I agree with a lot of what you posted here, and for me, this is why I don't post.
I've never felt welcome here. It was clinched early on when a mod deleted my siggy without any discussion or anything. All I had was a Taoist quote that was important to me, and I was told that it was offensive and they were deleting it. That's all. It was "Those who know do not speak, those who speak, do not know." I love it because it reminds me to be mindful of what I say, and make sure it is worth saying.
I was also reading and given bad advice about birth. Everything I was told to expect when I accepted a mainstream medical model of birth turned out to be completely false. It caused a lot of unnecessary fear and anxiety on my part, and distrust of my care providers that was false.
I also agree that the way we raise our babies is not an alternative method anymore. I don't know many moms who don't cosleep, breastfeed, want a natural delivery, babywear, and at least part time cloth diaper. Most parents are now scared of mainstream medicine and vaccines, as well. And these are all influences of a very outspoken community. Now that bar isn't high enough, and it makes me wonder, was the point of the AP/natural lifestyle movement strictly for the betterment of the lives of women and children, or just to appear different? Now that it is mainstream, why don't we accept all those moms to MDC as well?
I've been following along on this thread and looked to see if there was a note as to why your signature was deleted. It looks like it was removed some time ago (several years at least?), and it looks like it was a formatting issue rather than a content issue. At the time it was removed, we were incredibly busy, and a PM was sent (which it looks like it was) and then your signature was removed if you didn't change it within a certain amount of time. Not the best way, but we found it was the only way to deal with keeping the signatures in line and not getting huge blinky filled crazy sigs. Now, we have limits set on the signatures so we don't have to do that for formatting any longer, because you can only put certain things in there and the board software limits it. I'm very sorry that you didn't understand what was going on at the time, and that it made you feel unwelcome. There is absolutely nothing wrong with the content of that signature, and you are welcome to have that quote in your signature.
Having been here for a loooong time, there have always been those who take the AP/NFL stuff to the limit. And for those folks it works. There are a lot of folks who take it piecemeal as well. And that works for those folks There are only a few topics that we don't really wish to discuss here at MDC - and those are pretty limited. (and can be found in our Web Statement of Purpose) We walk a fine line balancing between educating and helping moms new to AP/NFL and carving out a safe space for them as well, where they won't be belittled for their choices. It's a hard thing sometimes to defend and reinforce AP/NFL practices, without feeling like we are shutting people out. I think in some instances, our board would change if we allowed some conversations to take place, and not in a way that would benefit us.