I am not sure if I am expecting too much from DS or if not how to encourage him to start looking after more of his personal hygiene.
To be more specific DS is 4 years 3mons old and he is a very bright kid however he is not really interested in self care stuff. He will take himself to the bathroom and when it is a pee he will put down the lid, flush the toilet and wash his hand by himself (most of the time I need to verbally remind him "what do you need to do after you go to the bathroom?") but when he has a BM he just calls out "I need a bum wipe" and expects DH or I to come in and clean him up. He doesn't even try to wipe himself. The last few days we have been asking him to at least try on his own and then he can call us to help him finish but he really balks at this saying "I can't or "I can't reach the toilet paper" (which he can) or "I don't know how" (I have showed him a number of times)
Other things he always asks for help (basically meaning he wants me or DH to do it) is getting dressed (esp. putting on socks) putting on his shoes (which are Velcro and he can put them on by himself without a problem but we do tend to get into a power struggle over it)
Anyway what can and does your 4 year old do?