Carmen- I hope your O comes when you want it to and that you have fun at acupuncture and the concert!
outdoorsy- I get kind of bitter sometimes too about all we have to do and how much it costs. I would love to relax and just get busy and hope for a surprise. Oh well. Nothing we can do about that. I read the other boards on here and there are plenty of straight folks with access to free sperm who have a lot of trouble TTC also. There's no real rhyme or reason to why some people get pregnant when they do and others don't. I understand what you mean about grieving each new step. I had wanted to do this naturally, and I kind of feel like a sell out sometimes, but it also feels nice to put things in someone else's hands too.
To answer your earlier question, I have been taking Vitex for a while. I take the liquid 4 times a day. I did notice changes in my cycle. I can't remember what exactly but I think it helped improve my lining. It takes a while to reach maximum efficacy, so the sooner the better to start. I hadn't heard anything about not mixing it with Clomid, but I didn't ask. I took them at the same time.
Soto - I'm so sorry to hear about AF's arrival. It stings every time. This whole process is totally crazy-making! I feel like each cycle is different from the last, and there are surprises around every corner. I hope you are able to try again soon!
Angela - I'm very sorry to hear that AF is on her way! What a crappy week. I remember how heartbroken we were when Prop 8 passed in California. We were in mourning for a while. I just heard that President Obama came out in support of same-sex marriage, so things may be changing sooner than we think.
TunaQueen - Fiddlesticks, exactly! Apparently, I have a potty mouth, so I know what you mean. Wink wink. Good luck finding a new donor, and I hope your break is restorative and productive.
Wanna - I'm really sorry to hear about your BFN. Did you test again today? It would be awesome if it worked the first time, and sometimes it does. Hang in there!
MrsPP - Good luck with your new cycle and on your 5k. I believe it is fine to continue any exercise you've been doing already. Exercise is important to staying pregnant as Krista mentioned. I was told not to get my heart rate above 160, but that's not usually an issue for me.
Hopeful - I'm so sorry about your BFN! This process does wear you down, but it's early for you so don't give up yet!
Gloomcookie - Good luck with your FET tomorrow! Sending sticky bean vibes your way!
mrsandmrs - I'm sorry the metformin isn't doing its job. I hope you don't have to wait too long for the next try.
wishin & hopin - I'm glad the polyp removal went well and you and DP are back on track! I'm very sorry to hear about your mother. You have a lot to deal with right now. Take good care.
AFM - Thank you to everyone for your sweet messages and hugs. We needed them. We are doing better. Saturday night we went to the NCLR (National Center for Lesbian Rights) gala, and that is always a lot of fun. We drank too much wine and ate some yummy food. Jane Lynch was honored and so were 6 teenagers from Minnesota who sued their school district for not doing anything to prevent or stop anti-gay bullying. It's so inspirational to see kids who are not afraid to be out and to speak up for themselves and their classmates. And it's really cool to see their parents there supporting them. Sunday the weather was great and we took it easy, but we had to close the windows because we could hear our neighbor talking about her pregnancy with a guest. It made my wife cry. It always breaks my heart to see her so sad. I only told a few people but everyone has been really supportive.
I know people often tell women who've miscarried,"Well, at least you know you can get pregnant." It always seemed like that wouldn't be much consolation, but it kind of is a little bit. It was nice to be pregnant at all and to see the positive test. Of course, staying pregnant until the baby is ready to be born is the most important thing, but you can't get there without first getting pregnant. I've been doing research but we haven't made any plans for the next cycle yet. I looked at the calendar and it looks like I might ovulate in June around my DW's birthday. This is awesome, but one of the people I work for is going to be out of the office 3 days that week. He is rarely out of the office, but this is the third time he's planned a trip around my fertile time. Crazy coincidences! Oh well. Who knows what will happen? The best of luck to all of you! We've got a few weeks left in may to have some successes!