Mamas, please talk to me about dreamwork. I've been having the most horrible nightmares lately. (Last night I dreamed that because my baby died, child protective services was investigating me to decide whether to take my other kids away.) I'm hoping to make one of those herbal dream pillows today with the kids. Any other ideas?
When I had my pg loss (10 years ago next month -- 21 weeks gestation) I had horrid, vivid, plaguing dreams. I found journaling was key to my recovery/grief process. I wrote everything out: all dreams I could remember, what it made me think of, all the emotions I was being pummeled by, all my irritations with my hubby, friends who drifted away, people who made me feel tainted and thereby untouchable, my child (then nearly 3) who didn't understand at all.........no matter how awful or socially unacceptable I could journal all of it. It helped. I usually sobbed through it and that was cathartic.
Over many weeks I could see the intensity of my grief changing. I could see that my dreams where less and less harrowing and morphing into healing.
At the one year mark I read through all my journaling from that hard, hard time (and I was 7mos pg with my next baby, so super emotional again anyway) It helped me to see how much healing had occurred in the intervening year.
I had a private ceremony that evening where I burned the journals -- it felt like releasing that energy that I didn't need anymore.