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post #141 of 154

Thanks everyone who has been starting all the fun threads since this discussion.  They might not be the backbone of MDC, but they keep a smile on my face every time I log on :)

 

The disappearance of the magazine has been really difficult for me.  I don't find myself reading stuff online nearly as much, even on this site.  I came here because the magazine ceased publication and while I love the forums and peruse the homepage and blogs occasionally, I don't feel it is personally quite as fulfilling.  In times of endless news sources, I find myself feeling less informed.  I find most stuff online is too busy to focus on and I rarely linger or read very thoroughly.  (Often quite obvious when I post, having not thoroughly read the OP's situation!)  

 

I like that the ads of late seem to be more focussed on the intent of site, and fewer move around (which slows down my slow connection even further, my editing, and my concentration.)

post #142 of 154

I'm replying to keep this discussion going.

 

I, too, have been absent for a while. For a few reasons.

 

I started pharmacy school in September. Kind of weird for a crunchy mama, I know, but I believe that medicine has its place.Pharm school is a four year doctoral degree, and it takes over your life (My MW's reaction - "I heard your program is HELL"). There were times when I went 48 hours without kissing my kids' heads. Internet forums definitely went on the back burner.

 

One of my colleagues became unexpectedly pregnant (with her 2nd) during our first year. Since I have more children and am a little more confident, I have given her a lot of advice. I gave her my Babyhawk and my sling. We discussed pumping-in-professional-school strategies. We discussed blending families (as she is currently). My ability to give her advice is truly a testament to how much I learned from MDC.

 

Which may be the other reason that I have been absent.

 

I feel pretty darned confident in my parenting choices. They were heavily researched and opinions were sought on MDC every step of the way. I didn't do everything the MDC way (my kids are vaxed), but a lot of my choices were less than mainstream (DS1 nursed until 3.5). I still remember the day that we discussed the Dr. Sears vax schedule in my Practice of Pharmaceutical Care course. I was one of two in the room familiar with Dr. Sears (my pg friend the other), and the only one defending him. I was the only person in the room that could explain the thought process behind not vaxing, the only person who could identify with that agonizing decision. To my 22 year-old classmates, it was a no-brainer. I was the only person who had researched it thoroughly, not merely for academic reasons, but because I had to make a decision that would affect *my* babies.  I credit MDC for this. But the learning curve has become relatively horizontal. I have my parenting style figured out. If I were to have another little one, my decisions have already pretty much been made.

 

I do miss the camaraderie of MDC. I miss being able to pop in on a Friday night and see a "Who wants to have a glass of wine with me?" thread. I support the de-subforuming of MDC. I think we need to come together again. So much I learned from MDC has become mainstream - babywearing, extending BFing in the national media. The biggie that I wish would - fewer inductions and the pushing of epidurals. Most of the women I go to school with think that I was crazy to (purposefully!) have two med-free births. I cherish my birth experiences, and I have MDC to thank for that. I understand that sometimes, caesarean birth have to happen. And when that is true, it is awesome that we have the medical knowledge and capacity that we do. But if they can be avoided, they should.  We still have work to do.

post #143 of 154

Oh my gosh, there are 8 pages of this!

 

I have been a member for maybe 2.5-3 years and have noticed it slow a bit from when I started. I, personally, don't post as much because I have actually seen a lot of bitchy-ness and judging going on in response to quite a few non-mainstream posts. Like someone posting a question about a twin UC birth and just getting rude answers, nothing helpful. I asked a question in the UC boards asking if anyone had considered not getting a social security number for their child after birth (since it is optional) and since I had seen an article somewhere about a woman who didn't get them for her kids, and got accused of everything from child abuse to tax fraud. I've seen a lot less of actual helpful info and answers on the more mainstream boards like TTC or pregnancy boards. I mostly just use the search bar to see if my question already has an answer and then maybe scan through some other random spots to see if there is anything for me to add.

post #144 of 154
I've been a member forever and have been absent for a long time basically the tight knit community seemed to be missing and a lot of bashing was going on and I didn't want to be reading all that I just today decided to look on here!!! Congrats on returning to work DW!!!!
post #145 of 154

You know, I have been really wanting to flesh out our Teen information.  I would love to get that active because I think it is such a different set of issues and requires different AP tools than a toddler, or even a young school aged child (my oldest is 6, and even looking forward I am having some trouble envisioning what the heck parenting her is going to look like in 6 more years).

 

I think we do get a lot of drop off at that age, and that parenting sites/books/advice in general drop off there as well, as a previous posted said - media in general sort of decides you know what you are doing.  But the rules really are different, and the only mainstream options seem to be tough love or.....nothing?

 

I am really interested in creating a resource list for Pre-teens/Teens and AP.  Things that move beyond the baby/child stuff, and into how to really get them to adulthood.

post #146 of 154

That sounds great, Adina!
 

post #147 of 154

Long time member, long time not posting here.

 

I backed away from MDC for a whole lot of reasons, some of which have already been covered (kid is older, confident in my parenting choices, etc)  I've come back because I'm thinking about having another (not very seriously, though) and thoughted I'd dip in again.  WOW, has this place changed. 

 

Not in a way that's put me off though.

 

DD is now 8 (!) and I was pleased to see there is a forum for older kids.  It's kind of like, once you get past the CDing, extended bfing, co sleeping age there's not so much to talk about.  DD is at public school and on the outside we probably look pretty mainstream.  I agree that's there's been a huge cultural shift in the past 5 years.  When I had DD AP etc was still not in the mainstream and I came here for support.  I had the homebirth, bf until 3.5, etc.   When I saw the TIME cover a few weeks ago I had this moment of "Wow, extended BFing on the cover of Time"...that's a huge cultural shift.  Now there's even a backlash happening, haha. Having said that, having gone hard core AP for a while, I found myself mellowing as I got older and starting to question what I had uncritically accepted before.  Ironically I'd probably be a more mainstream mama now if I had a baby - I did alot of stuff with DD because I thought I had to not because it was the right choice, if that makes any sense.  CDing in particular (I did it full time) got really stressful towards the end.  In retrospect I wish I'd chilled out more.  And there could be a lot of judgement here.  Still, I get it, I was one of those young judgey moms too.  

 

It's nice to come on this thread and recognise faces/names.

post #148 of 154
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Originally Posted by AdinaL View Post

You know, I have been really wanting to flesh out our Teen information.  I would love to get that active because I think it is such a different set of issues and requires different AP tools than a toddler, or even a young school aged child (my oldest is 6, and even looking forward I am having some trouble envisioning what the heck parenting her is going to look like in 6 more years).

 

I think we do get a lot of drop off at that age, and that parenting sites/books/advice in general drop off there as well, as a previous posted said - media in general sort of decides you know what you are doing.  But the rules really are different, and the only mainstream options seem to be tough love or.....nothing?

 

I am really interested in creating a resource list for Pre-teens/Teens and AP.  Things that move beyond the baby/child stuff, and into how to really get them to adulthood.

This sounds great!! My oldest is 9, and we are slowly, but surely heading into unchartered territory. And I'm kind of scared!!!  I could use some help :)

post #149 of 154

And also to reply to the thread as a whole, I Love MDC, never was a magazine subscriber, but got lots of info that I needed from these boards.

 

I loved the DDC, and lurking in TAO, and the FYT, and also getting ideas in Health and Beauty and Mindful Home.

 

There were loads of crazy fun threads.

post #150 of 154

what  is // was FYT ?

post #151 of 154
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what  is // was FYT ?

Finding Your Tribe.  http://www.mothering.com/community/f/7/finding-your-tribe

 

Sus

post #152 of 154
Finding Your Tribe


I am just coming back this year after four years away (or, actually, only posting in the single parenting forum), as my life was in crisis and especially so regarding my mothering journey, and was just not something I was ready to share (outside of the dating stories).

I'm surprised at how much slower it is now than during 2003-2008. Bummed.

I'll try to make time to add some momentum. If my ttc efforts in autumn are successful ill have plenty of time during bedrest and then nak'ing!!
post #153 of 154

I have also stayed away from MDC as it got soooo slow and I guess I was part of the problem!  I really DO miss how it was when I first joined though.  IMVHO, a lot of people left after they changed the site.  That happens to many forums when they update things.  I think people just don't like change.  Also, the site is slower than it used to be.   Now, back to reading.

post #154 of 154
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Originally Posted by AdinaL View Post

You know, I have been really wanting to flesh out our Teen information.  I would love to get that active because I think it is such a different set of issues and requires different AP tools than a toddler, or even a young school aged child (my oldest is 6, and even looking forward I am having some trouble envisioning what the heck parenting her is going to look like in 6 more years).

 

I think we do get a lot of drop off at that age, and that parenting sites/books/advice in general drop off there as well, as a previous posted said - media in general sort of decides you know what you are doing.  But the rules really are different, and the only mainstream options seem to be tough love or.....nothing?

 

I am really interested in creating a resource list for Pre-teens/Teens and AP.  Things that move beyond the baby/child stuff, and into how to really get them to adulthood.

This sounds great!  I know that now that my kids are past the little kid ages, it gets harder to find much regarding older kids. 

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