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post #261 of 291
Joanie, I'm sorry he is having such a hard time.
post #262 of 291

Joanie - Hugs!  I hope that your father will be okay.  How are you holding up?

 

AFM:  We're doing it!  We are going to buy a converted bus and travel for a while.  My dh is totally qualified to be contract engineering work, so he will be able to make money from the road.  He's going to pick the bus up this weekend (it's 3 hours away).  It is very nice and professionally converted in a cottage-like style.  I will post some pics after we pick it up.  I'm pretty sure that our family is about to do an intervention, but whatever!  Now, how are our neighbors going to feel about a 40' school bus parked in our front yard?  Ha ha. 

 

ETA:  My dh is doing very well.  He is actually more pleasant than I've ever known him!  It's really been a good thing that we've gone through this and now he's on medication.  :)

post #263 of 291

That's great, Abra! I'm glad your DH is doing so well and it sounds like things are looking up for you guys. thumb.gif I'm eager to see photos of the bus. I've never seen a converted one!

 

I'm holding up okay. I think my stress level rose without me noticing in time to keep it in check because now I'm pretty on edge again 24/7... It's making mothering a baby an overwhelming task again. Plus it doesn't help that Sora is starting to cry more often again during the day. She must be teething? I'm sure it also doesn't help that all I want to do is sit at home this week now that my college class started and I'm in a mental rut. The baby wants to be out and about.

 

My dad is doing alright. He's just sick of being in a hospital bed. They're tentatively keeping him until Saturday. I think they're just monitoring him. To my knowledge, they haven't done anything to treat the clot except apply hot/cold compresses and give him antibiotics. I don't understand how that will get rid of it, but I also know they have little options at this point.

post #264 of 291

Hey, guys. Quick question: Levi is 6 1/2 months old and still isn't sitting up by himself for more than a couple seconds. And even then, he's not sitting up straight, he leans over. Is this okay? I'm looking at everyone else's babies and they are all sitting up perfectly and stable. confused.gif

post #265 of 291

Oh Joanie... hug2.gif What an awful time.  That totally happens to me, too, where I find myself super irritable and cranky and then suddenly realize how much my anxiety has been building up without my being cognizant of it.  KJ is having suuuper fussy moments/days, too.  I think it's teething and on top of it the doc felt her gums the other day and said her teeth have a long way to go before they pop through.  I wonder if it's the age, too?  It seems that KJ wants to do more than she's able to do -- she's super squirmy and seems like she wants to interact/play with things/get places on a level she's not yet reached.  Anyway.  Thinking of you.

 

KJ slept from 9:30pm until 4:30am last night without waking up.  Nursed once at 4:30 and then slept till 7:30.  OMG HEAVEN.  This after a HORRIBLE week a couple weeks ago when she was waking up every HOUR sometimes.  She's recently started going to sleep between 9 and 9:30 every night and I think the later bedtime is working very well for her (please don't let this jinx me here).

post #266 of 291

Oh and... Anyone else having crazy baby fever?  I know, I know.  I already HAVE a baby.  I'm not planning on getting pregnant any time soon.  I swear.  But I'm constantly looking at belly photos in other DDCs, reading birth stories, etc... it's kind of intense.

post #267 of 291

I'm thinking of you Joanie!  I hope his recovery from here on out is smooth sailing.  Glad to hear he is improving, though!  Have you been able to visit a lot lately?  

Abra- PHOTOS!  Can't wait to see it!  What an adventure.  How does your oldest child feel about the change?  Excited?  

 

Katie- Jealous.  That is all.

Becky- Dylan sits up and is kind of just supported by his largeness haha.  He topples easily.  He's just a few days younger than Levi.  I try to give him lots of sitting "practice" but he just wants to crawl and pull up on things.  

 

I forgot how exhausting it is to chase a crawling baby all day.  He's always headed toward things he can't have (older brother's stuff that he can't have, like paper books (he chews them) or tiny toys) and I am vacuuming constantly because, as you all know, everything goes in the mouth!  Anyone wanna trade a less active baby for my crazy child?!  orngtongue.gif

 

Also- Katie, step away from the birth stories and belly photos!  Those will do it, no matter how much you know you aren't ready for another!   I get the fever here and there, but I know we are done.  Biology, man.  It's hard having ovaries.  Haha!

 

AFM:  we are doing well here.  After being gluten-free for a month and a half, I finally figured out that Dylan's intestinal issues were due to oversupply.  I had been pumping to donate, which kept my supply way up, so over the last two weeks I have been block feeding and my supply is finally leveling out.  His tummy issues are almost completely gone now!  It got progressively worse for him to the point where he was having abdominal cramping, diarrhea, and blood in his stool :-(  My doc was no help (going to a new pediatrician now!) and I had to figure it all out on my own.  Sigh.  At least we found the cause/solution.  I'm easing back into gluten because it does seem to give him gas.  Anyone else's baby have painful gas?  His really bugs him in the middle of the night.  We're not getting much sleep around here.  Oye vey.

 

Dylan isn't interested in food, still.  Which is fine, I suppose.  I'll give him something here or there because he likes to play with it but if it goes in his mouth he is totally repulsed.  He has ingested a few bits of cucumber and carrot, though.  
 

 

How is everyone else doing?  It's been pretty slow around here.  COME BACK, LADIES!  

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OMG Katie, YES!!! I am having baby fever too, and I am definitely not ready for another one for a while still. It's like a craving that won't quit. Ugh! I've been ovulating again and now my hormones are back in full force making me feel like a crazy person about babies, babies, BABIES. I'll sit here totally overwhelmed looking at Sora, but then the thought will still pop into my head of how great another one would be?! What is wrong with me?! Thank goodness my DH is the most careful guy on the planet and will not let us get pregnant before we've thought it through. If he were like me, we'd have 10 kids by now. bigeyes.gif Okay we've only been together for 6 years, but you get the picture... haha!

 

Sora sits up on her own and bounces like she's on a trampoline no matter where she's sitting. It's the cutest thing ever. We have dedicated playtimes on the bed every morning and evening now because she just loves bouncing on there and getting momentum going. She doesn't have much of an interest in crawling yet, though. I can get her to hold herself up if I place her on her hands and knees, but then she collapses after a little bit. I'm okay with that. I'm both eager for and dreading the crawling stage... We wonder if she'll skip it altogether and go straight to walking. She can hold herself up standing in front of things. We shall see!

 

Becky - I think some milestones have to do with our individual babies' interest in certain movements in a lot of ways. Sora has always disliked being on her belly, so even though she has strengthened her muscles in other ways, she still isn't going to make much progress in learning to crawl if she doesn't try it more often. When it came to sitting up, it took a week's time for her to get used to it once I started helping her practice. Then she loved it and took off. She was still wobbly for a few weeks but is very strong now and figured out how to touch her hands to the ground to prevent herself from toppling over. I think sitting up in her highchair helped a lot? I would sit her down there many times a day while I worked in the kitchen and she'd play with toys while sitting upright. Has Levi gotten a lot of practice sitting up? I spent so much time with Sora on it that I know I wouldn't have time for if I had other children to tend to...

post #269 of 291

Being swaddled during sleep wouldn't have anything to do with it, would it? I let him have lots of tummy time while I'm cleaning and stuff and he'll sit up perfectly if he's holding one of my hands.

post #270 of 291
Joanie, Wanting to move babies get fussy. Shay is just starting to come out of his screaming phase.

Becky, does he sit any better without a diaper? Shay just started sitting himself up a couple of weeks ago and he is older than Levi. He got much more stable once he could sit himself up. He even does it in his sleep, it's funny. My DD couldn't sit in a cloth diaper until 7~ months.

Abra, traveling sounds fun, I'm excited to see pictures.

Katie, LOL, no baby fever over here. We are up to our eyeballs in babies.

J, I'm glad you figured out his problem. Shay had really bad gas when I reintroduced gluten, too. It went away after a few days.

We have been to the pool daily this week. The kids are in heaven, Shay doesn't like the noise/crowd and Soren sleeps right through it all.
post #271 of 291

Nope, no baby fever yet.  My af hasn't come back yet, so that probably has something to do with it.. Plus, I'm tired and generally feel like I want to sleep for a year before considering any more kids.  ;)

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Originally Posted by MrsKatie View Post

Oh and... Anyone else having crazy baby fever?  I know, I know.  I already HAVE a baby.  I'm not planning on getting pregnant any time soon.  I swear.  But I'm constantly looking at belly photos in other DDCs, reading birth stories, etc... it's kind of intense.

 


I really don't think that swaddling has anything to do with sitting.  Olivine was swaddled tight for all naps and night-time until 7mo, but she was sitting by 4mo.   Cyan on other hand didn't sit until at least 7mo.  I'm sure Levi is fine, they are just all on their own timeline.

 

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Originally Posted by Becky Wheeler View Post

Hey, guys. Quick question: Levi is 6 1/2 months old and still isn't sitting up by himself for more than a couple seconds. And even then, he's not sitting up straight, he leans over. Is this okay? I'm looking at everyone else's babies and they are all sitting up perfectly and stable. confused.gif

 

 

Here is a link to the Craigslist ad for the bus we're going to buy.  It all goes well, we're picking it up tomorrow!

 

http://oregoncoast.craigslist.org/rvs/2975352240.html

post #272 of 291

Omg Abra, I'm super jealous. That bus is AWESOME. DH and I have been toying with the idea of selling everything and buying an rv and traveling. Is it sad that my concerns are hand-washing dishes??? lol.gif

post #273 of 291
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Becky, does he sit any better without a diaper? Shay just started sitting himself up a couple of weeks ago and he is older than Levi. He got much more stable once he could sit himself up. He even does it in his sleep, it's funny. My DD couldn't sit in a cloth diaper until 7~ months.
 

He does sit better without one, but not much.

post #274 of 291

You should do it and caravan with us!  :)

 

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Omg Abra, I'm super jealous. That bus is AWESOME. DH and I have been toying with the idea of selling everything and buying an rv and traveling. Is it sad that my concerns are hand-washing dishes??? lol.gif

post #275 of 291
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You should do it and caravan with us!  :)

 

 

I would love nothing more!!! joy.gif

post #276 of 291

THAT is one amazing vehicle, Abra! Who's gonna take care of your goats? lol

post #277 of 291

I'm having Mom blues right now. I feel like, "... Why do I even have a son?" NOT saying that I don't want him, because God knows I do... It's just, unfair to him.

 

This has been my past 3 days:

 

Tuesday: Class, gone 8-11. Work, gone 3-10. I saw Conner from 11-2, but he slept 11-1.

Wednesday: Class, gone 8-130. Work, gone 3-10. I saw Conner from 130-2.

Today: Class, gone 8-130. Work, gone 3-10. I saw Conner from 130-2.

 

It's not fair. It just isn't fair. I feel like such a failure at life. And with as little as I've seen Conner, I've seen my husband about the same. I know babies don't "remember" this time in their life, but I really do disagree. Conner reaches for my mother-in-law (His babysitter) more than he reaches for me. He smiles and laughs at her more than he does me. I feel like he knows HER more than he knows ME. It makes me feel like a complete and total piece of shit.

 

And for all of you SAHM, how do you guys afford it? Really. Like, really, really. How do you survive on one income? My DH doesn't have a BAD job, by any means, but he's also not rolling in the dough. He makes about $50,000. And while I KNOW that is an affordable lifestyle, I haven't figured out how to make US afford it.

post #278 of 291
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Originally Posted by CDsMom1031 View Post

I'm having Mom blues right now. I feel like, "... Why do I even have a son?" NOT saying that I don't want him, because God knows I do... It's just, unfair to him.

 

This has been my past 3 days:

 

Tuesday: Class, gone 8-11. Work, gone 3-10. I saw Conner from 11-2, but he slept 11-1.

Wednesday: Class, gone 8-130. Work, gone 3-10. I saw Conner from 130-2.

Today: Class, gone 8-130. Work, gone 3-10. I saw Conner from 130-2.

 

It's not fair. It just isn't fair. I feel like such a failure at life. And with as little as I've seen Conner, I've seen my husband about the same. I know babies don't "remember" this time in their life, but I really do disagree. Conner reaches for my mother-in-law (His babysitter) more than he reaches for me. He smiles and laughs at her more than he does me. I feel like he knows HER more than he knows ME. It makes me feel like a complete and total piece of shit.

 

And for all of you SAHM, how do you guys afford it? Really. Like, really, really. How do you survive on one income? My DH doesn't have a BAD job, by any means, but he's also not rolling in the dough. He makes about $50,000. And while I KNOW that is an affordable lifestyle, I haven't figured out how to make US afford it.

 

Your not a bad Mom.  Your doing what you need to do!

 

When I started staying home we made $30,000 a year.  That was 6 years ago, and DH has graduated since and gotten a better job- BUT there were some key things we did to survive on one income during that time:  Necessities only.  No meals out.  No 6 pack for Saturday.  No credit cards. Just be frugal, pay off everything you can and just make it an extra point to NOT live outside your means.  Cant afford gas to drive to the store?  Walk.  It happens.  We loved to party and go out before I quit working.  It was a huge adjustment, but we made it work.  Of course that will not work for everybody, but it worked for us...and it was worth every time I could not go out with friends, and every year I drove a 1982 Nissan Pulsar that smelled like death.  Haha. 

 

That said, I can laugh at it now but it was hard at the time.  But I would not trade it.

post #279 of 291

Nicole- we survive on significantly less than 50k.  Pretty easily, too.   And this is the west coast, where things are way more expensive than the midwest.   Without knowing what your budget looks like, it is hard to say where to cut back.  There are 4 of us and a dog, and we just know that we can't spend a ton of money on shopping, toys/gadgets, etc.  We budget a lot for food, but that is our favorite thing to do- eat good food!  :-)  We are careful with our resources (i.e. gasoline, electricity) so those bills aren't out of control.  We are just really mindful of where our money is going.  

We are also paying off debt from school.  We pay a SIGNIFICANT portion of our monthly income toward debt.  We hope to be debt-free in 3 years or less.  

 

Would it be possible to stop working for a year or two, until you are finished with school?

post #280 of 291

We are going to sell most of our stuff, the goats included.  A nice lady came by today and bought them.  Hopefully we'll get new animals again when we find a place to settle down. 

 

 

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THAT is one amazing vehicle, Abra! Who's gonna take care of your goats? lol

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