so it's not like we can get a new one...I can't imagine waiting there with a 2 week old and a 2 y/o for an hour for the guy to listen to the HB and lungs and say baby is fine but have to cover my a$$ to get any state help.

 

Now that DH lost his job we applied for welfare and they are harassing my butt about DDs vax status! She should be able to get medical exemption from her reactions but the new baby won't. I refuse to vax the new baby after the hell we went through and are still facing with DD. Hope it all works out.

 

Everyone else find a ped yet?
 

 

Ooo, yeah that would drive me crazy.  My doctors/midwives are typically late to my appointments, but they make up for it by spending quite a bit of time with me and answering any questions.  We have found a ped, we just have send in the paperwork.  It sounds like a busy practice, so I'm trying not to get worked up about that.  I can't imagine trying to visit the dr office with two little ones...but that will be me in a couple of years I'm sure :) 

I hope you can get the vax thing worked out for new baby.  I can definitely understand how you feel about that after going through what you've gone through with your DD.  Could you get your doctor to say the baby was sick so he didn't administer the vaxes at that time? 

 

post #24 of 180

I'm 38 weeks tomorrow. Tomorrow is my little baby's 6 month b-day. Where did that time go?!

 

My belly button looks weird (from what dp tells me. I surely cannot see it). It never popped out, but it feels like its all lumpy inside. 

 

We did a belly cast last night. That was very amusing! I still can't get all of the vasoline off of me. Its HUGE! I swear from what I see my belly isn't that large.

 

 

post #25 of 180

may 1st is my due date. i am tired,crabby and uncomfortable. i have been getting BH contractions for over half my pregnancy sometimes i get sharp pains in my cervix when i get up too quickly. i went swimming at the springs yesterday and it was actually nice that someone noticed i was pregnant instead of fat and fluffy. my hands and fingers go numb all the time. i want to cry. i dont want to cook meals anymore but with a house full of the opposite sex that isnt happening.cant make my only daughter take over. she is 12. my next midwife appointment is this thursday. we will no be inducing but these last days feel so long.

post #26 of 180
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I do need a recipe for sitz bath herbal blends if anyone has one.  I'm not going to pay $10 for a tiny pouch of them when I can get bulk herbs at the HFS and blend my own. 

 

 

Cristeen - I made my own both times. I used a mix of 1/2 c Comfrey, 1/4 c uva ursi, 1/4 c shepard's purse, 1/4 lavender, 1/8 c myrhh, 1/4 c calendula flowers, 1/2 c dead sea salt. My midwife recommends using comfrey only for the first few days, so I have a second batch made up for using after that without the comfrey, increased calendula flowers. I also made up a witch hazel/yarrow blend to steep and pour over pads to freeze for the first few days. Which reminds me, I should probably get on that.

 

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Thoughts:  I am done. Emotionally, physically, spiritually just done. I need him to be born now, because I can not handle an induction  (Which is being insisted upon by my doctor) and frankly, just need my body to do something right...For a person who speaks of nothing but trusting in a pregnant woman's intuition and body, I find it harder and harder to do this when my own body seems to betray me at every turn. I'm so miserable lately that I can't sleep, then I feel guilty for not sleeping, and then I'm miserable as sin because I'm feeling so guilty... It's not a pretty sight. :( 

 

 

Aw, Jen. Hugs to you, mama. I know this has been a tough journey for you these last months in many ways. I wish you all the peace and comfort in the world over these last days before his birth, and I hope that you will know nothing but joy once he's born.

 
SoSurreal - I read in last week's update that your husband was let go from his job. Just wanted to add my sympathies in here, and am crossing my fingers he finds something soon!

 

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I actually discussed this with a doula friend.  I pushed right through the ring of fire last time, luckily I didn't have a big tear, just a tiny little one (too small for stitches), but I'd really prefer to avoid that this time.  So I was telling her how impossible I had found it to NOT push because of the fetal ejection reflex, and she said the only way to prevent it when you're dealing with FER is to have someone in your face reminding you over and over and over and over again to just breath through the contraction.  In her experience, that's the only way to avoid pushing in that situation.  So I'm going to discuss that with DH, I already discussed it with my MW as something I would like to have happen this time. 

 

 

So...should I not push through the ring of fire? I honestly don't remember what I did last time, but I feel like I probably did...it's all kind of a haze. I'd been under strict orders not to push for the hour previous so I could get a whole course of antibiotics, so I think by the time I got on the birthing stool, it was really hard to hold back. I tore a bit (enough to need 5 stitches), though not sure if it's from pushing incorrectly or because he presented with a nuchal arm.

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 I'm still recovering from a migraine (a very mild one, but still sucks).  We were on our way from a family baby shower and had to pull over because I was getting the migraine.  We were holed up on the interstate in a little motel until about 4:30 this morning.  I'm SO thankful it wasn't a terrible place, but not a nice one either because we could bring our dog in the room for only $10 extra. 

 

 

Can totally empathize, Casmer. I got a migraine last Thursday that totally took me by surprise. I haven't gotten a migraine in several years and had hoped that maybe my body chemistry had changed enough where they'd be a thing of the past. Dealing with a migraine *and* an active toddler almost finished me off! It was a terrible, rainy day so I felt bad asking any of my friends to come over and pick him up, so I just turned on Babies (my son loves this documentary more than anything and will sit perfectly still for the entire duration) and lay on the couch with a blanket over my head. I think I may have occasionally thrown some snacks at him. Luckily my husband was able to come home by 7 that night...not sure how I would've gotten up to get our son in bed by myself.

 

Name: Marina

Weeks/Days along:  36 weeks as of yesterday

Appointments: Had one on Thursday. Was having painful, somewhat regular contractions for several days in a row last week so was a little concerned. Since my first came at 38 w 3 days, my midwife was a little concerned that this guy might be wanting to come out early too. She did some careful checking, but said that baby is not quite engaged correctly yet, so all the movement he was doing (constant corkscrews and shifting) to try to get into the right position was causing the contractions. She said my cervix is pretty soft, but mostly just in a "right on track" kind of way. She ended up doing the GBS culture early (usually waits til 38 weeks) since she was checking me anyway and since there's a chance I might not make it past 38 weeks. I've been stressing about this stupid test and had planned to do the garlic thing the week before she did the culture. Her doing it so early took me by surprise and of course, made me freak out all weekend. (My positive GBS test last time led to a serious amount of unpleasantness both during and after birth, so it's been a source of stress this entire time for me.) Anyway, she called me this afternoon as soon as she got my results to tell me....I'M NEGATIVE!!! energy.gif I can't tell you what a relief this is! No worrying about getting to the hospital with enough time to deal with abx, no worrying about thrush afterwards (hopefully).

Symptoms:  Actually feeling pretty good this week! I mean, I can't bend down, I look like a penguin when I walk, but after last week's contractions/migraine combo, this week is awesome. Nesting impulses finally kicking in.

Food: Cold food! Cucumbers, jicama salad. Waiting for the lamb's quarter greens to appear at the greenmarket, been craving these for months.

Exercise: City living stuff, walking and hiking a stroller and toddler up and down subway stairs. Nothing "focused" though. Have given up prenatal yoga class on Friday in favor of going to the movies by myself (I've had a babysitter on Fridays for a few hours for my son for the last 2 months) and drinking milkshakes in the dark.

Body changes and other milestones: Finally hit the 20 lb gain mark, I think. Belly button is flat, no linea negra this time.

Thoughts:  Excited about the negative GBS, but still feeling some strange apprehensions about labor and fear about the baby being ok. Trying to work on fear cleansing, but not having much luck to be honest.

post #27 of 180

I think I'm nested out. I did some serious cleaning not this past weekend but the one before it. Is that normal or am I going to get another burst still?!

post #28 of 180
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So...should I not push through the ring of fire? I honestly don't remember what I did last time, but I feel like I probably did...it's all kind of a haze. I'd been under strict orders not to push for the hour previous so I could get a whole course of antibiotics, so I think by the time I got on the birthing stool, it was really hard to hold back. I tore a bit (enough to need 5 stitches), though not sure if it's from pushing incorrectly or because he presented with a nuchal arm.

 

 

 

Thank you for the recipe!

 

You really don't want to push through the ring of fire if you can help it.  Letting baby ease his/her way through slowly reduces the risk of tearing, increases the chance of your tissues stretching sufficiently.  But if you're having the Fetal Ejection Reflex (which I did with DS), NOT pushing is so incredibly difficult.  I know I pushed through it with him, and even with his nuchal hand I barely tore.  But I remember it being very painful (and intense!) regardless of damage done.  So I'd like to take it easier this time. 

post #29 of 180
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Thank you for the recipe!

 

You really don't want to push through the ring of fire if you can help it.  Letting baby ease his/her way through slowly reduces the risk of tearing, increases the chance of your tissues stretching sufficiently.  But if you're having the Fetal Ejection Reflex (which I did with DS), NOT pushing is so incredibly difficult.  I know I pushed through it with him, and even with his nuchal hand I barely tore.  But I remember it being very painful (and intense!) regardless of damage done.  So I'd like to take it easier this time. 

That's the first I've heard that!  Makes sense though.  I'm sure I pushed through it with DD1.  But all I remember is pushing felt like sweet relief!

post #30 of 180

Sarah- glad the chiro helped! I find it amazing that the midwife can tell the angle the baby's head was/is at. My midwives are both like, "hmm, I guess that must be the head there... So this lump up here must be the bum?" Which I think is odd, since they're both very experienced. I'm hoping for a well flexed head this time!

 

Sara- nesting comes in waves for me. I do a lot for a day or two, then nothing for a week, then go through a spurt where I work myself to exhaustion and then it fades. I had a big nesting thing on Saturday, nothing today or yesterday, and I think tomorrow I have to clean something. It's imperative. Or wash/fold clothes again or bake or something!

 

Marina- yay for GBS negative!

 

Casmer- migraines, yuck :( I can't empathize at all- I've never had one- but I've seen my sister suffer through a ton of them and they are evil. Hopefully one is all you'll get!

 

Jen- Sounds really rough! I can't imagine the place you're in right now, but if there is any way at all to cut yourself some slack while you deal with this- I can't imagine guilt over not sleeping on top of everything else that's going on. Also having those fundamental "trust your body" beliefs challenged like this is hard. i'm having a really hard time even dealing with my sister's vasa previa, needed c-section thing. She and her midwife both thought everything was going wonderfully and it turns out that trusting her body to birth normally would have been absolutely the wrong thing to do. Even that is challenging my "my body is wise" philosophy and I'm finding it really difficult. Being in it yourself would be even harder.

 

FER- don't have it. I have the absolutely uncontrollable urge to push once baby reaches a certain point during labour, but once we hit crowning- nope. I have an urge to push, but I naturally turn into myself so completely that I have complete control. When I feel the crazy urge to just bear down and shoot that baby out then I just think (on some non-thinking level) that it's just energy that needs to dissapate in some other way, so I end up shivering through contractions and giving teeny little pushes to ease the baby out. Any interference during crowning just distracts me from my energy-disappating-shivering thing, and if anyone is telling me what to do I'll feel compelled to listen even if I know it's bad information (like, "just a little push now" when my body says "NO PUSHING!") 

 

 

As for m'self:

 

I had a midwife appointment today. Considered cancelling it because of some mixup I had 2 appointments scheduled for this same week, but we moved my Thursday appointment to next Tuesday. GBS negative here, everything looking normal, baby seems healthy. All good. Midwife is joking that by booking my next appointment at 40+2 we're going to have a baby then, since my last two were born on 40+2.  

 

My appetite is screwballed. I don't want anything even moderately good for me. I want poutin, sandwiches with lunch meat on thick, white, squishy bread (mmm, starch). Chocolate. Icecream. 'm indulging some of these (sandwiches, chocolate) but trying to avoid the other ones for now.

 

This kid is still moving around a LOT when I lay down. It makes it incredibly hard to sleep. Still no labour signs. I'm honestly feeling on the one hand super excited and READY for this baby to be born, but on the other hand totally not ready at all and sort of scared to death of... I don't know. Possibly labour, possibly just the not-knowing how things will go or adding a third baby or who knows what. Also my son and husband are both sick with some horrible snotty/deep chest congestion/headachy sort of cold, so I REALLY don't want this kid to come out while we're sick! I feel fine so far (knock on wood), but I'd like it long past. And I want to go to my daughter's piano recital. And my good friend who was going to come and take pictures for me is in the hospital and just had brain surgery to relieve pressure on her brain (!) and is going to be out of commission for a couple of weeks, if not more. I'd like to be able to help her out, too, if I can.

post #31 of 180

Sosu- no. I don't even bother with the whole ped thing. We are state insurance also, and I will probably just go to the reduced income clinic up the road which has a family practitioner if I am in need of anything non urgent.  Sign a religious exemption for vax and the whole subject becomes moot for a lot of people. You will probably never get heard if you want a medical exemption form signed. I had a doctor smirk at me when I inquired once.

 

 

I cursed at my husband this morning. LOL He forgave me cause I think he silently felt he deserved it He was in that half asleep and whining phase and he was griping about me signing up for Netflix dvd service. I figured since I didnt get the laptop than a couple months of having some quick comedies or cartoon shows to plug in the dvd while I am late night nursing might be good to have. It was $8. *rolls eyes* So silly of an argument.

Especially with the amount of money I spent on food...

I am so tired and uncomfy and so not wanting to do dishes that I went to the deli and the girls and I came back, crawled into my bed and stuffed our faces with sandwiches, burritos, strawberries, and  jojos. I even bought myself a pepsi. Yes, it was one of those days.

I took a bit of a nap (sumo wrestler in training) while the girls watched a show on me, and then we played hangman and I knit.

 

I only crawled out of bed to take a shower and now here I am. I think I will go clean or sew something as a gift for someone. Nothing breaks the funk like doing something kind for someone else.

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Onemore :( I should have had one of those days. It would have been better if I`d stayed in bed and watched TV, instead I just yelled and freaked out at everyone all day. I hate myself. I am such a monster these days.

 

Talked with my sister- her c-section date is my birthday, May 14! Her original due date was... June 11, I think. I want to go shopping and buy her some preemie clothes to send along in a care box filled with chocolate and good books. She`s been admitted to the hospital now, JIC, but hopefully everything goes well and the little one can stay in for 2 more weeks.

post #33 of 180

Name:  Megan

 

Weeks/Days along: 36+2

 

Appointments: every Friday from now on

 

Symptoms: I am huge.  I no longer have ankles.  Seriously, I have barely any mobility left in them.

 

Food: Give me chocolate, cookies, ice cream...

 

Exercise: Last week I took yoga twice and did what I could in ballet class.  I actually feel so much better when I stay active, but it's soooooo hard to motivate myself to do so.

 

Body changes and other milestones: See symptoms - everything is huge.  My face, my arms, thighs, ankles, of course belly and boobs.  I am avoiding mirrors at all costs.  This is hard since I teach dance and am surrounded by mirrors every day!

 

Thoughts: Really, am I going to be huge like this for 4 or more weeks????  I had some fantasy about being one of those pregnant ladies that still looks amazing in the end.  HAHAHAHAHA!  The joke is clearly on me.  I am attending a wedding on May 12.  I'll be 38 weeks.  Some friends have lent maternity dresses.  Yeah, already only one will fit and I'm concerned that in two weeks that also won't fit.  Then there's the matter of shoes... I guess I'll get a pair of flip flops with a bow or flower or sparkles on them.  My DH says that I can wear pajamas to the wedding if I want, everyone will understand, plus it's not about me.  Which is true, but I still want to try and look good.  I think I may spring for a pedicure.  I've never had a pedicure in my life, but at this point I just feel so huge and uncomfortable maybe it will help at least psychologically.  I don't know.  Okay, I think I'm done with the pity party for a while at least.  I know so many of you have much bigger things to worry about and I'm definitely thinking of you all!

 

In more positive news, I finally found a rocking chair!  This has been a months long process and it had to be just right because I've been holding on my money from when my grandma passed away four years ago to pay for the chair.  I dragged DH up to Amish country on Sunday to look for one.  Well of course, Amish shops are not open on Sundays.  I should have known better.  I finally found a wood furniture store somewhat local and was successful in finding the perfect chair!  And I found a consignment shop that has cloth diapers and sells GMD prefolds for the same as the web price but no shipping cost!

 

Looking forward to seeing more babies soon!  I make DH look at all the pics as soon as they come in.  Have a great week everyone!  And because who doesn't need a jump roping sheep:

 

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Well Grace I guess its like this.. You'll have future psych bills to pay for your kids and I'll have future diabetics. Whatever it takes to get through these last few days/weeks, right? lol

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Mlog- I want a pedicure too. You should totally treat yourself if you have never had one!

 

I put aside a few $$ in a postpartum fund because every pregnancy I get depressed cause we are broke as can be and being 2+ weeks late and broke is enough to make me a sobbing mess. I planned ahead this time!

I am seriously thinking if it hits that point where I am having an awful, awful day...I may spring for a pedicure somewhere out here in rural USA.

Surely there must be someone who clips the goats hoofs or something who will be willing to work on mine! lol

post #36 of 180

I've never had a pedicure either.  I could totally use one though.  I'm gonna have to do some acrobatics tomorrow and freshen up my nails.  I painted them a couple weeks ago and they've grown out and faded.  blah.  I had quite the emotional outburst yesterday too.  Cried half the morning over something stupid dh did.  Gotta love these hormones.

 

EDD is Wednesday.  I was really hoping baby would be here by then.  Prodomal labor really stinks.  Baby is so active tonight.  Between all his pushing and painful stretching and the little nap I took around 9:30pm while watching tv, I can't sleep now (almost midnight).  Hoping he settles down again so I can sleep. When he's moving I feel like I have to go pee every 20-30 min and I keep getting stabbing pains in my cervix area.  I had an appointment today with a midwife.  Baby is doing great.  We decided to schedule an induction in about a week, when I am about 41 weeks.  It wouldn't be good for hubby to miss work the following week because of the end of year school stuff (he's a teacher) and we'd like him to have at least a few days with baby before he has to work again.  I'm really hoping Isaac joins us before that though.  I heard there's a full moon on Sunday, maybe that will entice him to come out (my first was born on a blue moon).  I definitely feel much bigger and less energetic this week.  Did quite a bit of nesting last week.  Middle dd was home with a stomach bug today and I'm crossing my fingers that nobody else gets it.

post #37 of 180
Why oh why can't I sleep??? It kills me that DS and DH are sleeping so well, and I am up half the night peeing (and hoisting myself out of bed like a big whale) and now up for good a 5:45 am.

Seven straight hours of peaceful, uninterrupted sleep plus a pedicure would make my life close to perfect right now. eyesroll.gif
I am being dramatic, but, also kind of serious.

Also I think I pulled a muscle or something in the arch of my right foot. It's hard to walk on it. Blrgh.

May 1!! Does anyone else feel oddly like me - like May snuck up on us even though we have been obsessing over this month for so long? I am going to try really hard to get into a good mood and be excited that it is May.

I also just remembered that these early-mid May babes are Taurus Babies. Not sure why I ever thought they would come out at any time other than what worked for them lol.
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I've never had a pedicure either.  I could totally use one though.  I'm gonna have to do some acrobatics tomorrow and freshen up my nails.  I painted them a couple weeks ago and they've grown out and faded.  blah.  I had quite the emotional outburst yesterday too.  Cried half the morning over something stupid dh did.  Gotta love these hormones.

 

EDD is Wednesday.  I was really hoping baby would be here by then.  Prodomal labor really stinks.  Baby is so active tonight. 

I could have written almost every single word of this!!!

Three nights in a row now, we've assumed this baby was coming. So now the policy is that no one will get excited unless my water breaks, the baby comes out or my contractions actually continue past 3am.

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 I love that! Catherine is my confirmation name after St. Catherine of Siena and I was just reading up on her on her Saint's day. I have been praying for the intercession of St. Josemaria Escriva this pregnancy :) I really hope your baby comes soon!

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Name:  Katie

 Third, today is the feast day of St. Catherine of Siena.  If we have a girl, her middle name will be Catherine after St. Catherine because I spent the whole first trimester praying for her intercession to avoid another miscarriage so I thought that would be a cool time for baby to arrive.  

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Name: Lauren

Weeks/Days along: 37 weeks, 5 days

Appointments: Home visit was yesterday and it went great!  Next appointment is a week from Thursday.

Symptoms: Still feeling great!  Losing a bit of weight from not being as hungry but since I already gained 46 pounds, not too concerned ;)

Food: Not as much room for it in my belly these days.

Exercise: Still walking a 5k a couple times a week.  The Mini Marathon is this Saturday.  Hoping to finish all 13.1 miles at under an 18:00 pace to avoid a ride on the Sag Wagon.  Can't wait!!

Body changes and other milestones: Nothing new going on.

Thoughts: I'm not feeling miserable at all which makes me think this pregnancy may go on even longer than my last (which went to 41w 6d) so I suppose I could end up with a June baby.  I'd really love a May one, though, because my mother's ring already has a sapphire and a ruby... an emerald would go great!
ETA:  I did start getting paranoid about the pregnancy going longer (and thus the baby maybe being bigger than the last, which was 9lbs 15oz) so I think I'm gonna hit the chiropractor this week despite not having any real issues with hip or pelvic pain this go 'round.

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