or Connect
Mothering › Mothering Forums › Mom › Talk Amongst Ourselves › Spirituality › ~~~~~ May Pagan Family Thread ~~~~~
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:

~~~~~ May Pagan Family Thread ~~~~~ - Page 3

post #41 of 143

Just a quick stop to say that the full moon tonight will be a Supermoon! Looking forward to getting to see Her in all Her glory!! love.gif Hope the weather cooperates and the clouds clear up....

post #42 of 143

looking forward to it! tomorrow is my area's famous mayday parade. the arrival of summer in all her glory!

post #43 of 143
Quote:
Originally Posted by revolting View Post

 

Well, this is what I did with my eldest: When my second came along, we tried the whole family bed thing. She was almost three at the time, and she still nursed at night. With my milk coming in, suddently she was wetting the bed all the time (when previously she hadn't wet the bed since she was less than two), and no one was getting any sleep. So, we abruptly night weaned her and transitioned her to a bed away from me. She wouldn't sleep by herself initially, so we started with having my partner sleep with her. Gradually, he stopped sleeping with her. She had an early bedtime than us, so even when before he stopped sleeping with her, we had started to talk about what she should do if she woke up to comfort herself back to sleep. We'd tell her that she needed to drink some water, try to use the bathroom, adjust her covers, and cuddle her doll. If she still couldn't get back to sleep, she could come get Daddy. Sometime before she was four, she was sleeping by herself almost every night. We didn't announce it. He just stopped going to sleep in her bed unless she came and got him, and eventually she pretty much stopped asking.

 

I don't know exactly how things will work with my second. He is already night weaned, and he sleeps better at night than my eldest did at that age. He also has an early bedtime, but if he wakes (which is more rare), he doesn't soothe himself yet, but because he wakes less frequently, I'm sort of hoping that if I move him to his own bed, most nights he'll just sleep through the night. If not, my partner will sleep with him and we'll work on teaching him to soothe himself at night. He's a lot less verbal than my eldest at this age, so teaching him that seems like a more daunting project, but while I prefer my partner to sleep with me, I just want him sleeping somewhere other than with me and the new baby come this winter. I don't know how helpful that is for a home with an only child.

Thank you, revolting, this was very helpful, actually.  I like how you helped your older child learn how to comfort herself.  Z also goes to bed earlier and doesn't usually wake up much.  I think I'll wait on it for a bit but I am glad to know what you did to transition.  I think if it were just she and I in the bed I'd just keep her there for eternity (haha) but 3 of us is just beginning to get a bit cramped.  

Quote:
Originally Posted by Maiasaura View Post

 

The services are pretty interesting, usually. I've been going since ds was a baby, so sometimes I get over them-- too lofty-service-helpful....I don't know that I can make sense here. They're very inspiring but sometimes they make me feel inadequate. Most of the people there are old, white, have lots of money and time to go off galavanting around the globe reconstructing towns that have had earthquakes or tsunamis or hurricanes. I have enough on my plate just being a single mama.

 

 

Man, our local UU church broadcasts their services on a public access cable channel.  One of the few times I actually wish I had cable.  I totally understand what you mean when you talk about the old, white libbies... you're describing my inlaws!  I love and respect their passion for being able to *help, help, help* but sometimes it gets overwhelming and, like you said, makes me feel inadequate.  

 

Quote:

Originally Posted by MamaInTheDesert View Post

Added is all the self-conscious things I mentioned in my previous post. I think it's awesome that he wants to know more about my religious views and practices. But the flip side of it is that it's pretty intimidating to get a round of 20 questions if I pull out my tarot cards or say "Honey can you watch DD for 20 minutes in the morning while I do a little meditation and reflection." There's that energy floating around in the background that is like "What are you doing? How is this being interpreted? Am I going to have to answer for this?" Again, I want to re-iterate that DH is doing NOTHING wrong what-so-ever. I just have my own hang ups about it, and then feeling "studied" makes it feel even more out of place for me to be bringing spirituality into our home.

 

Oy... sorry for the novel! redface.gif

Talk about self-conscious... I was doing a Litha solitary ritual last year and I look up and my hubby is staring out the window at me.  Which is sweet that he is interested but somehow being watched by him made it feel - less personal or something.  Especially because that was one of the first rituals I did.  I don't feel like my DH was doing anything wrong, he was just curious and I wasn't ready to share yet because I wasn't even sure.  After that I made sure that, like others here, I have a personal ritual and a family ritual that way he (and of course DD) can participate and I can explain what we're doing and why and then the next time we're planning he can help.  If that makes sense. 

 

 

Quote:
Originally Posted by witchygrrl View Post

So I think I want to homeschool the UU Religious Education with DD, and keep taking her to rituals as often as I can. When she's older, I'll take her to other worship services for the experience. The town where I live has a Hindu temple, so I really really really want to go there myself!

 

Anyway, my DD is almost 4, and so far I have raised her Pagan, but she knows about Christmas, Easter, Passover, and Hannukah a bit, at least from a more secular point of view. She'll pick up on the nuances when she's older, and if she decides to not be Pagan when she's older, that's okay. I decided not to be Christian when I was 21, so what's the difference?

Is there a resource for homeschooling the UU RE?  and I really relate to this second paragraph.  DD is *almost* 2 but this is my general plan.  generally.  The thought of some kind of instruction would be nice... who knows... I feel like I'll know what is right when it's time... if that makes sense.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Maiasaura View Post

Today my boy comes home! I have been missing him and will be so glad to see him. Though I realized that I haven't needed to take any flower essences (especially for overwhelm) since he's been gone. Sigh. I have really enjoyed the quiet, and the uninterruption of the day-- not having to break up the day to get him from school or go to baseball or martial arts or do homework or get him in bed or get up to an alarm. It's been a nice break redface.gif

 

Tomorrow is the public Beltane ritual, outside at this fabulous park by the river with lots of trails for walking or biking. There's a potluck after. I am bringing a Maypole cake (will post pix!) and a "Chopped Salad" which is basically a low-carb thing with crumbled blue cheese, bacon, chicken, avocado, on a green mixed salad. Nom! I am getting to call a quarter with a pennywhistle! I have no idea how to play one. But I've played flute, piano, drums in the past. I'm sure I'll be able to come up with something. Which quarter, do you think-- Air?

 

M is doing well. Still unemployed, but still sober joy.gif He found a place that will give him his meds for free, once this prescription runs out. And he's had some Very Important People tell him that he is NOT TO RUN OUT or stop taking them, so YAY. He hasn't got housing assistance, but he's got food stamps and free meds, so those are good things. He said he was going to lose his internet soon, and then the phone on the 15th, to which I said "I can get into your phone account, nanner nanner boo boo!" lol.gif and he laughed. Sorry but I am NOT going to cut off contact for a measly $50 or whatever. He can pay me back when he gets employed.

Hooray for a break and hooray for the homecoming.  Sometimes its nice to miss what you have.  How's your DS been since he came home?  and, I assume that you never had to have a crazy emergency call as the teachers were so worried about! Nice job, kiddo!! 

 

Seriously wish I could have gone to a public Beltane ritual.  It just sounds so great.  Our friends (the only other pagans we know IRL) invited us to theirs but it's 6 hours away in VT so... that wasn't happening this year.  Hopefully someday!!! How was calling the quarter??

Quote:
Originally Posted by glassesgirlnj View Post

As for us, my spouse and I are planning to go out for a combination birthday/handfastingiversary dinner tomorrow night.  We're using the same babysitter we've used once before for a couple hours. Wish us luck!

Good luck and have fun!! heartbeat.gif

Quote:
Originally Posted by Mommy2Austin View Post

I'm in constant meditation mode it seems. My life is in an upheaval and I'm not sure what direction I'm supposed to be going. Time like these I wish I knew a Shamannic Healer! I could use some healing and guidance.

Sending you energy for some kind of direction or cue for moving forward soon, mama.  

 

Quote:
Originally Posted by 3xMama View Post

Just a quick stop to say that the full moon tonight will be a Supermoon! Looking forward to getting to see Her in all Her glory!! love.gif Hope the weather cooperates and the clouds clear up....

Okay, so it seems like every month, right around the full moon, I have a night where I just can't sleep.  My mind races with craziness and I toss and turn.  Last night was the night this month.  Up til 4.  I know the full moon is the time for fulfillment for whatever is started at the new moon. I'm thinking on nights like these I should just get my hiney out of bed and do a ritual of some kind.  It's never planned, it just happens.  The thing is, always, at the end of these nights, because I take the time to quiet my mind and look in to the shadows that are bubbling up I feel so calm and recentered.  Does this happen to anyone else?  

 

Today we went and bought our broccoli and cauliflower starts for the garden.  We'll plant those, lettuce and some of the herbs later this evening or tomorrow.  Being at the garden center was a tease.  I'm still waiting for us to be out of danger of frost to do the big planting.  I am gnawing at the bit to get my garden moving!! :)  

 

Tomorrow is the half marathon in our city.  I will be WATCHING it.  haha.  My prep was to make a giant sign for my good friend who is running it!  

 

Hope everyone is having a lovely weekend with all of their celebrating!  blowkiss.gif

post #44 of 143
Quote:
Originally Posted by vydalea View PostHow's your DS been since he came home?  and, I assume that you never had to have a crazy emergency call as the teachers were so worried about! Nice job, kiddo!! 

 

Seriously wish I could have gone to a public Beltane ritual.  It just sounds so great.  Our friends (the only other pagans we know IRL) invited us to theirs but it's 6 hours away in VT so... that wasn't happening this year.  Hopefully someday!!! How was calling the quarter??

Good luck and have fun!! heartbeat.gif

 

DS has been one nearly-constant snarkfest since he came home irked.gif

 

Last night was a night of yelling, because M had an "episode", too-- he was not drinking but somehow he was either hungry, or his meds pooped out, or...something. He was freaking nasty and he doesn't even remember it. I mean, two hours later, he didn't realize he'd been that way. Had no idea. So between him and DS I felt like a punching bag. After 4 days of bliss. Gah.

 

Today ds had a game, then the ritual-- which was lovely. I didn't call the quarter (and yes, it was East), but I accompanied the woman who did call. It was fun. LOVELY ritual! Thanks for asking!

 

And no, I didn't get any emergency call-- I'm so annoyed I could puke. Last year, ds was a year younger, went 8 hours away, did not have a one-on-one, and did fine. I went to MA with no problem. Nobody expressed worry about ds.

This year, they went TWO hours away, he had a one-on-one, and they were all freaky-deaky "You have to be here in case!".

 

GRRR. Freakazoids. And it's not just me, my son's best school friend's mom just shot me an email that said "I am so sick of 5th grade". Yep.

post #45 of 143

Moon was awesome last night!

post #46 of 143
Quote:
Originally Posted by Maiasaura View Post

 

DS has been one nearly-constant snarkfest since he came home irked.gif

 

Last night was a night of yelling, because M had an "episode", too-- he was not drinking but somehow he was either hungry, or his meds pooped out, or...something. He was freaking nasty and he doesn't even remember it. I mean, two hours later, he didn't realize he'd been that way. Had no idea. So between him and DS I felt like a punching bag. After 4 days of bliss. Gah.

 

Today ds had a game, then the ritual-- which was lovely. I didn't call the quarter (and yes, it was East), but I accompanied the woman who did call. It was fun. LOVELY ritual! Thanks for asking!

 

And no, I didn't get any emergency call-- I'm so annoyed I could puke. Last year, ds was a year younger, went 8 hours away, did not have a one-on-one, and did fine. I went to MA with no problem. Nobody expressed worry about ds.

This year, they went TWO hours away, he had a one-on-one, and they were all freaky-deaky "You have to be here in case!".

 

GRRR. Freakazoids. And it's not just me, my son's best school friend's mom just shot me an email that said "I am so sick of 5th grade". Yep.

 

i am so sorry your having a hard time with family!

 

the moon was incredible last night. things here are just going along. we seem to be attracting cats. we have one that sits and stares into the house from the porch. he is lovelry but won't let us near him.

post #47 of 143
Quote:
Originally Posted by Valerie.Qc View PostMoon was awesome last night!

 

Quote:
Originally Posted by ian'smommaya View Posti am so sorry your having a hard time with family!

 

the moon was incredible last night. things here are just going along. we seem to be attracting cats. we have one that sits and stares into the house from the porch. he is lovelry but won't let us near him.

 

I didn't think the moon was anything out of the ordinary. It felt like a way more powerful moon, but it honestly didn't look any different than any other full moon. I did remember to put my crystals in the windowsill for charging, and they were all nice and shiny this morning!

 

Thanks, Ian's, for your commiseration with my troubles!

post #48 of 143

hug2.gif

 

it seemed bigger to me, but the same moon was there in april and two or three months ago (i listened to an astonomer while shuffling kids.)
 

post #49 of 143

UU congregations: I went to a UU church nearby and except for a boy who was about 11, I was without a doubt by far the youngest person there. There were a few who seemed to be upper forties, fifties, but mostly it was white retirees (70 and up, easily) with too much money. At *least* 3/4 of the congregation fit that bill. And then there was me, 24 at the time, with a 7 month old baby. I felt so out of place. It was awful. Luckily there is another UU church, though it is quite a bit further out, just off a college campus that caters to a younger crowd. It was far more eclectic, even saw another mama nursing her baby. I really need to go back there and get involved inthe Pagan group there.

 

Moon: It seemed a little bigger but I was expecting something much more pronounced. What I kept seeing online about it I figured it would dominate the night sky. But no. It was pretty though! Freaked out my friend who was over when I poured a libation of milk to the Goddess (particularly Isis) on the ground by my oak tree and lit a candle. orngbiggrin.gif She was ok once she figured out it was religious and I wasn't just going a little mad. orngtongue.gif

 

Maia-Sorry about your DS. Hopefully he's just tired and will straighten out in another day or two. Glad the ritual was good! I'd love to participate in something like that. :)

post #50 of 143

yesterday was gorgeous here. i was nesting (spring cleaning on steroids. lol.) but dh decided he wanted to take advantage of my energy and got me to go out to the park with him and the kids. we fished, we played at the park, and we waded through the upside down bridge. the edges are slippery but we were careful. 

 

at the end of the day we packed everything up and the kids wanted to dip their feet one more time. but they all wanted to be barefoot. so everyone took off their sandals.... including me. i had the 2 yr old and dh was trying to show the others the crawdads. i leaned over to toss the 2 yr olds shoes up on the bank and my feet slipped out from under me and i fell flat on my belly! it felt like landing on a basketball. i got a bad braxton-hicks contraction and i felt like i was going to puke and i couldnt breathe for a minute. we were in the same town as my mom and 5 min from a hospital (she lived in between where we were and the hospital) so we dropped off the girls and went to the hospital to make sure we were ok. the monitored me for about 20 min and since there was no bleeding or labor signs etc they cleared me to go. woo hoo for a strong uterus and a healthy placenta! but today everything is sore. i am trying to rest. my belly muscles hurt, my hips, lower back, etc. all the joints are sore and even the muscles in my arms. but i am feeling better. before i went to the hospital i called my doctors office and my midwife. the doc office was closed but it goes through to a nurse desk and she is the one who told me to go to the hospital. she called me back 10 min later and then she called me again tonight to check on me. i am so touched. that was so nice. my midwife (a solitary dem) took 2 hours to call me back bc she was with her daughters at the prom or something. i tried to call her again today to ask if it was normal to feel this sore (the nurse reaasured me) and she didnt answer the phone. i left a message at 1:30pm. it is now 7:30 and she still hasnt called me back. 

post #51 of 143
Quote:
Originally Posted by MamaInTheDesert View PostBasically, how he feels is that there needs to be balance and fairness when it comes to religious instruction with the kids. If we're just sharing our beliefs, then that's one thing, but if we're instructing them then it's another. So, for him, this "balance" is a one-to-one thing. It's not enough that there are some Bible passages in the book I presented that may take months before we pick them. Basically, one night I should be responsible for prayer that represents my religious foundations, and the next night he should be responsible for prayer that represents his. If I teach DD the chant "We all Come from the Goddess" then he should be able to teach her "Father Abraham." I mentioned wishing there was a family or children's circle that I could take DD to. He said that he would then love to take her to Sunday School as well. And so on and so on.

 

It's not that I entirely disagree with him. I see his point about us being equally responsible for our children's upbringing, and not wanting to discount either parent or their beliefs. In theory it sounds really nice: "I'll teach them what I believe, and you teach them what you believe, and they'll have a varied and rich foundation of religious background that will serve them when they go to choose their own religious path in life." In reality though, I think it looks more like: "Mom and Dad (in DD's case, step-dad) have different beliefs. If I follow one or the other belief then I'll make the opposite parent sad. Both religions seem really confusing and contradictory. I have no sense of identity. I don't even want to talk about religion any more." But when you look at the arguments of "Balanced, fair, mutual spiritual growth" vs. "Confusing and possibly alienating." I think that he wins by a landslide. It's not like he wants to rush out and take them to church because that's what he feels he should do. He just thinks that if I'm going to step up and start introducing the kids to a spiritual life, then he needs to take an active role AS WELL. So... this has contributed to the lack of moving forward with making my life more spiritual because I don't want to make it more confusing on the kiddos.

 

 

Well, I think it depends. I think Christianity and Paganism aren't contradictory. There's a book called the Jesus Mysteries that argues that Jesus is actually a reinvention of other Pagan Gods and Pagan mystery religions of the time. Christo-Paganism is a thing, you know. I think that if you can step away from seeing the religions as contradictory, it will really help raising your kids in an inter-faith house.

 

For our home, my husband is an assimilated Jewish agnostic. I am a Pagan with strong Christian leanings. I'm definitely the more religious of us. My partner vaguely wants to raise them Jewish, but he doesn't have the same motivation as your husband (which might be good, because there's no way I'd have agreed to circing our boy). If I hear about something I think my husband might want to do with the kids (like when I heard about a secular Jewish sunday school), I'll tell him about it. My husband's favorite Jewish holidays are Passover and Hanukkah, so I make sure we get books from the library about those. When I heard about a program that sends a free children's book to Jewish family every month, I told my partner and when he expressed interest, I signed them up. When a friend was moving and giving away her menorah, I made sure to snag it and I make sure that a few Hanukkah songs make it on our playlist during the holidays. I generally do the holiday cooking (but then again, I generally am the one who cooks, period in this house - part of being a SAHM, ya know.) For his part, he'll help me with my holiday baking, shopping for the supplies for holiday crafting, is actually pretty enthusiastic about going to full moon fire jams, but always helps me set up and coral kids during any family ritual I do. It balances, but I also think by us both helping and being involved in what we want our kids to be exposed to spiritually, it makes it clear that the kids aren't choosing sides by being into one of the faiths we do in this family more than another.

 

Quote:
Originally Posted by Maiasaura View Post

 

 

I thought I was the ONLY person out there to love grocery shopping! Everyone I know hates it! Yay, I have an ally!

 

 

 

I like grocery shopping by myself. I hate grocery shopping with the kids: it involves a lot of trying to get them not to run around the store; telling them we can't buy every processed food we pass; and often someone crying or refusing to walk up the two flights of stairs to my apartment so I have to carry a child and all the groceries.

 

Quote:
Originally Posted by glassesgirlnj View Post

As for us, my spouse and I are planning to go out for a combination birthday/handfastingiversary dinner tomorrow night.  We're using the same babysitter we've used once before for a couple hours. Wish us luck!

 

I hope your dinner was awesome!

 

Quote:
Originally Posted by vydalea View Post


Is there a resource for homeschooling the UU RE?  and I really relate to this second paragraph.  DD is *almost* 2 but this is my general plan.  generally.  The thought of some kind of instruction would be nice... who knows... I feel like I'll know what is right when it's time... if that makes sense.

Hooray for a break and hooray for the homecoming.  Sometimes its nice to miss what you have.  How's your DS been since he came home?  and, I assume that you never had to have a crazy emergency call as the teachers were so worried about! Nice job, kiddo!! 

 

Seriously wish I could have gone to a public Beltane ritual.  It just sounds so great.  Our friends (the only other pagans we know IRL) invited us to theirs but it's 6 hours away in VT so... that wasn't happening this year.

 

For homeschooling religious education from a UU POV, take a look at this: http://www.uua.org/re/tapestry/children/index.shtml. It's kind of old for your kiddo, though. We definitely attend a UU church for the religious education program. There's just a lot of cool stuff, and for the 3-6 year old age group, it's Montessori based, which I think is great.

 

The public Beltane ritual in our area specifically said it was not open to kids, but that if someone was interested in organizing something open to kids, to contact them. I just don't have the energy for it, but I was bummed.

 

Quote:
Originally Posted by 3xMama View Post

UU congregations: I went to a UU church nearby and except for a boy who was about 11, I was without a doubt by far the youngest person there. There were a few who seemed to be upper forties, fifties, but mostly it was white retirees (70 and up, easily) with too much money. At *least* 3/4 of the congregation fit that bill. And then there was me, 24 at the time, with a 7 month old baby. I felt so out of place. It was awful. Luckily there is another UU church, though it is quite a bit further out, just off a college campus that caters to a younger crowd. It was far more eclectic, even saw another mama nursing her baby. I really need to go back there and get involved inthe Pagan group there.

 

 

I so wish our UU church had a Pagan group. The closes UU church with a Pagan group is 1.5 hours away - too far. But, yeah, it's kind of weird being a younger parent at at UU church. When I pick my kid up from RE, I am the youngest mama there by over a decade at least. At one church  when I was pregnant with my first, the minister encouraged me to give my baby up for adoption! She later told me that having my baby at the service was disruptive. I stopped going. We moved. My daughter got older. We started attending a different church that isn't as tolerant of littles as I would like, but as I said, I love the RE program.

 

Quote:
Originally Posted by LionessMom View Post
my midwife (a solitary dem) took 2 hours to call me back bc she was with her daughters at the prom or something. i tried to call her again today to ask if it was normal to feel this sore (the nurse reaasured me) and she didnt answer the phone. i left a message at 1:30pm. it is now 7:30 and she still hasnt called me back. 

That sucks about your midwife. I definitely had that problem with my CNM group after the birth of my second. I was running a fever and feeling awful right after my birth, and I couldn't get a hold of anyone. That's one reason why I'm looking for a new practice this time around.

 

I missed the super moon due to storms, storms, storms. Beautiful storms, though they ruined my strawberry crop.

 

(Edited because some of my reply got devoured by the interwebz.)


Edited by revolting - 5/7/12 at 8:39am
post #52 of 143

The lilac bush is in bloom outside my window.  The scent is wafting through my living room and it's lovely.

 

I'm going to be calling cable this morning and getting rid of my cable, internet, and phone.  Man this is going to be hard.  I haven't been able to get a regular tv signal on my tv without cable so this is going to be so hard...on both me and ds!  

post #53 of 143

Maia: Yikes about your DS!  Has it gotten any better?  ... and M.  What the what?  How is HE feeling now?  How are you feeling???

 

I swear, that moon had some serious crazy pull.  I was at a family event on Saturday morning and everyone was out of whack.  BIG TIME.  It was super bright here.  Just gorgeous.  

 

LionessMom: Very disappointing about your midwife.  I hope you feel comfortable enough with her to express your concern that you couldn't reach her.  I am glad you and baby are okay!  That had to have been a scary moment.  

 

revolting: thanks for the link to the resource for UU RE.  It might be too young but it will get me thinking and give me a basis so I truly appreciate it.  The book Jesus Mysteries sounds really, really interesting.  I'm going to have to check that out!  

 

DoK: No internet would be really hard on me, too.  Good luck, mama!!  Are you still going to be able to check in with us? The lilac sounds amazingly delicious!! 

 

I hope everyone has a great week this week.  We're gearing up for Z's 2nd birthday on Thursday!!  Weeee!  joy.gif I'm so excited!  We have been singing happy birthday to *everything* all day.  I even heard her singing "happy birthday to daddy's light" hahaha.  She's a nut... and you know what they say...the *nut* doesn't fall far from the tree. heehee.  

post #54 of 143
Quote:
Originally Posted by 3xMama View PostMaia-Sorry about your DS. Hopefully he's just tired and will straighten out in another day or two. Glad the ritual was good! I'd love to participate in something like that. :)

 

I dunno. I took away his beloved Bey Blades. Till further notice. I said they are taking over WAY too much of your life and they are interrupting the flow of our family and what is really important-- and they are not. He thinks they are. But he took it rather well. He wants to know when he'll get them back. I said I dunno. Which I don't.

 

I don't want his behavior to depend on when he'll get them back, only to be snarky again. I said he needs to be respectful EVEN IF he doesn't feel like it, or is tired, or is in a bad mood, or whatever. I said he needs to do homework, or chores, or eat, or whatever, WITHOUT WHINING or complaining. Every.Single.Time. I said when you are in a bad mood you like to drag everyone else down with you, and I feel constantly punished, and I'm tired of it. You.Will.Be.Respectful.

 

I really, really hate bribing him. I really do. I want him so badly to behave just because it's the right thing to do *sigh*

 

 

 

Quote:
Originally Posted by LionessMom View Postand my feet slipped out from under me and i fell flat on my belly! it felt like landing on a basketball. i got a bad braxton-hicks contraction and i felt like i was going to puke and i couldnt breathe for a minute. 

 

Something like that happened to me, too, when I was pregnant. Are you alright now?

 

Quote:

Originally Posted by revolting View PostChristo-Paganism is a thing, you know. I think that if you can step away from seeing the religions as contradictory, it will really help raising your kids in an inter-faith house.

 

I like grocery shopping by myself. I hate grocery shopping with the kids: it involves a lot of trying to get them not to run around the store; telling them we can't buy every processed food we pass; and often someone crying or refusing to walk up the two flights of stairs to my apartment so I have to carry a child and all the groceries.

 

 

 

At one church  when I was pregnant with my first, the minister encouraged me to give my baby up for adoption! She later told me that having my baby at the service was disruptive.

 

bigeyes.gif Wow, really?? Did you slap her? Just....wow.

 

Well of course shopping alone, that goes without saying lol.gif

 

Yes, you can find things about ChristoPagan online. I'm still trying to reconcile the two.

 

Quote:
Originally Posted by vydalea View PostMaia: Yikes about your DS!  Has it gotten any better?  ... and M.  What the what?  How is HE feeling now?  How are you feeling???

 

DoK: No internet would be really hard on me, too.  Good luck, mama!!  Are you still going to be able to check in with us? The lilac sounds amazingly delicious!! 

 

I hope everyone has a great week this week.  We're gearing up for Z's 2nd birthday on Thursday!!  Weeee!  joy.gif I'm so excited!  We have been singing happy birthday to *everything* all day.  I even heard her singing "happy birthday to daddy's light" hahaha.  She's a nut... and you know what they say...the *nut* doesn't fall far from the tree. heehee.  

 

M is better. We still have no idea. But now he has lots of Important People pressing him about the meds, so he is determined not to go off them. At least for today eyesroll.gif

 

Happy birthday to Z! Yay! I like her version of the birthday song.

post #55 of 143

Mommy2Austin - I think it's so cool that you're proficient with so many different ways of working with yarn. I attempted knitting with needles and just could not get my hands to move the right way. And don't even get me started on the potholder I tried to crochet... it was from a project box labeled 7-10 year olds! So far, loom knitting is the only thing I "get" at all.

 

Quote:
Originally Posted by vydalea View Post

Talk about self-conscious... I was doing a Litha solitary ritual last year and I look up and my hubby is staring out the window at me.  Which is sweet that he is interested but somehow being watched by him made it feel - less personal or something.  Especially because that was one of the first rituals I did.  I don't feel like my DH was doing anything wrong, he was just curious and I wasn't ready to share yet because I wasn't even sure.  After that I made sure that, like others here, I have a personal ritual and a family ritual that way he (and of course DD) can participate and I can explain what we're doing and why and then the next time we're planning he can help.  If that makes sense.

 

Yes! This is exactly what I expect with my DH! He would sooo be peeking though a window! I love your way of doing both a personal and a family ritual. That is something that might actually work for me. Good luck with Z's birthday!

 

Maiasaura - Sorry about the school freaking out about your DS being on the trip. That's got to be so annoying when you know that he's capable. At least you have a little bit of commiseration with the other mom. School year's almost over! Yay for the end of 5th grade!

 

LionessMom - Hooray for fishing! But boo to falling on your bump! That must have been so scary. I'm so glad that everything ended up being okay though. DH and I went fishing on Friday night. We only got a couple of nibbles, but it was so nice to just be out in nature staring over the river. This time we actually remembered to bring the telescope too, so that was neat.

 

Quote:
Originally Posted by revolting View Post
Christo-Paganism is a thing, you know. I think that if you can step away from seeing the religions as contradictory, it will really help raising your kids in an inter-faith house.

 

I do know that it is a thing. I, like Maiasaura put it, am still working on reconciling the two. Christianity just seems like it is so... "God is the only God" and "Christianity is the One Right Way." Disagreeing with some of the basic tenets of Christianity when it feels like such an unyielding religion makes me feel as if there is no room for me there. It's definitely something I need to work on and think through some more.

 

DOK - That's cool that your lilac is blooming. I think lilac just smells beautiful. I finally got some lavender and sage planted out in the back yard for some smell-good back there. The sage is doing good, but the lavender looks a little beat up already. It won't be till next year that they're big enough to create a good scent though anyway.

post #56 of 143
We're having a small party on Wednesday to celebrate my oldest's birthday. My dad is going to take him after the party and buy him a new bicycle. I'm excited for him :-)

I'm a whirlwind of emotions right now. Parts of my past are haunting me and leaving me unsettled and alone. Its not something I can talk to anyone I know about. My feelings are very strong and it is causing me unending grief. Long story short I'm trying to convince myself that I need to be content with my life as it is because its what I chose. I'm a mess.

I have to start getting all the stuff ready to take to my Dad's house on Wednesday. We're going to stay with him for a week. It'll be nice to get out of the house.
post #57 of 143
Quote:
Originally Posted by Mommy2Austin View Post

We're having a small party on Wednesday to celebrate my oldest's birthday. My dad is going to take him after the party and buy him a new bicycle. I'm excited for him :-)
I'm a whirlwind of emotions right now. Parts of my past are haunting me and leaving me unsettled and alone. Its not something I can talk to anyone I know about. My feelings are very strong and it is causing me unending grief. Long story short I'm trying to convince myself that I need to be content with my life as it is because its what I chose. I'm a mess.
I have to start getting all the stuff ready to take to my Dad's house on Wednesday. We're going to stay with him for a week. It'll be nice to get out of the house.

 

Doing a quick fly-by on the way to ds's baseball game, but wanted to give you a quick hug2.gif

post #58 of 143
Quote:
Originally Posted by MamaInTheDesert View Post Christianity just seems like it is so... "God is the only God" and "Christianity is the One Right Way." Disagreeing with some of the basic tenets of Christianity when it feels like such an unyielding religion makes me feel as if there is no room for me there. It's definitely something I need to work on and think through some more.

I think that the most visible section of Christianity tends to be the more fundamentalist part, and fundamentalism (no matter what religion) doesn't play well with others. But there's a huge history of liberal theology within Christianity, too. Try reading Marcus Borg (and maybe Pilgrim at Tinker Creek by Annie Dillard afterwards). Try attending a United Church of Christ church or a few, since some are more liberal than others. Look into Celtic Christianity. And feminist Christianity. Read Unveiled: The Hidden Lives of Nuns to hear about Goddess-worshipping nuns who reject the authority of the Pope. Read up on the Jesus Seminar. And Emergent Christianity. And think about talking to your partner about his beliefs. He loves a Pagan. I think he's might be more open to pluralism than fundamentalist Christianity for that reason alone.

post #59 of 143
Quote:
Originally Posted by Maiasaura View Post

Something like that happened to me, too, when I was pregnant. Are you alright now?

 

 

yes, i feel better now. it is still sore where i landed on it. and it hurts when the baby kicks me there. but everything is fine. thank goodness. 

post #60 of 143
Quote:
Originally Posted by LionessMom View Post but everything is fine. thank goodness. 

 

joy.gif

 

 

Do you know what sex your baby is? I forgot if you were going to find out. You're due in June, yes? Have you got a name list or anything? If I were there, I'd get you a massage smile.gif

New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:
  Return Home
  Back to Forum: Spirituality
Mothering › Mothering Forums › Mom › Talk Amongst Ourselves › Spirituality › ~~~~~ May Pagan Family Thread ~~~~~