I stopped posting much when I had finally had enough of the overmoderation. But I softened, and started coming back, and honestly nothing ever really grabs me. It's not even that it's slow. As others have said, there's actually something to be said for a site that you can keep up with without it taking over your life!
When I was TTC and pregnant and had a newborn, I was scared to death because I knew nothing about babies. I knew I didn't want to CIO, I knew that I wanted to do things as naturally as possible, I knew that I wanted to breastfeed, I knew that I wasn't going to circumcise, I knew that there was controversy about vaccines, I knew that the C section stats are too high. I found information about all of those things here.
And then two problems kind of turned up. First of all, I am all done with babies and I no longer care about any of these things. I mean, I care in a general sense that they exist, but what was formally the most interesting conversation in the world has become the most boring. This is not just MDC, of course: I recently went to a playgroup for babies the age of my youngest, and I was the only one with older kids. Wow, I was DYING of boredom! All the talk was about bowel movements and naps and whether you give a snack before the nap or after the nap. I swear everyone debated that last one for at least half an hour! Yet I fully realize that when my first was that age, these were the most pressing concerns in my life... so I'm not judging at all, I'm just saying that my life has gone on! Big kid issues require more nuance and I'm not comfortable talking about most of them on the internet, and I have a much better IRL support network now that I've made friends through playgroups and through preschool.
The other issue is that I think that I'm more mainstream than this site, or maybe now that AP is more normal this site went more extreme. I don't know how to say this politely, but in every issue that I think I'm pretty crunchy and that MDC can help me, I then come here and so many people seem to be living in some alternate universe from me. And I'm glad they have MDC, but it turns me, personally, off. For example, I homeschool but I'm constantly shocked at things I read in the homeschooling forum here. I can't even read it anymore, because I find it so upsetting. Most of the other major issues discussed here are the same. I sort of agree with them, but not to the extent that is the norm here.
I think MDC has to decide if it wants to go more "mainstream," understanding that BFing and babywearing and gentle discipline and med-free childbirth and doulas are all now pretty mainstream concepts. I don't think my friends are particularly crunchy, and they ALL breastfed (at least a little), and own at least an Ergo if not wraps, and exchange strategies about how to get one of the hospital birthing rooms with the jacuzzi to help naturally relieve the pain. Or if it wants to remain true to its base, which is a bit more "fringe," and therefore likely to put off some of the more crunchy-mainstream parents who really aren't interested in hearing that a good mama doesn't care if she doesn't get more than 45 minutes of sleep at a time for the first 3 years of her child's life.
I dunno, I just feel like there got to be a higher and higher bar of who belongs here, and so more and more people felt left out. I think that if you really want to bring more traffic, you have to figure out how to not scare off the mainstream moms. Bluntly, I think the mainstream moms are the ones who will attract advertising dollars, too.
And as one final thing, I wanted to say that the scaring off doesn't have to be a first impression: it can happen in retrospect too. I have to admit that I have felt sort of betrayed by some of the advice I've received here. For example, when I was pregnant I read so many hospital birth horror stories that I became so hysterical when they said I need a C-section that they had to give me extra sedatives. My C section was medically necessary, I have no doubt at all about that: but at the time (and hopefully things are different now) you weren't allowed to have anything positive to say about a C here, and that made me feel hurt that my birth wasn't important unless I framed it as some sort of tragedy. There were a few other things that happened during and right after DD's birth that I don't really want to expound on, but I'll just say that my birth and my recovery were NOTHING like what I expected from reading gere, and I am embarrassed of the way I acted and the way I treated the hospital staff. That sort of thing makes me less likely to seek advice here in the future.
So that's basically why I don't really post much anymore, though I pop in every once and a while. I think everyone always hates a redesign, and it was super slow and clunky at first, but people get used to it. I think that MDC needs to figure out how to regain more of a "big tent" feeling along the crunchy to crunchy-mainstream spectrum. And that's tough, because there already needs to be that atmosphere before people interested in it are comfortable enough to hang around.