rs- I'm so sorry. I don't have a whole lot of advice for DP, but I echo what someone said earlier- let her be sad, and have her feelings. For me, the most painful part of my previous TTC process was people telling me that I shouldn't get so upset about things. She may just need to be heard and validated in order to move on emotionally past this roadblock. I will also say that when I was TTC my daughter, I got pregnant the first time I tried, and then had an early loss. The loss was very, very sad, but what was even worse was the FOUR CYCLES OF BFNs that followed. Logically I knew that it was possible for me to get pregnant, since it had happened once before, but going through those four cycles of negatives was soul-crushing, and made me doubt so much about my body. And, I had no fertility coverage and was a broke grad student (I actually took out a student loan to pay for sperm). So, yes, you are right, four cycles isn't a long time in fertility speak, but it's an eon in the emotions that accompany the TTC process. I did finally get a BFP on the fifth cycle after my miscarriage (sixth total cycle), which turned into my amazing daughter. Keep the faith. It will happen. But it's so hard along the way. (Oh, also, if you or anyone is curious, the ONLY thing I did differently in the two BFP cycles was use donors with higher sperm counts. Both were above 45 million, one significantly higher. I have no idea if this is what did the trick, or if it was just luck, but I like to mention it since it was the one variable that I noticed.)
carmen- I'm sorry this wasn't your cycle. Hugs.
Lovestreet- I'm sorry. What a crappy, stressful month. I had one of those last cycle too, which also ended in a BFN. I consoled myself by thinking that I wouldn't want my child to be conceived in the midst of such turmoil. I hope you close on your house ASAP and enjoy the process of making it your own! I love painting, redecorating, etc. Here's hoping that July will be the month that brings you lots to celebrate.
Wanna- Welcome to the two week wait! Fingers crossed for you.
AFM- We spent an awesome weekend in Asheville with my sister. Did some hiking, ate lots of great food, and had some nice family time. I don't feel pregnant, and I'm pretty sure this cycle will end in a BFN, but I don't really care right now, which feels nice. The past two cycles I've been CONVINCED both times that I was pregnant, had crazy symptoms all the way through, and then, nothing. So, I'm happy to be in a somewhat zen place for now (though of course, we'll see how long it lasts).