I'm replying to keep this discussion going.
I, too, have been absent for a while. For a few reasons.
I started pharmacy school in September. Kind of weird for a crunchy mama, I know, but I believe that medicine has its place.Pharm school is a four year doctoral degree, and it takes over your life (My MW's reaction - "I heard your program is HELL"). There were times when I went 48 hours without kissing my kids' heads. Internet forums definitely went on the back burner.
One of my colleagues became unexpectedly pregnant (with her 2nd) during our first year. Since I have more children and am a little more confident, I have given her a lot of advice. I gave her my Babyhawk and my sling. We discussed pumping-in-professional-school strategies. We discussed blending families (as she is currently). My ability to give her advice is truly a testament to how much I learned from MDC.
Which may be the other reason that I have been absent.
I feel pretty darned confident in my parenting choices. They were heavily researched and opinions were sought on MDC every step of the way. I didn't do everything the MDC way (my kids are vaxed), but a lot of my choices were less than mainstream (DS1 nursed until 3.5). I still remember the day that we discussed the Dr. Sears vax schedule in my Practice of Pharmaceutical Care course. I was one of two in the room familiar with Dr. Sears (my pg friend the other), and the only one defending him. I was the only person in the room that could explain the thought process behind not vaxing, the only person who could identify with that agonizing decision. To my 22 year-old classmates, it was a no-brainer. I was the only person who had researched it thoroughly, not merely for academic reasons, but because I had to make a decision that would affect *my* babies. I credit MDC for this. But the learning curve has become relatively horizontal. I have my parenting style figured out. If I were to have another little one, my decisions have already pretty much been made.
I do miss the camaraderie of MDC. I miss being able to pop in on a Friday night and see a "Who wants to have a glass of wine with me?" thread. I support the de-subforuming of MDC. I think we need to come together again. So much I learned from MDC has become mainstream - babywearing, extending BFing in the national media. The biggie that I wish would - fewer inductions and the pushing of epidurals. Most of the women I go to school with think that I was crazy to (purposefully!) have two med-free births. I cherish my birth experiences, and I have MDC to thank for that. I understand that sometimes, caesarean birth have to happen. And when that is true, it is awesome that we have the medical knowledge and capacity that we do. But if they can be avoided, they should. We still have work to do.