My wife and I have been fostering a 13 yo girl for almost a year with the goal to adopt her later this summer. She was taken from her biological mother almost 6 years ago and has been in 5-7 foster homes during that time. An issue we are facing now is that she relates and plays well with a neighbor kid who is only 8. When she plays at home she is doing stuff that is typical 4-6 year old play. She does not want to put any effort into things that require work and learning, she just wants to play - but at the same time she wants to have a car and drive around and do teenage (and older) stuff. The therapist we are working with says that we should just let her play since she "missed those things" with all her moving around....but we are not seeing any real growth and drive to grow in her. This is especially frustrating since our 4 older biological girls are all very self-motivated learners, enjoy reading and the like, but our foster daughter has no such interest. She is happy playing with a toy car, petting the dogs, and the like. Any suggestions?