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Queer TTC May 2012

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Thread Starter 

WELCOME TO MAY!

 

PLEASE PUT YOUR UPDATES IN BOLD!

 

 

Waiting to O whistling.gif

 

 

* invitnconceptn

 

* outdoorsy

 

* Amt1015

 

* MrsPP BFPChart2.gif

 

* thenewzero

 

* Cananny

 

* sotohana

 

* Carmen BFPChart2.gif

 

 

Waiting to Know... Braving the 2WW fingersx.gif

 

 

* Wishin'&hopin'

 

* AngelaM

 

* Hopeful22 chartnew.gif

 

* wannabmomkt

 

 

Working on IVF ecbaby.gif

 

* gloomcookie

Taking a Break/Figuring Things Out/Waiting to be Ready wool.gif

 

*lovestreet13

* rs11

*Photo Girl

* wehrli & JenMostOften chartnew.gif

* Pokeycip

* darthtunaqueen

* lisedea

* mrsandmrs

* kgulbransen

* Wishin'&hopin'

* AnnaNotherThing

* TineyDreams

* Yeledov
* Handerson
* BunnyLullabye
* cnmk14

* Alphahen & DP
* FiveGrandBaby

* Gellybeangrl BFPChart2.gif

 

 

2012 Graduates! babyf.gif

 

May * mtnlisa broc1.gif

April * nosreves joy.gif

March ** SkyandTru carrot.gif*JuneBugcarrot.gif

February *MidwifeStephPDX banana.gif *SouthernBelle24 banana.gif

 

January * Planet jammin.gif *Dandylezjammin.gif

 

 

2011 Graduates! bellycast.gif

 

December * DesertSunsets 
November * Aljm41910
October * Vienna79 * KSDoulaMama *Pleasantlyfurious *SwtRainbowBrite * Go_Vegan 
September * Smilingsara * Ad Astra  * Mumquest 
August *Prettyisa
July * Onemommyonemama  * Southern Fried Karma BFPChart2.gif 
June * CrystalPerez * Qmama42 
May * KellySF 
April * want2bmumx2  * Indigoscot & DP 
March * Graceie  * Seraf * 2ezforyou  *Mommy55 
February * Escher 10/24/11 *SharriKitColorado* DAWNMP1
January * Starling&diesel 10/2/11

 

2010 Graduates!

November * Mizyellow 7/25/11 * AmyPDX 7/30/11 * AmandaHope 8/3/11 * Cejae 7/4/11
September * Solejean 5/19/11 * Painefaria 6/5/11
August * Bttrflygypsy 4/10/11 * 2happymamas 4/15/11 * LibraryLady 4/15/11
July * Beastie 3/21/11 * Gumshoegirl007 4/2/11 * Wehrli 4/1/11
June * Coco & DP 2/14/11
May * Burg 2/4/11 * Korey 2/1/11
April * Calimeow * Mtnlisa * Kimlyn32
February * Mistral * Quasar & smartycat * Monarchgrrl * Erthe_mama & DP
January * Lyndzies * FtMpapa

 

2009 Graduates!

December* Osker * Megan sacha * Mkpgoddess
October * JJNoho * Mommies 2 Be * Megincl & Ktcl
September * Elismum1908 * KSDoulaMama * Pleasantlyfurious
August * Chicagoml * Wishin'&hopin'
July * Hbog
May * Indigoscot's dp
April * Kelmendi * KJM * Whoabethy * Carmen
March * Scalpel * Katwomyn4
February * Deny_zoo29
January * Jodybird511


Edited by carmen358 - 5/29/12 at 6:11am
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Thread Starter 

Welcome to the May thread! Good luck everyone!!
 

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Yahoo! It's the May thread! That means I can jump in again smile.gif I recognize some names from when I was on here before (Hello, again!) and I'm looking forward to "meeting" the rest of you all. 

 

A little refresher on me/us - I'm Kara and my wife is Nicki (I'm on the left in the photo). We tried three times last fall - all at home ICI with frozen sperm. I was a crazy person with all the vitamins, supplements, temping, charting....basically driving myself nuts. We decided to take a break after the 3rd BFN and regroup. Plus it was the holiday season and we went to Hawaii in January. We sort of then came up with a "non plan-plan" which was to wait and see how we felt every month. I was ready last month but Nicki wasn't just yet. So now, here we are, six months later. I am in a MUCH different head space this time. No more temping - just checking cm and really listening to my body. I took these last six months to get to know my body better than I have ever before. I am waaaay more relaxed this time and just ready to get knocked up! Aren't we all?! winky.gif

So that's where we are! I just o'd last week so we're looking at an insem probably around May 22/23. We are going to try at home again with two vials of frozen. I was going to give up on our dream of doing it at home until DesertSunsets and her DW were successful on their 5th try - that really gave me a huge boost of hope and we decided to keep going for it - at least for a bit. 

 

Can't wait to see all the wonderful May BFP's!!! thumbsup.gif

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Hello,

 

My name is Jen and this is my first post on this board. I've been following along for some time, but my partner and I will be doing our first insem in May, so I thought I would join in on the discussions :)

 

Some background: I am from Northern Cal, my partner and I have been together for over 12 years and this will be our first child. So exciting!! We will be doing a monitored cycle and IUI. I have been prescribed Clomid as well as doing a trigger and progesterone (mine is low). I am still up in the air about the clomid, mostly because of the risk of multiples. Anyone have any experience with this? Last cycle I had taken clomid and had an u/s CD12 with 4 mature follicles. That's four possible babies lol. I am thinking of just sticking to the one egg.

 

MrsPP - I am definitely at the driving myself nuts stage! I am over thinking every little thing, it seems, and have a hard time getting my mind off of the whole thing. If I'm not thinking about babies, I'm thinking about money and budgeting for a baby. It never ends :) Also, I think we're going to insem about the same time. I O'd last week as well.

 

I look forward to hearing about everyone's journey this month, and wishing for lots of BFPs!!!

 

Also, I believe I am in the waiting to O stage, though I am still on my a previous cycle, so I hope that's right.

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Carmen~ Thanks for the shinny new thread!

 

MrsPP~ Welcome back...fx'd for your May BFP!

 

Welcome.gifTheNewZero~ Hopefully your stay is short and sweet!

 

 

AFM~ Not much going on here...I'm taking a break and trying to drop some lbs. We plan on doing our next IVF in July...August at the latest. I actually changed my eating...cut out sweets, and junk food, and joined a local gym about 3 weeks ago. I have been going faithfully 5x a week...and I got on the scale yesterday...I have GAINED 13 lbs....jaw.gif. Yeah...needless to say I will be having a sit down with the athletic trainer this week and try to figure out what I am doing wrong. Who knew eating all kinds of junk and sweets and sitting on the couch would be better for me than eating healthy and exercising. I have to laugh about it or I just might cry...mecry.gif.

 

Night all....sleepytime.gif

Gelly

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gellybeangrl - In preparation for TTC, I did the same thing for about a month, which fell in between dr. appt's so when I went back a month later to weigh myself I expected at least a 5lb drop on the scale... did not happen. Frustrated I gave up and resumed my couch potato, cupcake-lovin ways, and about 2 weeks later (back at the Dr.) got on the scale to find I had finally lost those 5 lbs. All the evidence I needed to see that cupcakes should definitely be part of my daily diet ;)
 

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Hi everyone. Thanks for being thread keeper, Carmen. Right now we are in our TWW and will test on Thursday (12 DPI).

Last Wednesday DW's father passed away. He was in hospice, so we knew it was coming, but it happened so fast. The past few days have been super rough. We drove from Portland to Albuquerque in 24 hours and organized the funeral and held it within two days. The next day we drove to CA, where we are now, to be with DW's nephew and his wife as she gives birth to her third baby. It has been the craziest whirlwind and I'm fairly certain we haven't processed much yet. Thank goodness our bosses are flexible and are letting us take this whole week off too. I'd be lying if I said I didn't hope especially now that she is pregnant. I was afraid to bring it up, but I did anyway and she said she thought the same thing. If she isn't , I'm a little worried how she'll handle it. DW was pretty close with her Dad and yet she has this very tough exterior and rarely shows emotion. I'm praying for extra strength right now to support her where she's at.
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Hi everyone. Thanks for being thread keeper, Carmen. Right now we are in our TWW and will test on Thursday (12 DPI).

Last Wednesday DW's father passed away. He was in hospice, so we knew it was coming, but it happened so fast. The past few days have been super rough. We drove from Portland to Albuquerque in 24 hours and organized the funeral and held it within two days. The next day we drove to CA, where we are now, to be with DW's nephew and his wife as she gives birth to her third baby. It has been the craziest whirlwind and I'm fairly certain we haven't processed much yet. Thank goodness our bosses are flexible and are letting us take this whole week off too. I'd be lying if I said I didn't hope especially now that she is pregnant. I was afraid to bring it up, but I did anyway and she said she thought the same thing. If she isn't , I'm a little worried how she'll handle it. DW was pretty close with her Dad and yet she has this very tough exterior and rarely shows emotion. I'm praying for extra strength right now to support her where she's at.
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Oops- sorry for the double post
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MrsPP- Welcome back!  I look forward to learning more about you.

 

thenewzeroWelcome.gifI am also in Northern California in Oakland.  Good luck this month!  I hope your stay here is short and sweet.  I took Clomid and the first couple cycles I didn't really have more than one follicle so multiples weren't much of a worry.  I believe the chance is 10% which isn't too bad.

 

Carmen, Lisedea -- I'm really, really sorry about your BFN's.  I wanted all my cycle buddies to get good news.  My fingers are still crossed for both of you.

 

Cananny--I'm still holding out hope for you.  But it sounds like you are in a good place mentally, and taking a break could be very beneficial.  Getting healthier is always a good thing.

 

Gelly - I hope those pounds you gained were muscle!  Good luck with the trainer and your new regimen.

 

Nos - Any word on your DP? 

 

Sotohana - Fingers crossed for you two on Thursday.  I'm very sorry to hear about the loss you and DP experienced.  TTC is a difficult journey without all the other things that happen in real life.  I hope you are both healing soon.

 

Angela - fingersx.gif  I hope the wait goes by quickly and smoothly.

 

mtnlisa - Belated Congratulations to You!

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invitn - Welcome back aboard the crazy train!  I hope this new donor is awesome!

 

AFM - Sorry I have been MIA.  I was in Ohio visiting my family.  I wasn't on the internet much, but I checked in periodically to see how y'all are doing.  I'm sorry if I missed anyone in my messages.  I had a very good visit.  I had some nice talks with my Mom and sisters about what's been going on.  And I spent a couple days with my Dad and his wife, and I finally told them we are TTC.  I was so nervous!  But I didn't really need to be.  They were very happy and excited.  I feel relieved and glad.  I got home Saturday night, and we decided to wait until the morning to test so that I could use the FMU.  And we got this!  I took the first one and saw a faint line.  I told DW that a line is a line but I don't think she believed me so I did the digital test too.  When we saw that, my wife doubled over and started crying.  Then I started crying too.  I still don't really believe it, but it may sink in at some point.  I took a blood test and got the results today.  The beta is 39.  It's small but positive.  They said I can keep testing for a couple weeks and then do an ultrasound.  I'm really happy but cautiously so.  I'm very glad I took progesterone this month because I think it gave me a real chance to get pregnant.  I may have conceived before but never made it past implantation or so.  I felt crampy for a couple days around 10-13 DPO.  Turns out that was a good sign.  I hope to see more of these soon from the rest of you!  Thank you all for being such a great community. I'm not going anywhere for now so I'll be sticking around.

 

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Cupcakes should be part of everyone's diet.

Am following faithfully despite increasingly lurking tendencies. Finishing off the cleaning/garden at our old place (anyone who lives in Van want some plants??), and trying to get our new place finished and unpacked.

Funny about weight loss, I've lost weight during this month because I've been working SO hard with floors and painting and moving and whatever. I'm on a kick to get us to eat more green vegetables. We ate really well for a couple of years, and then we just got so busy that all health and fitness things just fell off the map...

And my god are there a lot of people in the TWW!!! C'mon, one of you needs to get a BFP.... Fx!!
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Drive-by posting to let everyone know that you're SUPPOSED to gain a few pounds (around 5) in the first few weeks after you start working out. This is because you're replacing fat with muscle, which weighs more. After the initial five, you should start dropping. If you gain more than that, it's because you're overeating to compensate for the extra calories you're burning. My doctor also told me that weight loss is about 75% diet and 25% exercise. It seems to be working; I've lost 15 pounds in the past 5 months! I only need to lose 5 more to be at my goal.

 

Pokey: OMG! Congratulations! joy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gif

 

I'm off to the RE soon; more personals later.

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pokey!!!!!  wooohooooooooo! congrats, gal!

 

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Thread Starter 

Congratulations, pokey!!! Will you go in for a repeat beta? Keep us updated!!!  joy.gif

 

Welcome back, mrspp smile.gif

 

And welcome to thenewzero! May your stay be short and sweet!

 

sotohana: I'm sorry for your loss hug2.gif Losing a parent is hard even when you are "expecting" it. Take care of each other.

 

gelly: Thanks for the update - good luck for July! I too have heard that it's very common to gain when when starting a new workout routine...especially if it's aimed at building muscle.

 

 

Afm: CD4, very normal AF so far so that's better than last cycle after the m/c. I have an acupuncture appointment this afternoon and will pick up some more herbs. I hope to O around May 12th or so.

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Congrats pokey! -- three cheers for the joy and relief that caused your DW to double over and cry!!! That's what all of us are hoping for. Every time we start a new thread, I am reminded that someone "graduates" almost every month, and oftentimes at least two people do. Good luck to us all for this month!!! grouphug.gif

 

Belated congrats to mtnlisa, if I haven't said that already!

 

I'm so sorry, Carmen and lisdea, to hear about your BFNs.

 

A warm welcome to thenewzero and any other newbies I've missed.

 

AFM, I am waiting for AF, but you can leave me in waiting to O, because that's the important part! I sat out this month due to travel.

 

HUGS and good luck everybody ----

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Pokey!! Yay!!!!!!!! joy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gif

So, so happy for you!!
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Pokey - YAHOOOO!!! Congratulations! broc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gif

 

Thanks for the 'welcome backs' - it's great to be on the ttc train again :)

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yay pokey!!! congrats!!!!!!!! joy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gif

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Still twiddling our thumbs this month ;)  and will hopefully try again in late May...

 

Congrats to MTNLisa and Pokey!!!!

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Hey everyone...

 

first off POKEY!!!!!! I am beyond excited for you guys... FX for a sticky bean!!! 

 

 

AFM...its an official BFN.. I knew  but hearing from the RE made me a bit sad .. had a little cry and now here we are... Can I be moved to waiting for AF... I am supposed to be taking a cycle off but RE said to test and see if I might O on my own.. I can not  be on any meds this month.. she wants my ovaries to rest.. Not sure we  will try this cycle..... I stopped the progesterone so AF should come soon enough~ 

 

I am in an ok place.. DP will try at least once  more....and we have the fostering stuff happening...and will move on to straight adoption with the county as soon as the fostering stuff is completed.

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